In this episode of Being Different Together, Kelly and Nyssa continue their intentionality mini-series by unpacking two classic Murray Landsman sayings: "You're already ready" and "Trying is not doing it." 

They explore how these deceptively simple phrases cut through resistance, perfectionism, and the “I don’t feel like it” mindset, especially around creative work, meditation, relationships, and everyday tasks like decluttering and home projects. Through stories about writing, inner critics, therapy, and the “great stuff shuffle,” they show how willingness, imperfect action, and giving yourself permission to be a beginner can transform how you show up for the things that matter. 

If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting to feel ready, told yourself you’re “trying” but not actually moving forward, or struggled with following your bliss without becoming self‑indulgent, this conversation will help you take compassionate, grounded action right where you are.

Main Topics Covered:

• How the sayings “You’re already ready” and “Trying is not doing it” can bust through resistance and procrastination
• The sneaky ways “I don’t feel like it” and “I’m not ready yet” block our goals (and what we’re really afraid of)
• Why following your bliss 24/7 can turn into hedonism—and how to stay intentional without being self‑indulgent
• The “great stuff shuffle” and what decluttering during a home renovation reveals about readiness and attachment
• How inner critics overprotect us like an overactive immune system—and how to lovingly turn down their volume
• Why it’s often easier to talk than to write about big ideas, and how writers can tolerate imperfect first drafts
• The difference between wanting to do something and being willing to do it (especially for unglamorous tasks)
• What therapy clients, creative practices, and meditation have in common when it comes to actually doing the work
• How giving yourself permission to be a beginner changes your relationship with learning, risk, and “getting it right”

Links:

• Episode #16 - Intentionality, Part 1: Everything You’ve Done Prepared You For This Moment
• Episode #17 - Intentionality, Part 2: Feeling Good Needs No Excuse
• Episode #18 - Intentionality, Part 3: If You Think You Can Change the World, You Have a Better Chance
• Episode #19 - Intentionality, Part 4: Your Reality is as Good as Anyone Else’s
• Episode #20 - Intentionality, Part 5: It’s Useful to View the Past in a Friendly Way
• Episode #21 - Intentionality, Part 6: There’s More Than Two Ways to Skin a Cat
• Episode #22 - Intentionality, Part 7: Take the Hard Things Easy

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