What if your feelings weren’t the boss of you after all? 

Kelly and Nyssa continue their Uncle Murray intentionality series with two deceptively simple slogans: “Whatever it is you feel, remember you don’t have to” and “An opportunity missed is an opportunity missed.” 

They explore emotional regulation, tantrums (child and adult), grief, anxiety spirals, and perfectionism, sharing practices like 90‑second feeling waves, turning emotions into “little monsters” you can send to summer camp, and sending your inner critic on vacation. 

Through stories about hard conversations, spiritual community, starting a podcast years “late,” and the pressure of the American Dream, they offer a compassionate, practical reframe for anyone who overthinks, overfeels, or obsesses about the chances they didn’t take.

Main Topics Covered:

• How to feel big emotions all the way through without getting stuck in them
• The difference between real fear, everyday anxiety, and “concern”
• Turning your emotions into little monsters you can lovingly send to “summer camp”
• Why your inner critic deserves an all‑expenses‑paid vacation (and how to send it)
• How we use feelings—consciously or not—to manipulate, control, or avoid others
• “An opportunity missed is an opportunity missed”: what it doesn’t say and why that matters
• The hidden cost of believing every missed chance will “ruin your life”
• What a spiritual celebration of life taught them about legacy, memory, and being named
• The quiet power of choosing not to send the angry text or chase instant reassurance
• Starting a podcast after years of talking about it—and what imperfect action can unlock

Links:

• Shante Cofield | The Movement Maestro
• Episode #16 - Intentionality, Part 1: Everything You’ve Done Prepared You For This Moment
• Episode #17 - Intentionality, Part 2: Feeling Good Needs No Excuse
• Episode #18 - Intentionality, Part 3: If You Think You Can Change the World, You Have a Better Chance
• Episode #19 - Intentionality, Part 4: Your Reality is as Good as Anyone Else’s
• Episode #20 - Intentionality, Part 5: It’s Useful to View the Past in a Friendly Way
• Episode #21 - Intentionality, Part 6: There’s More Than Two Ways to Skin a Cat
• Episode #22 - Intentionality, Part 7: Take the Hard Things Easy
• Episode #23 - Intentionality, Part 8: You’re Already Ready
• Episode #24 - Intentionality, Part 9: Life is a Joke – Either You Get It or You Don’t
• SONG: Bang Bang by K’naan

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