June 08, 2024

#249 Embracing Authenticity: Ann Leary on Leaving the Nice Club and Finding Your Voice

36 minutes

"There is throughout this theme of reaching a certain age and feeling like I'm entitled to the ground I'm standing on, at least," says New York Times bestselling author Ann Leary "Sometimes just being overly nice isn't authentic." CoveyClub founder Lesley Jane Seymour sits down with the writer to discuss her latest essay collection, "I've Tried Being Nice." Leary shares her personal journey of reinvention, her writing process, and the humorous yet poignant moments that inspired her new essay collection. Perfect for anyone navigating midlife changes, Leary’s stories resonate deeply, especially with women over 50. She discusses her childhood of frequent moves, which shaped her observational skills and writing talent, and offers invaluable tips like writing authentically as if to a best friend. Highlighting the episode is Leary’s candid talk about overcoming lifelong people-pleasing, finding her voice, and the empowerment found in her essay "I've Tried Being Nice." For aspiring writers, Leary’s practical advice includes starting the writing day early and maintaining flow. This episode is a must-listen for its blend of inspiration, humor, and practical advice.

Time Stamps:

02:25: Ann Leary talks about her new book

06:18: What inspired you to go back to memoir after having written several novels?

10:15: How does moving play into being an observer and being a writer?

14:26: When did you decide that you were going to take your writing seriously?

18:45: Do you write every day or do you have a process?

23:34: Do you share your work with anybody while you're working on it?

25:28: Leaving the people pleaser club

28:30: The freedom of midlife

Key Points:

Ann Leary's essay collection, I've Tried Being Nice, is a must-read for midlife women, filled with humor and relatable insights.

Frequent moves during childhood helped Ann develop her observational skills, crucial for her writing.

Writing should feel like a conversation with a friend who gets you, making it more authentic and engaging.

Ann shares her struggle with being a lifelong people pleaser and the liberation that comes with age.

Having a supportive writing community is essential for feedback and encouragement.

Links and Resources:

Visit Ann Leary's Website for more information and upcoming events.

Order I've Tried Being Nice on Amazon or wherever books are sold.

Follow Ann Leary on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

If you found this episode inspiring, please follow the podcast and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. For more resources and community support, join us at CoveyClub.com. Until next time, keep reinventing!

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