We've got another special guest episode here; things start off unserious and end somewhere heavy. Tattoo sessions, text threads, British tea vs testosterone—nothing is off limits as we welcome Eva (@birdlets, they/them) to the pod. Together we unpack the covert (and not so covert) harassment that’s become routine in the service industry, the collective instincts women and femmes develop to survive it, and why cis men still miss the cues. We talk about gatekeeping, being “on code,” and what real solidarity could look like if people actually showed up.