Can you truly be friends with a previous partner? This is a question we’ve explored previously on the blog and on the podcast. But what readers and listeners might not be aware of is that All We Cannot Say is inspired by an honest conversation between two exes who achieved what many set out to do, but fail: friendship without borders. Board game designer Peter C. Hayward  and artist Honour Eastly (otherwise known as SJ) co-host Being Honest With My Ex, a podcast that explores what happens when two former partners heal their respective heartaches, and become the best of friends without agenda. It’s an authentic exploration of the dynamic between two previous lovers who’ve transformed romantic love into hatred, and then into platonic love for all the world to witness and enjoy. If you enjoy candour, black humour and unabashed honesty, it's a real treat for your ears. In this latest episode from All We Cannot Say , Peter joins us to discuss the creative process behind Being Honest with My Ex, his thoughts on jealousy, and why exes can be the best of friends.

In this episode, we answer the question 'Can You Be Friends With Your Ex?'

We also talk about:

How do you start a podcast with your ex?

The beginning of Being honest With My Ex

Harmon Town

The cathartic experience of airing your dirty laundry publicly

The logistics of recording with a former partner in a different country

The emotional and energetic labour involved in creating your own podcast

Personal growth via creating audio material

Anne Hunter on Episode 3: Ethical Non-Monogamy

Why listening to yourself argue is a great exercise in introspection and personal development

How to resolve an argument you’ve started or made worse

Can you really be friends with your ex?

Why your ego is your worst enemy

How to deal with jealousy if your partner is still friends with their ex

Big Fish the movie

Gender identity

How to navigate pronouns in a gender-centric world

The joys and setbacks of living within your own progressive bubble

The emotional and intellectual benefits of surrounding yourself with adversaries

How to build mental muscles for emotional and intellectual strength

The emotional challenges in personal reconciliation

Sleep and it's importance for the creative process

Gimlet Media

So This Is Love and creative partnerships with your life partner

Private romance as public performance

Is there such a thing as a soul mate?

Starving Artist Podcast and how to make money from creative endeavours

Does the microphone make you more authentic?

Schrodinger’s Cat

Want to explore Peter's other podcasts? Subscribe to Being Honest With My ExListen to So This Is Love (currently on hiatus)

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