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29. When Emotions Are Your Compass: Using Dr. Hawkins’ Scale to Guide Your Fertility Journey

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If you’re on a fertility path and social media feels like a minefield. If posts, comments, or even something I share recoil in you, this episode is for you.

We dive deep into the idea that those emotional reactions aren’t random or shameful. They’re messages. They’re clues from your body and soul pointing to what is or isn’t aligned. Using Dr. David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness, we explore how emotions live on a spectrum: from shame, fear, and frustration up to acceptance, love, peace, and how you can begin reading your emotions instead of repressing or judging them.

You’ll leave this episode with a new practice: when you’re triggered, pause, get curious, and ask,

  1. What is this emotion trying to tell me?
  2. What is the deeper truth to this?
  3. What needs to change in order for me to be more aligned with this truth?

    4. Key Takeaways:

    • Emotional reactions (anger, jealousy, frustration) are rarely random. They’re signals.
    • The Map of Consciousness shows us that emotions vibrate at different frequencies; the “lower ones” feel heavy in the body.
    • Instead of identifying with negative emotions (“I am jealous”), we can use them as a guide: what’s misaligned in my world for this reaction to arise?
    • When someone announces a pregnancy and you feel triggered, that reaction often reflects your own longing and desire to become a parent.
    • Your emotions are not enemies, they’re messengers and compasses.

      • In the next episode, we will dig deeper into jealousy and comparison: how they show up, and how to transform them.

      Relevant Research & Context:

      Emotional distress (anger, frustration, grief) is a known response to infertility; many navigating infertility report higher rates of anxiety, depression, and loss of control (resource: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7885086/)

      Women with infertility are more likely to experience mental health challenges, influenced by stigma, social isolation, and lack of emotional support. (resources: https://bmcwomenshealth.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12905-023-02828-9)

      This episode supports:

      • Anyone who’s felt triggered by pregnancy announcements, social media posts, or conversations
      • People navigating infertility who feel shame, guilt, or frustration around their emotions
      • Listeners who want a deeper, more spiritual/emotional approach to fertility support
      • Practitioners or coaches who work in fertility and want language, frameworks, and deeper emotional insight

        • Connect with Jess: @herfertility.support

        Visit: Her Fertility Support (for courses, offerings, community)

        Leave a review or share this with someone who might need to hear it! This episode is for informational purposes only and should never replace the recommendation of your trusted physician. 

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