Respected & Connected: Create a More Intimate, Collaborative Relationship

23. If you're going to assume...


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What happens when a tiny disagreement or misunderstanding turns into a huge fight? Usually, at least one of you is assuming the worst of the other. It’s easy for this to happen in our close relationships because our history is long and deep.

If you assume negative intent, your focus is on fixing the person instead of the problem. There is a victim/villain story playing out and the best you can get is a win/lose outcome. If however, you assume positive intent you can focus on fixing the problem instead of the person, and your chances of creating a win/win outcome are maximized.

In this episode, Sharon shares 5 tips for breaking the habit of assuming negative intent:

  1. Remind yourself what it feels like to be criticized when you’re doing your best
  2. Ask rather than assume
  3. Learn how to filter facts from interpretations
  4. Create opportunities for no-agenda connection
  5. Be patient as you create new relationship dynamics

Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-23

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