Mum Means Business

25: Feeling Safe to Stop People-Pleasing and Be Yourself with Charlotte Bailey


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brings honesty and hope to conversations about healing, self-worth and authenticity. Her work centres on supporting women who, as little girls, were made to feel they were too much and who grew up believing they were never enough.

Charlotte knows this story personally. After years of hiding parts of herself to feel worthy, she began addressing the roots of those patterns and found freedom, safety and self-acceptance. Now, she’s deeply committed to helping women - and the little girls watching them - feel safe to be seen, heard and fully themselves.

By exploring people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-sabotage and visibility struggles, Charlotte reminds us that authenticity isn’t about performing confidence. It’s about feeling safe enough to be who we really are.

In this deeply moving and reflective conversation, we explore:

✨ The roots of people-pleasing and where these behaviours really come from
✨ How perfectionism and anxiety often develop as protective strategies
✨ Why we are not our behaviours — and never were
✨ The role of therapy in healing self-worth and identity wounds
✨ How motherhood can accelerate personal growth and emotional awareness
✨ The power of poetry and creative expression in processing and healing

Charlotte also shares a spoken word piece that captures the emotional heart of this episode — a moment that stayed with me long after we stopped recording.

About Charlotte Bailey:

Charlotte Bailey is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker and writer who supports women to reconnect with their authentic selves. Through therapy, mentoring, spoken word and her podcast Let’s Talk People Pleasing, Charlotte helps women understand the origins of people-pleasing, perfectionism and self-abandonment.

Her work is rooted in helping women feel safe to be seen, heard and expressed - not only for themselves, but for the children who are watching and learning from them. Charlotte believes that healing ourselves is one of the most powerful gifts we can give the next generation.

Visit charlotte-bailey.com, listen to Let’s Talk People Pleasing wherever you get your podcasts, or connect with Charlotte on Instagram @charlotte_bailey_therapies or LinkedIn.

About The Host:

I'm Victoria Phipps – a Mum of two, family photographer, charity co-founder, marketing person and now podcaster! 🎙️

I was raised by a nurturing Mother and an entrepreneurial Father and have inherited traits from both, so the tension between ambition and motherhood is one I grapple with on a daily basis!

I’m fascinated to hear the stories of other women on a similar path, who are striving to build thriving businesses whilst being present for their children. It's a tough juggle, but I hope the conversations shared on this podcast help Mums in business feel less alone and inspired to keep going in pursuit of their dreams.

Head to the Mum Means Business Podcast website for full show notes.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the topics discussed in this conversation, so please do let me know on Instagram where I'm @victoria_phipps or @mummeansbusinesspodcast.

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Mum Means BusinessBy Victoria Phipps