July 13, 2021

#29 The Search for the Secure Base (Jeremy Holmes, 2001)

1 hour 8 minutes

This episode we look at Attachment Theory. We dive into: the four attachment styles (Secure, Ambivalent, Avoidant and Disorganised); the six domains of attachment theory; narrative approaches in psychotherapy; the construction of self; achieving an internal secure base; and balancing our needs for intimacy and authenticity.

This is really dense and informative episode. We worked a lot out in real time. It was a challenging read, and a pleasure to discuss.

Hope you enjoy.

Will & Luke

00:00 Introductions

2:00 What the book is about?

4:20 Background on attachment theory (The strange situation) Secure, Ambivalent, Avoidant and Disorganised.

13:50 6 Domains of Attachment Theory (The Secure Base, Protest, Assertiveness and Anger, Exploration and Play, Loss, Internal working models, Reflection Function and Narrative Competence)

21:40 The Adult Attachment Interview

26:55 Attachment and Narrative in Psychotherapy

40:05 Construction of Self (vs Attachments in relationship)

47:30 Trusting oneself and self-compassion

50:55 Need for intimacy and authenticity

54:55 How to achieve internal secure base (with others?) (How change happens)

1:03:20 Final reflections (Nurturing feelings and self-acceptance) (Maintaining narratives)

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