Can you be a good mum and also be a successful business woman? That’s the topic I explore in this week’s Web TV episode.

Between you and me, this has been my greatest mental hurdle in business (logic and emotions sometimes just don’t agree). I have some great tips for you if this is a challenge you have as well.

Thanks for Zara Game from http://www.facebook.com/yourcureinyourhands who asked the question “What are my 3 biggest mindset blocks or challenges?” (watch out for video 3 in my response).

Cheers,

Janet

P.S. If you can relate to this mindset block, you are not alone. You may find the 1 page action plans and free training for the 4 stages of entrepreneurs really helpful. www.thequadrantquiz.com

 

Transcript

 

Hello and welcome, Janet Beckers here with your Wonderful Web TV tip of the week. And today I’m answering part 2 of the question from one of the members of our community. Zara Game asked the question, what are the 3 biggest mindset blocks or challenges that I’ve had to overcome and what did I do to overcome them. Really good question.

Now if you can look out for the last video where I shared how I overcame the blockage that is wrong to charge for helping people, take a look at that one.

The second one is such a powerful one for me. In fact, I didn’t even recognize for years that this one was a huge block that I had. I noticed something about my behavior that when I would start to get successful, when things really started to roll I would sabotage, I would draw back the energy on what it was that I was doing and kinda bunk it down a little bit.

I was so sabotaged, I was stopping success. And I was aware that I was doing but I couldn’t work out why I was doing this until one day somebody asked me a question and it really hit me in the gut. I didn’t even recognize beforehand that it is the thing that was going through my head. The question that they asked me was “Are you finding that as you become more successful that you have to find less time with your children and that you have to neglect them a little bit?” That just hit me physically.

And that made me realize this was the thing that was holding me back. I had limiting belief that you cannot be a successful business woman and be a good mother. For me it was one or the other. And I tell you what, it’s absolute rocks. You can be in fact becoming a successful business woman gives you the opportunity to be so much more with your children if you’re creating your business in the right way.

So how did I overcome this?

Well I figured that if I can see that I’ve got a problem and I’ve got this limiting belief I have to first of all see “you know what I’ve got to research this and see the evidence, is there evidence for or against?”

So I though “Okay I’m going to have a look at a typical week and how does it break up in terms of time that I spend on my business, time I spend with my family, with myself and time that I’m actually spending with my children.”

I’ve got a calendar and I worked out blocks of time that I’m with my children, when I’m working… I color coded it. And when I looked at this here, I saw I had made the children all yellow, there was so much yellow on my calendar. In fact, my business was being neglected because I was being present with my children so much. So that was a real eye opener for me that really I think just get rid of the guilt and so when I’m working I’m just going to work and when I’m with my children,