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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

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Feeling lonely? 

Ironically, you’re not alone (ironically). 

But here’s the thing... loneliness can make you a magnet for the wrong people! 

The ones who don’t have your best interests at heart. 
The ones who seem too good to be true at first… 

... because they are! 

In this episode, I'll be talking about how certain types of people sniff out loneliness and use it to their advantage. 

If you’ve ever found yourself swept up in something that felt amazing at first but later left you drained, confused, or questioning yourself - this is an episode you'll want to make sure you arm yourself with, before you find yourself caught up with a tricky character in dating. 

You can expect to hear about:
🔥 Why loneliness makes you an easy target in dating
🔥 The red flags to watch for when someone’s love-bombing you
🔥 How to shift your energy so you attract the right kind of attention
🔥 What to focus on before jumping into a relationship

This isn’t about scaring you off dating - it’s about making sure you’re stepping into it from a place of confidence, not desperation.

And keeping those nasty characters away - and not letting your loneliness make you vulnerable.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

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We’re always told that success = happiness. 

More money, more freedom, more security… right? 

But what if that’s not actually true?

In this episode, we dive into a shocking revelation from YouTube giant MrBeast, who admitted on Diary of a CEO that he feels more unhappy than happy - despite having a billion-dollar empire, insane levels of success, and even a recent engagement. 

If someone who seemingly has it all still struggles with happiness, what does that mean for the rest of us?

So today, I'm exploring:
💭 The myth that success guarantees happiness
💰 Why money and achievement don’t always lead to fulfillment
⚠️ The dangers of comparing ourselves to people who "have it all"
🏠 The pressure of financial security and why it’s not the magic fix
💕 What actually brings long-term happiness (hint: it’s not in your bank account)

Plus, I’m sharing a recent trip that reminded me how real joy often comes from the simplest moments - ones we can access no matter where we are in life.

This episode will make you rethink what happiness really looks like, especially when it comes to love, relationships, and self-worth.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

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One of the biggest fears I had about getting into a relationship was losing my independence. I’ve spent years building a life I love - my own space, my own routine, my own decisions.

And yet, society makes it seem like true commitment means merging your entire life with someone else. Moving in together, sharing everything, and eventually ticking off the next milestones like marriage and kids.

But what if you don’t want to rush that?

What if you love your independence but still want a strong, committed relationship?

In this episode, I’m sharing my own experience of navigating this balance - being in a happy, long-term relationship while still keeping my autonomy and independence. 

I’ve lived on my own for five years, and despite being in a serious relationship for the more recent years, I’ve chosen to keep it that way! 

I’ll be diving into how I’ve made that work, the conversations I’ve had to have, and the boundaries I’ve set to make sure I don’t lose myself along the way.

Here’s what I’ll be unpacking:
🏡 Why I still live alone (and how it’s strengthened my relationship)
⏳ The pressure to move in, get married, and have kids - and why I’m ignoring it
💬 How I communicate my need for space without making my partner feel rejected
🚧 Why setting boundaries actually brings you closer, not further apart
👶 Dating someone with kids - how I navigate that while keeping my own life intact
💡 How to hold onto your identity in a relationship (because you don’t have to lose yourself in love!)

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to “prove” your commitment by giving up your independence, this episode is for you. You can have love and freedom - on your terms.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

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If you're anything like me, you pride yourself on being a strong, independent millennial. One that can take care of themselves, works hard, and has set their life up to work for them. 

And when it comes to dating, of course you take that with you. 

But during my time, articles I read and commentary online started to suggest that being this strong, independent character could put people off, and might be reducing my chances of finding a gentlemen. 

So on today's episode, I'm bringing what I think about my strength and the impact it has on dating, whether it's more harmful than it is useful, and what to do if you're that type of girl in dating, and how to make it work for you, without losing your spark.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

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If there's one thing that comes into question in the current state of the world, it's how to remain a truly strong, independent woman in a cost of living crisis. 

If you live on your own, you entirely rely on yourself - which is great... until a crisis makes everything cost that little bit more. 

There isn't the security of leaning on another half like couples do. And you still have to take the bins out yourself every week! 

So whilst I can't help with the latter, I've put together my best approaches to navigating these challenging times including ways to make money, save money and spend less. 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

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Solo adventures are one of my favourites - and going to the theatre alone is just one version of that.

And just last week, Kate Maltby's article "Adopting a 'no seat should be left lonely' policy stigmatises solo theatregoing" in The Stage caught my eye - and I wanted to wade in on the conversation.

Whether it's theatre and cinema going, or the solo person council tax discount, I wanted to reflect on the frustrations of solo adventures, the challenges posed by policies and how we can keep loving single life, even if it costs us more at times! 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

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Have you ever felt the pressure to DO something on Valentine's Day (even as a single?)

Whether it's treating yourself to a bath, going on a solo dinner date, or writing yet another self-love list, as I make my return to The Single Spark, I promise to unpack the problem with carrying out these token gestures on what can be a really difficult day if ou're single! 

Rather than doing something that might be "a bit nice", something that doesn't actually help with the fomo of not being with someone on Valentine's  (and doesn't make you feel any less lonely) I'm sharing what you can do this Valentine's Day that will have an impact long-term... and it won't just be for Valentine's Day!

PREVIOUS VALENTINE'S DAY WEEK EPISODES:

Ep 31: A Single Girl's Guide to Surviving Being Single on Valentine's Day

Ep 84: Why Getting Into a Relationship Won't Make You Happier

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

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For some if us, the idea of a relationship would be the gamechanger.

If I just had a partner, I'd have someone to go as my plus one with me.
If I was in a relationship, I'd be able to go on holiday with someone.
If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't be lonely.
If I was married, I'd just be happier.

And sure, relationships can bring so much joy, laughter, fun and happiness to the table, as well as the depth and intimacy of a connection that's harder to achieve with friends. 

But with the ever-problematic issue of chance coming into play when it comes to fate, it's a dangerous rope to be treading when we bundle our state of cotentment and happiness in something that you could be waiting on indefinitely. 

So in today's episode, I'll be exploring this deeper, to make sure you know the real realsons you can't wait around looking for a relationship to make you happy, and how you can bring about your own sense of happiness before a relationship is on the cards.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

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