I'm sure you've wondered "Why haven't I got it all figured out yet?", "why am I the only one left when all my friends are settling down and having kids?".

It's easy to think that you should have all o f it figured out by the time you're 25, or at the very latest 30. But I'm here to reassure you that isn't the case.

Yes, a number of people follow that path. They heard what society said, what we were told from when we grew up, from our parents, teachers, friends, family, and other people we met along the way and most were telling the same story: when you grow up, you need to get a good job, buy a house, get married, have kids and settle down.

Now it's still not wrong to want those things. You might want exactly that or nothing at all, but to think you have to have it all worked out as to as and when just isn't the case.

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Key Moments:

• "We start by thinking that everybody has got it sussed out. Like, hands up if your friends are settling down, getting married, having kids, seem to have like their jobs all sussed, and living on their own, have their own place, and it’s all sorted."
• "It's this comparison culture that causes overwhelming feelings."
• "It's that conflict of pleasing ourselves or pleasing others."
• "You are not alone in the experience."
• "Action is the key here."
• "In 10 years’ time, if you're still in the same scenario you are now in that area, would you regret it?"
• "Life is not about following the same system for all of us, it's about finding the right system for us."

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