The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

Breakups can be incredibly challenging, leaving us feeling lost, hurt, and overwhelmed. In this episode, I want to assure you that you're not alone. Join me as I recount my personal journey, exploring the twists and turns that come with post-breakup life.

Together, we'll unpack the heartbreak, confusion, and anger that often accompany a breakup. I'll share practical strategies and insights that helped me process my emotions and begin the healing process.

Throughout this episode, we'll delve into the stages of grief and the importance of self-compassion during this vulnerable time. This episode is your safe space to understand the rollercoaster of emotions you're experiencing and find hope in the midst of it all. Remember, healing takes time, but I'm here to remind you that brighter days are ahead.

So, grab a cup of tea (or your preferred beverage), find a comfortable spot, and join me as we embark on this transformative journey of healing and finding strength after a breakup. Let's navigate this emotional rollercoaster together and reclaim our power to create a brighter future.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Feeling stuck in your love life, or struggling to find the confidence to believe in yourself and your relationships? Join us for our special 100th episode, where I tackle the complex world of self-confidence, trust, and beliefs. I'll debunk the myth that you're "too old" to find love, and help you question and challenge limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.

Together, I'll examine how fear and lack of bravery can often be mistaken for a lack of confidence, and explore the role our beliefs play in our single lives. I'll also provide you with valuable tips on how to stay confident and positive in tough times, including the use of positive mantras and the power of connecting with others. Discover the potential of polyamory and how marriage is more than just a piece of paper and a ring.

By the end of this episode, you'll have a fresh perspective on worthiness, relationships, and success, as well as the tools to help you challenge and undo limiting beliefs around being single. Don't miss out on this empowering celebration of single life, and the chance to build the confidence you need to flourish in love and all aspects of your life. Cheers to our 100th episode and to a future filled with self-assurance and stronger connections!

Take the Single Life Confidence quiz now to find out what you can do to improve your self-confidence as a single. Click here to take the quiz.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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In this eye-opening episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, I challenge the prevalent dating advice that suggests loving yourself first before entering a relationship. 

Join me as I explore why the notion of self-love first is inaccurate and potentially limiting in the context of dating. 

Delve into the importance of receiving love and validation from others as a crucial aspect of personal growth and relationship development, instead of focussing on the love you have for yourself alone. 

Whether you're a seasoned dater or new to the scene, this episode will empower you to reframe your mindset and embrace the journey of finding love without relying solely on self-love. 

Tune in to discover a fresh perspective on dating and uncover the true path to building meaningful connections.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Welcome to a special episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life! Today, we're diving deep into the world of single life and tackling the anxiety that comes with it. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, we're exploring empowering strategies to manage anxiety and find inner peace.

Join me as I share my insights on handling the anxieties of being alone, dating, and the outcomes of relationships. Together, we'll uncover practical tips, self-care practices, and mindset shifts to conquer anxiety head-on to navigate the ups and downs of singlehood and empower ourselves to thrive.

Let's break the stigma surrounding single life anxieties and transform our relationship with anxiety. Get ready to cultivate a fulfilling single life during Mental Health Awareness Week and let's conquer single life anxiety together!

References:

• Mental Health Awareness Week: Anxiety (15-21 May 2023), from The Mental Health Foundation
• Mental Health Awareness Week Report
• Adamczyk K, Segrin C. Perceived Social Support and Mental Health Among Single vs. Partnered Polish Young Adults.  Curr Psychol. 2015;34(1):82-96. doi: 10.1007/s12144-014-9242-5. PMID: 25774079; PMCID: PMC4348549.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Are you single and looking for some inspiration to transform your life? In this episode, I've curated a list of 5 must-read books that will help you improve your mindset, gain new perspectives, and develop positive habits around being single.

These are hand-selected books, all of which I've read, that will help you in the early stages of becoming single. From addressing your fears around being out of a relationship, to cultivating the mindset to be comfortable with being alone, these books cover a wide range of topics and are perfect for anyone who wants to make the most of their single life.

Tune in and discover which books made my list and why I think they're essential reads for anyone who's single and looking to level up their life. Get ready to transform your single life with these 5 books!

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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In this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life, I tackle one of the most hotly debated topics in the dating world - the pros and cons of dating a man with kids.

I'll be discussing the unique challenges and benefits that come with dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, thanks to my own internal debate when deciding whether to date someone with children, and now currently in a relationship with someone with children. 

I'll explore some of the common concerns that people have when entering into a relationship with a single parent, and the realities of the pros and cons it brings, referring to personal experiences of dating men with kids, providing valuable insights into the joys and challenges of blended families, with more to come in future episodes. 

Whether you're currently dating a man with children or just curious about what it's like, this episode is a must-listen. So, join me as I delve into the world of single dads and explore the pros and cons of dating a man with kids.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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As a single, millennial woman, you may be questioning the traditional norms around dating and relationships, and wondering if there are alternative options out there. It's important to explore the options as so many of us are given traditional ideas as a default. And polyamory is one such option, and this episode aims to open up the conversation around this fascinating and diverse relationship model.

Through my own exploration of the idea and understanding the concepts and terminology involved, I'll be sharing what I learnt about the models and experiences with polyamorous relationships, and what the pros and cons can be.

Whether you're curious about polyamory or already considering it as an option,  join me as I explore the possibilities of opening up to new relationship models and embracing the diversity and inclusivity of modern dating.

References:
Feeld
Multiamory
The Ethical Slut
The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Marriage is seen as the ultimate expression of love, the biggest commitment you can make to another and the desire and hope that it will last forever. As someone that's been married and divorced in their 20s, and experienced my own parents getting divorced as a child, marriage has been an interesting subject to explore, and the more I've explored and experienced, the more I've felt it necessary to share some of the realities of what marriage means in today's day and age.

From personal experience, to looking at the stats, marriage needs to be a well-informed decision as opposed to the assumed trajectory of life. It doesn't guarantee you happiness, and it isn't always the answer to a fulfilling life, and it certainly isn't the only way to be happy and at ease with your life. Listen in to hear about the perspectives on marriage to consider for if and when the questions comes.

*DISCLAIMER - The information provided in this podcast is for information purposes only based on my own experiences and research. Whilst every effort has been made to represent accurate information, you should always consult a professional in each context. Each case/individual is individual and therefore, specific information should be sought, particualrly so solicitors for legal matters concerning marriage and divorce, and refer to your individual pension providers for the conditions surrounding your pension.

*Correction: I mentioned that the Teachers Pension wouldn't go to anyone unmarried, however there are some conditions detailed that would allow for this to happen. Please see this link for futher info.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Back when I first started dating, I had to learn ALL the basics. No matter how much dating content you consume, some of the lessons you learn ahead of time can't easily be applied in the moment. There's how you feel, all the "what if"s and you're dealing with the unpredicatbility of another person you don't really know.

And as I soon learnt, dealing with not getting a reply in dating is one of the trickiest to balance - you don't want to look needy but you want a reply. You don't want to be left on read but what if something's genuinely happened to them.

There's no exact right or wrong here, but two years on, I've come to my conclusions about how to deal with being left on read and not getting a reply in dating.

Rerecorded from Episode 4 - What To Do When You Don't Get A Reply

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Being in a situationship SUCKS! It's confusing, often frustrating and it's so, so painful. You fall into the trap of getting into a routine with the guy you like, and keep refraining from bringing anything up in case he doesn't feel the same way about you back... but he's friendly and flirty, so surely he likes you, but how can you know?! And before you know it, you're knee-deep in a year-long situationship that you finally build the courage to ask about and it's not good news...

 In this episode I'll talk about identifying the signs that your situationship isn't progressing, understanding your own wants and needs, and having honest conversationsan with yourself and your love interests. It's important to remember that your happiness and emotional well-being matter too. 

Moving on can be scary, but I hope this episode inspires you to take the necessary steps towards a happier, healthier future.

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References:
Dr Stever Peters - Interview on Diary of a CEO, E215
Ep 87 - Letting Go of The Guy You Never Dated 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...