Setting boundaries and practicing self-care are hard things to do – especially during the holiday season. But finding a clear sense of our actual capacity and remembering to check in with our body’s needs are important skills the whole year round.

In this great conversation with personal development coach Jenny Tryansky, we explore the necessity of being a “rested self" and delve into the complexities of energy management, rest, and self-regulation, particularly in the context of family dynamics during the holidays.

It’s a lovely reminder to all of us that we have permission to take care of ourselves, to step away from the conversations that stress us the fuck out, and to check in with what we need in order to show up well.

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References, Resources, and Links

Karen Brody (Jenny’s rest mentor) and her Daring to Rest program: https://daringtorest.com/

The podcast episode where Jenny interviews Karen: “Motherline Exhaustion” – https://daringtorest.com/podcast/59

My previous episode about protecting your energy: “#08 | Recharging Your Batteries” – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/05/23/podcast-recharging-your-batteries/

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith TEDx on the seven types of rest: “The real reason why we are tired and what to do about it” – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGNN4EPJzGk

My two-part series on befriending our nervous system with Marjorie Schreurs (episodes #20 & #21) – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/10/10/befriending-your-nervous-system-1-activation/

Sarri Gillman’s TEDx: "Good Boundaries Free You" – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtsHUeKnkC8&t=433s