In Episode 84, Shay Haddow, Confidence Coach, Author of She the Confident: The Mindset Advantage for Female Athletes, and Host of the Alpha Girl Confidence Podcast, talks with Phil about developing confidence in our female athletes, how everyone is leading someone and how personalities shape leadership, breaking up cliques in our teams, and 3 tools we can use to mitigate against mental health issues in our teams. Specifically, Shay discusses:

 

• Her story and how she developed her passion for soccer, leadership, confidence, and mental performance, particularly in the girls’ game (1:21)
• Her personal why and how she is living it out in her daily life (4:58)
• Why she started her podcast and wrote She the Confident, and how she hopes they will impact female athletes around the world (7:15)
• Whether confidence is more nature or nurture, what to do when kids are living in delusion, and how people can develop their confidence if they believe they were not “born confident.” (9:25)
• How she defines leadership and the concept that everybody is leading someone (18:34)
• How different personality styles lead differently (22:10)
• How to identify and break up unhealthy cliques in your teams (26:08)
• What she believes are the reasons for the statistic that 94% of women holding C-Suite positions are former athletes, and 52% of them played at the collegiate level (29:19)
• Her new book idea (32:55)
• Three tools we can use to address and mitigate against the mental health issues arising from social media and comparison in our youth (35:37)
• How she has used lessons learned from soccer in her business and personal life (42:19)
• The “freakin’ awesome” impact her book and podcast have had over the past couple years (44:59)
• Shay’s book recommendations (47:36)

Resources and Links from this Episode

• She the Confident: The Mindset Advantage for Female Athletes, by Shay Haddow
• Alpha Girl Confidence Website & Podcast
• Uncut Video of the Episode
• HSEL Facebook Group
• Coaching the Bigger Game Program
• Warrior Way Soccer
• Man’s Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl