The Impossible Life

239. When Nice Guys Make Weak Men: The Truth About Kindness


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Our culture says kindness is about being nice, agreeable, and making people feel good. But what if that definition is actually making men weak? In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Nick and Garrett tackle the misunderstood fruit of the Spirit—kindness.

They dive into the original Greek meaning of the word, chrestotes, which points to being useful, beneficial, and fit for service. Real kindness isn’t about avoiding hard truths—it’s about speaking life, giving what’s needed (not just what feels good), and helping people grow even when it stings.

From mountain hikes and brotherly banter to biblical examples like Jesus and the rich young ruler, this conversation will challenge your view of kindness and equip you to live it out God’s way. What you’ll learn in this episode:
  • Why cultural kindness is about feelings but biblical kindness is about purpose.
  • How to discern when telling hard truth is real love.
  • Why being “liked” is a poor substitute for being useful.
  • Practical ways men can embody Spirit-led kindness in their homes, friendships, and leadership.


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