Dating Déjà vu

23 | Perfect Compatibility Doesn’t Exist: Here’s What Does!

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Is “perfect compatibility” keeping you single? In this episode, Christina dives into the myth of the "perfect partner" and why chasing a fantasy version of love may be sabotaging your chances of real connection.

Christina shares personal stories, client examples, and professional insight to help you shift your mindset from unrealistic expectations to meaningful compatibility. Whether you're hypercritical on dating apps or constantly mistaking chemistry for chaos, this episode will help you reframe how you date and who you’re really looking for.


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Timestamps:

  • 00:00 Intro

  • 01:20 The fantasy of perfect compatibility

  • 02:14 Codependency and filling emotional voids

  • 03:51 Rom-coms, social media, and curated perfection

  • 04:51 Real relationships require effort and repair

  • 05:49 How differences can create connection

  • 06:47 Love bombing and predators who prey on fantasy

  • 07:56 The problem with rigid non-negotiables

  • 09:06 Performing perfection to gain love

  • 10:52 Emotional safety and how it shows up

  • 12:27 Compatibility is built, not found

  • 13:14 Being too critical when swiping

  • 14:32 Confusing chemistry with anxiety

  • 15:41 What to look for instead: Values, maturity, communication

  • 17:39 Journal prompts to shift your mindset

  • 18:47 Final thoughts and coaching info

  • 19:22 Outro

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