In this episode of "Lessons I Didn't Expect to Learn", Anna explores how reframing disappointment as information rather than a personal failure can be deeply freeing—especially for people pleasers. By recognizing that many disappointments reflect others' capacities, fears, and seasons (not our worth), we can release self-blame, soften resentment, and respond with more clarity, peace, and self-compassion.

Key Points:

• Disappointment isn't personal; it's information
• We often over-own disappointments that aren't ours
• Many disappointments reflect others' stress, fear, and limits
• Shifting perspective reduces shame and self-criticism
• Disappointment can reveal capacity and alignment in relationships
• People pleasers tend to internalize others' dissatisfaction
• You can't be everything for everyone
• Some disappointments are your responsibility—and you can own them
• Others' reactions are not a verdict on your worth
• Ask: "What is this situation showing me?" (no story attached)
• Clarity brings peace and reduces self-blame
• Viewing disappointment as data supports self-love and compassion

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