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Rosie Rees is a sex toy entrepreneur, taboo trail-blazer and social media button-pusher. She is the creator of Yoni Pleasure Palace, founder of the Women's Nude Yoga and one of Australia's leading Sex & Relationship Coaches.

Rosie believes that getting naked - both physically and non-physically - is the key to self acceptance, healing body image and creating lasting relationships.

Based in Perth, Western Australia, Rosie also normalises same-sex families and advocates early-childhood sex education to break the stigma.

In this episode we talk about:

 

Self development during COVID-19

Yoni Pleasure Palace

Rosie’s journey to becoming a sex and relationship coach

Bali and sexual awakenings

Bali is the sacral chakra of the earth

Crystal sex toys

Which crystal dildo is right for you?

Pelvic floor helath

Why yoni eggs?

What happens when we’re disconnected from our yonis?

Are crystals body safe?

Natural antibacterial goods in your pantry 

Orgasmic energy and manifestation

Naked Yoga

Breast massage and developing a loving relationship with your breasts

What is breast implant illness?

The Naked Philanthropist

 

 

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Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power. And this applies particularly so to the erotic art of BDSM, an ancient realm of knowledge from which the feminine archetype of the dominatrix is born. Otherwise known as a domme, she enjoys taking control and how to wield her psycho-sexual power.

In this episode, we talk to Papaya Day Truly, a modern domme based in Hawaii.

Papaya Day Truly offers digital domination (or virtual domination) to men who want to improve the quality of their lives and communities.

A self described Creative Domme, Cinematic Healer and Living Goddess, Truly seeks to evoke the divinity within the male collective, celebrate the innate playful creativity within humanity and restore the balance of masculine and feminine energy .

She works privately and 1:1 with clients, only accepting 3 at a year. 

 

In this episode we talk about:

My hot take on COVID-19 and community care

Changing your name and identity

Chakra Girl Business School

Professionally and personally pivoting

Working through sexual trauma

Virtual domination 

Fet Life

Shadow work

Death as a motivator

The chakras

Throat chakras and speaking your truth 

Sexuality and creativity 

Cindy Sherman

What does a domme actually do?

Negotiating consent within power structures

Navigating power structures as a WOC

Street harassment

Anne O’Nomis 

Bdsm-test.org

How to approach a domme as a sub

Why you need to support your local sex shop

Ev'yan Whitney 

Sensual selfies

 

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Have you ever wondered what the most common symptoms of an STI are? Or what the difference between an STI or an STD is? Or where to get properly tested for an STI? In this episode we’re speaking with Jenelle Pierce of the STI Project, a non-profit organisation that seeks to prevent modern-day STIs and to break down STI stigma.

Jenelle contracted herpes when she was 16-years-old, and in 2012, quit her job as an accountant to fulfil her purpose full-time.

 

Jenelle Marie Pierce (she/her) is the Executive Director of The STI Project: Breaking the Stigma® and its child sites; the Founder of the herpes activists network, HANDS; the Spokesperson for Positive Singles; and a Tri-Chair of the Communications Action Group at the National Coalition for Sexual Health (NCSH). As an STI+ Sexual Health Educator and content creator, Jenelle has been dismantling stigma by reclaiming STI narratives® through awareness, education, and acceptance since 2012.

 

 

In this episode we talk about:

STI Awareness month

The difference between VD, STD and STI

Did Zovirax invent herpes stigma?

Is Herpes really that bad?

What’s the difference between herpes simplex 1 and herpes simplex 2?

Can you get herpes simplex 1 on your genitals?

Is there a cure for herpes?

Does herpes medication work?

Can I transmit herpes when my sores aren’t active?

Can you be exposed to herpes and not get it?

How many people have herpes in the US?

The “syphilis epidemic” in Melbourne 

How can you be an ally to your STI + friends?

Why a higher percentage of reported STIs can actually be a GOOD THING

How stigma is created

There’s no such thing as “safe” sex, just “safer” sex.

The World Health Organisation

The three categories of STIs

How to tell someone you’re dating that you have an STI

 

TheSTIProject.com

HANDS 

PositiveSingles.com

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Find Jenelle on LinkedIn

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Follow The STI Project on Pinterest

 

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Eleanor Hadley is on a mission to redefine sensuality and what it means to be a sensual being. The creator of Sensual Yoga, she’s also an ex pole dance instructor/studio owner, and has a background in community development. She combines her passion for movement, sensuality, femininity, self love and healing to help others feel more connected, powerful and whole.

 

The story behind Sensual Yoga

Transformations after a break up

Exploring an integrative approach to sexual wellness

Colonic irrigations for BV

How to embody sensuality, even if you hate looking in the mirror

Yoga and masculine energy

Reclaiming your sensuality

This difference between being sexy and sensual

What does it mean to step in to your feminine energy?

The balance of feminine and masculine energy

Channelling presence in a busy world

Flow state versus go state

Instagram censorship

FOSTA/SESTA

The Naked Philanthropist raises 1m for Australian Bush Fires

Is feminism compatible with loving men?

Eleanour’s Blog

Masculine Feminism

 

 

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Kaycee Polite is a licensed sex therapist and social worker from Texas with an infectious enthusiasm for pleasure and sexual health. She’s been sharing this passion with her clients for over 18 years, always pushing the agenda of experiencing pleasure, sexual health and the importance of how to communicate sexual needs.  

 

In addition to her work as a sex therapist, she has experience addressing issues of depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, personality disorders, and has spent the past 6 years working in Veterans Administrations.

 

In this episode we talk about:

How to incorporate pleasure in to your everyday

Military sexual trauma

ED in veterans

PTSD and sexual functioning

Ageism and sexuality

How to talk to your parents about sex

Sex Education season 2

Asexuality versus sexual dysfunction

How to reignite desire with Kaycee Polite

Why you shouldn’t get dressed in the same room

Why people cheat in long term relationships

Age and testosterone production

The effect of stress on your libido

Should your partner come to therapy with you?

Healthy examples of sexuality

Sexual rights for those with disabilities

 

 

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Gigi Engle is back for the season five launch of All We Cannot Say.

Sexologist and now a published author, Gigi is a writer and sex-positive professional who preaches confidence, feminism and unabashed pleasure-seeking. She’s no Carrie Bradshaw – she’s authentic, unfiltered and 100% funnier.

 

In today’s episode, we talk about:

 

Being a freelance writer and moving from New York to Chicago to London

Her journey from journalist to certified sexologist and sex educator

Taylor Swift’s eggs

Stefan Molyneux

Red flags in a relationship

Green flags in a relationship

Has feminism gone too far?

Fake rape allegations - https://theconversation.com/four-in-ten-australians-think-women-lie-about-being-victims-of-sexual-assault-107363

NSW bushfires

Scott Morrisson’s stance on climate change

The Paris Agreements

Dating someone who supporting your political beliefs

Marriage and feminism

Bisexual dating

The sunk-cost benefit of relationships

Our mutual adoration of British men

Political correctness in the sexology industry

Call out culture

Inclusive language

Paying for your porn

 

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With a litany of erotic accoutrements to pique our fascination and adventurous side, we're spoiled for choice now more than ever. But what if the best sex toys of all were simple, accessible, and made ethically? It's a question Ffion set out to answer 5 years ago when she launched Fine Bone. The goal? To create the perfect porcelain dildo for everyone with a vagina. After sampling several prototypes and asking friends to test-drive each, Prudence was born – a body safe, porcelain dildo that looks strangely like a kitchen utensil.

Since spending the past 15 months in Berlin accelerating her business, Ffion is back in London and ready to show Prudence to the world.

In this episode, we talk about:

Is London or Berlin the best place for sexual liberation?

The most body-safe materials for your sex toys

Are ceramic sex toys safe for your body?

The best shapes for dildos

Hot and cold tips for temperature play with Prudence

How to introduce sex toys to the bedroom

Why are dildos not shaped like a penis?

Why unrealistic beauty standards in the sex industry make us scared to explore our sexuality

The rise of the FUN sex toy company

Sex is normal, not NAUGHTY

Are sex toys becoming elitist?

The rise of the ethical sex toy company

What is FOSTA?

UK sex worker laws

Australian sex workers laws

What is decriminalisation?

Is is illegal to solicit sex work in the UK?

Sex work and stigma

Episode 17 with Estelle Lucas

Berlin and sex worker laws, and compulsory registration

 

Want to get your hands on PRUDENCE?

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Aside from filling my brain with audio material to expand my love and sex life, books are my favourite source of knowledge. So in this solo episode of All We Cannot Say, I decided to review a handful of books that have impacted my beliefs in the past year.

 

In this episode, I talk about:

 

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Temporarily Yours by Elizabeth Bernstein – a great intro to the politics of modern sex work.

Becoming Wise by Krista Tippett – for well-rounded emotional intelligence.

Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz – an exploration of the orgasm gap and female pleasure.

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron – an ideal bedside companion for life’s trials and tribulations. 

Cheap Sex by Marcus Regnerus – for those who wish to explore alternative and inflammatory viewpoints.

 

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We’re often taught that listening is the key to a meaningful, expansive conversation. But I’d like to extend our emotional skillset further – empathy is the key to connection and richer relationships. Yet isn’t empathy something that’s we’re intrinsically inclined to do? Aren't we taught how to show empathy through lived experience? Not necessarily so. In fact, empathy is a skill that must be mastered and cultivated, much like learning an instrument. This is where Kate Kenfield’s work becomes essential. She’s a sex and relationships educator who works with people of a wide variety of vocations and experiences, empowering them to enhance the way they relate, listen understand and love.

In this episode, we talk about how to show empathy and:

What is a sex educator? Who can call themselves a sex educator?

How to discern authority, expertise and integrity in the sex ed world

How to tell personal stories to connect and empower

Why is giving advice so harmful?

Advice versus empathy

Do men give more unsolicited advice than women?

How to enhance your emotional vocabulary

Donnie Darko

The problem of voicing empathy

The art of fake empathy

Gender inequity and emotional labour

Alex White and the Man Lab

The Girl Who Cried Pain

Why do undergrad medical students lose their empathy?

The 2 different tiers of self care: relaxation/indulgence and reflective practices

Sustainable self care practices

How to show empathy without burning out

The Empathy Exams

Morgellons disease (Google at your own peril!)

FOSTA/SESTA and emotional contagion

Empathic contagion versus empathic concern

The Potato Metaphor 

The Power of Nice

The 48 Laws of Power

 

The Feelings Cards will help expand your emotional vocabulary.

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Tantra is an ancient art that conjures up a whole range of descriptions.

And as an ancient art, for some its application and meaning is not so easy to grasp.

So what is Tantra?

After 2 years of debating whether I was ready to explore Tantra on this podcast, Sarrah Rose reached out to me on Instagram. With an accessible approach to the esoteric practice, Sarrah Rose makes Tantra easy for the rest of us (but by no means less powerful).

 Confused about Tantra? Here’s a definition that you’ll actually understand.

 

In this episode, we talk about:

Eurydice Dixon: how one woman’s death put focus on ‘male rage’ in Australia

What is Tantra? Hint: it’s not the Kama Sutra.

Yogic Tantra, Tibetan Tantra, Doaist Tantra and Egyptian Tantra - what’ the difference?

What is western Tantra?

The different sects of Tantra

How Tantra helps us explore our shadow selves

What is a Jade egg?

Semen retention

Sexual energy as creative energy

How to heal sexual trauma through Tantra

What is generational trauma, and how does it affect your life NOW

What is somatic experiencing?

Who is Tantra for? Couples? Singles?

The different types of orgasms

How to cultivate deep connections during a casual sex encounter

Can you/should you persuade your partner to practice Tantra with you?

Science versus religion and spirituality. Can we have both?

How to use Tantra to neutralise anger

How to regulate your emotions using Tantra

Tantric relationships

The must-read books you need to start your Tantric journey

Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

The link between your jaw and your orgasmic potential

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