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3 habits for a successful date after matching on an app


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Dr. Matos shares the core skill guys lack that are necessary in having a successful date after matching on an app. These skills also create a strong foundation for a long-term relationship and having passionate sex for many years to come.

Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles, California. He is the founder of the charity abetterloveproject that helps people start healthier relationships from the beginning. Dr. Greg is a former Marine Corps Sergeant and recipient of the Bronze Star with Combat Valor.

We cover topics like:

- 1:52 Why younger men are lonelier than younger women - 4:20 It’s hard to hear this advice - 6:00 Dating app tips for guys - 6:33 Core relationship skills that guys usually struggle with - 8:40 3 practical scripts to easily connect with your partner - 13:30 Tips for your dating app profile - 18:56 Dating with chronic illness, sexual pain, or sexual dysfunction - 23:55 Relationship goals - 27:40 Discussing something difficult with your partner

Dr. Matos shares 3 scripts for healthy communication habits:

1) How to create a deep bond with your partner:

- Ask your partner “what was the most stressful part of your day today?” - Listen and follow-up with a clarifying question “tell me more about (that part)” - Sharing what you think you understood from listening - Validate their experience by saying “that makes sense to me”

2) How to peek into your partner's inner world:

Asking: “what are you most grateful for today,” and: “what are you looking forward to tomorrow?”

- Being curious about their inner world, validating their experiences, and being able to provide support

3) How to start a challenging conversation:

“I feel _____ about _____, I need/want/prefer _____”

- When you start a conversation with “I feel,” you’re firing up your partner’s mirror neurons - “about” allows you to share a specific event, action, or experience - “I need/want/prefer” allows you to communicate what your needs are that your partner can fulfill

 

Finally, here's Dr. Matos' #1 dating app tip: put time and effort into nailing the first impression when you match or like someone's profile.

Hinge is the best dating app for a serious relationship: you can ❤️ a prompt and add a comment, instantly improving your chances of creating a lasting first impression.

 

RESOURCES:

Free sex and pelvic pain resources https://drsusieg.com/resources

Online Pelvic Pain Relief Program for Men https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-in-men-online-program

2021 study that looked at loneliness around the world https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886920302555

Greg Matos on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/whats-behind-the-rise-lonely-single-men

CONNECT WITH DR. GREG MATOS:

Website: https://www.abetterloveproject.org/

Instagram, TikTok, YouTube: @abetterloveproject

CONNECT WITH ME (DR. SUSIE):

Website: https://drsusieg.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.susieg/

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Disclaimer:

This information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional.

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