238 - The Power of Pause: Gaining Clarity in Emotional Moments

In this episode, we explore why it’s so difficult to see clearly when we’re in the midst of life’s challenges. Whether it’s a career issue, relationship conflict, or emotional setback, the pressure of the moment often clouds our judgment. I break down how our brains fill in gaps with fear-based stories and share strategies to pause, reflect, and gain better perspective before making big decisions.

Why We Can’t See Clearly in the Moment
When life is overwhelming, our brains tend to create distorted narratives to fill in missing information. I share why these stories can mislead us and how they often come from a place of fear.

Cognitive Distortions and Mental Shortcuts
Learn about the mental traps we fall into—like catastrophizing or mind-reading—and how they can lead us to the wrong conclusions about people or events.

The Viktor Frankl Pause
Between a triggering event and our reaction, there’s a pause. And that’s where our power lies. I explore how using this space wisely can shift everything.

Making Micro-Decisions in a VUCA World
Life is uncertain, and acting too quickly can backfire. I talk about making the smallest decision possible in moments of stress so you can gather more information first.

Takeaways:
In the middle of tough times, it’s okay not to know what to do. The key is to slow down, ask better questions, and create space for clarity. Whether it’s journaling, talking to someone you trust, or writing a future-self letter, these practices help you reframe and reset. You’re not failing because you don’t have the answers—you’re just in the fog. And with patience, the path will become clear again.

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