The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

Today, we delve into the age-old question of... Am I ready to date again?

Some of you totally wanna date again - but are jumping the gun, ready to repeat all the same stuff that happened in your last relationship!

And others of you are tentative - and rightly so - but you don't want that to stop you forever.

Has it been long enough to date again? Is it too soon to date again? Am I ready to date again?

Beacuse there's a tonne of advice out there that could have you confused over this:

Is it 6 months after a break up? 
Is it as long as you're "over your ex" (whatever that means?!) 
Or is 

Trust me, there'll be no specific time scales given in this episode. 
But instead of listening to all the cliche stuff, I'll tell you the real tests you can do to find out if you're actually ready to get out there and date again. 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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You’ve been told to “play it cool”, “match their energy” and leave the same amount of time they take to reply to reply back to them. 

But despite all those things, you feel stressed, increasingly annoyed and spend the entire time clock-watching - whether that’s for when the last replied, eagerly awaiting their next reply, only to be disappointed when you check and there’s still no response… or you’re ticking down the time that you’ve limited yourself by to reply. 

Surely if this worked, we wouldn’t have to feel this way every time we were chatting to someone?! 

This was my exact thoughts when I was dating. 

It wasn’t meant to be this hard and stressful was it?! 

And I’m pleased to tell you, it doesn’t have to be! 

Sure, some people would’ve found a magic solution after implementing these things… but if your stress levels are sky high, and that sneaky anxious attachment is creeping in, this might not be the best way to date (and might even be keeping you single!) 

So join me for todays episode where we stop playing the dating games and start dating with more calm, ease and confidence - and still find the good ones! 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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September is here, and it's the start of Autumn creeping in. Having worked with singles over the past three years, September always has a single shift. 

Gone are the highs of all those sunny days, and in come the lows of the short, dark days. With Christmas items already appearing in stores, I'll be sharing the importance of preparing for the colder months ahead with practical advice on maintaining positivity and making the most of this period for self-improvement and future readiness.

Let's get you ready as winter is coming... 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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In today’s epsiode, you’re getting my approval to be out and proud about being single… AND want to be in a relationship at the same time. 

I’ve noticed a narrative in the single space that being single means you have to embrace singlehood only. 

And sure, there’s a time and a place to take a break from dating. 

For some, that break never ends! 

But for other singles, getting happy and accepting being single is one thing. 

To stay that way forever? That wasn’t on their lifetime bingo card! 

So move over being a single spinster forever *if that doesn’t suit you*.

There’s room for being your own version of single, whether it lasts just a chapter or two, or takes us tight to the very end of your story. 

So hear me out on this week’s episode to get your dose of single life empowerment, however you choose to live it! 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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You're over your ex, you're ready to take a step into dating... but you don't want to get hurt again.

And I get it. The last time you were dating, it ended up causing you upset.

You felt hurt, had to work through a bunch of emotions and you ended up exhausted from the whole experience.

So this episode is designed to remind you that doesn't have to be your reality.

Getting hurt is a risk - but one you can minimise the possibility of doing through a number of key approaches that I share with you on this episode.

All so that ending up hurt again doesn't have to be your future.

And for anyone who's ready to take this to the next level, to get their single spark back, get dating again and find one of the good guys, I'll be working with women to make it happen THIS AUTUMN.

Head here to register your interest for when it all starts! 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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Looking back at Episode #9, there's a bunch of ways you can find new friends... but depsite the strategies shared in that episode, it can feel hard to find friends when you don't have that bestie like other people do. 

You yearn for someone that you can be as close as... 

But some friendships aren't meant to be forever. 

We certainly can't force that kind of friendship to occur. But our focus on those relationships means we overlook some of the best friendships that can fill up our lives, and that's situational friends. 

They're the ones you have a singular exprience with, probably to never see again, but you have an absolute blast getting to know at a festival, on a trip, whilst you're on a train. 

So in today's episode, I'm taking a deep dive into these alternative friendships to share the postive impact they can have on your lives (and how not all frienships are meant to last forever)

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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It's hard to believe that it's been 5 years since my separation... in 2018 I was getting married, but by the following summer in 2019, I was back home living with my parents. 

At the time, it felt like my whole life was up in the air. Everything I'd worked for in my late teens was gone in a flash. 

It was what needed to happen... but that didn't make it any easier. 

So 5 years on, I'm sharing my biggest life lessons now that time has passed, the divorce is well and truly in the past, and my life looks a whole lot different to five and six years ago! 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...

In today's moment, I'm jumping back to Episode #57 with a question that you need to be asking yourself every 90 days to check in with yourself, to work out if single life it really for you, and to make sure you're truly happy with the path that you're on. 

(And this even applies when you aren't single! But matters MASSIVELY if you are single - to make sure you don't just accept being single, if it isn't really what you want!)

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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If you've been dating for any length of time, then you've probably been ghosted in that time too. It's an all-too-common experience in today's dating world, and it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and unsure of what to do next.

When someone you've been dating suddenly disappears without a word, it can be tempting to reach out, send a text, and get closure or answers. But is that really the best move?

In today's podcast, we dive deep into this dilemma and explore how to evaluate the the best course of action when you're left hanging.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

• The potential risks and rewards of reaching out to someone who ghosted you
• Strategies to move on and regain your confidence after being ghosted
• How to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself in future dating experiences

Join us as we unpack this modern dating conundrum and offer insights to help you navigate the tricky terrain of ghosting.

4o

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...

I know it's easy to think that your life needs to be on hold whilst you wait for the right relationship to come along. 

We tell ourselves we'll start living fully once we have a partner to share it with, won't go on that solo trip, won't see that show, can't go on holiday. 

But what if the key to finding happiness is embracing and enjoying your single life RIGHT NOW?!

In today's podcast, I tackle this issue head-on and explore how you can thrive and find joy as a single person.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

• The benefits of embracing your single life and living it to the fullest
• How to build a fulfilling and exciting life on your own terms
• Practical steps to stop waiting and start doing what makes you happy now
• Ways to cultivate self-love and independence that attract healthy relationships

Tune in as we discuss how to break free from the waiting game and start making the most of your single life today!

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...