The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

When you're in your 20's, its easy to get caught up in the "everyone else is doing it, so its what I have to do" mentality. You start believing that because everyone is heading towards the same goals as you, that you're doing everything right.

In this moment, Chantelle discusess why you don't have to follow the same path as everyone else in life - and how whether or not you achieve your goals isn't necessarily dependent on exactly what actions you take. Listen in if you're trying find a path of your own while avoiding feeling like a failure.

Listen to the full episode here.
Watch the episodes on YouTube.
Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

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Theories of attachment styles have been around for decades, originally being developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. They were originally based on the idea that we develop attachment styles based on our early childhood experiences with our caregivers. 

But what if it's not just about our early childhood? What if there are other origins for our attachment styles? In this video, I talk about the alternative factors that contribute to the development of attachment styles, which might give you the answer to why you've got an insecure attachment style even if your childhood upbringing was absolutely fine!

Listen in for a deep dive on where your attachment style could've come from, and let me know what you think by dropping me a DM on Instagram.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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After reflecting on our time during lockdown, which included virtual dating for some, Chantelle shares her observations of how we had the time to prioritise ourselves and how we should continue to apply that in dating.

It's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires in favour of pleasing a potential future partner however, it's crucial to remember that prioritising ourselves is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Listen to the full episode here.
Watch the episodes on YouTube.
Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Leaving a long-term relationship is SCARY. You don't know what's going to happen once you intiate the ending... and as soon as you do, the doubt creeps in.

You wonder if you made the right decision. Or you're on the edge of leaving, trying to make sure you make the right decision as to whether to break up with him or not.

I'll share some of the more subtle reasons you were right to make the decision to leave, as well as clarify the more obvious ones (though they're not always obvious to us before) to give you a variety of perspectives on why the relationship might not have been the right one for you.

And through it all, I used my experience of leaving my 7-year relationship to get divorced after just a year of marriage to give you examples of how I knew it was the right decision for me to leave.

Don't second guess yourself - learn why breaking up can be the right decision for your happiness and growth.

References:
#89 - The 5 Compatibility Checks To Do In Dating To Ensure Long-Lasting Relationships

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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From the very first episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, Chantelle explores the mindset shift you need to enjoy your single life and stop obsessing over dating. She dives into the pressure we experience when we're single to get back out there and date when we've only just got ourselves out of a relationship. It seems like everyone associates being in a relationship with being happy - and it just isn't true for us all and has limiting effects on how we can enjoy our single life if we stick with that mindset too.

Listen to the full episode here.
Watch the episodes on YouTube.
Connect with Chantelle on Instagram.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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With summer just around the corner, many of you single women are excitedly thinking about planning your solo travel adventures, and as a seasoned solo adventurer, something I maintain whether I'm single or in a relationship, I'm here to help you come up with solo ideas to embrace your independence and adventure.

In this episode, I'll share practical ideas insights to help you decide on what plans to make for an empowering solo travel experience. For braving it on your own to wanting to do things with others,  I'll provide you with inspiration for a successful solo girl summer.

Whether you're a seasoned solo traveler or embarking on your first adventure, this episode is sure to inspire and equip you for an unforgettable summer ahead. Tune in now and get ready to embrace your independence and adventure with confidence!

Join in at Wellnergy Festival where I'll be running solo festival-goer workshops and 15 minute coaching sessions too. Buy your ticket here (affiliate link - I'll earn a small commission if you purchase through this link at no additional cost to you)

Volunteer/Work at Festivals via Hotbox Events - check out their website here


References:
Camp Bestival Dorset
Camp Bestival Shropshire
Creamfields South
Tomorrowland

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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In this episode of The Single Girl's Gudide to Life, I'll be discussing the 5 compatibility checks that are crucial for building and sustaining a long-lasting relationship that you can look out for in dating.

Join me as I delve into the key factors that make a relationship work, from shared values to communication styles, and provide tips for the elements you need to consider early on.

With this episode, I hope to equip you with the knowledge and confidence you need to navigate the dating world successfully and find a compatible partner for a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Tune in now and discover how to ace the 5 compatibility checks in dating!

*Correction - Chantelle stated the first stage in Matthew Hussey's beliefs of stages was Attraction. This is corrected to Admiration.

References:
- Matthew Hussey,  The Four Stages of a Relationship
- Esther Perel, Love Stories vs. Life Stories
- Sternberg's Triangular Theory Link
- What is Love Episode #5 (Explaining Sternberg's Triangular Theory)
- Values training
- Love Languages

1. VALUES
2. COMMUNICATION STYLE
3. SEXUAL COMPATABILTY
4. LIFESTYLE
5. RELATIONSHIP INTENT

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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In this week's episode, I share my personal journey of transforming my anxious attachment style into a secure one.

After becoming a single, millennial  woman following my divorce, I found I struggled with anxiety in my relationships. I would feel an overwhelming sense of worry when I didn't hear responses, and when someone ended a dating phase with me, I'd find it hard to process. My past experiences had left me feeling insecure and fearful of being vulnerable with others.

But through a combination of therapy, self-reflection, and practice, I was able to overcome my anxious attachment and move towards building a healthy, secure relationship, based on a more secure attachment style.

In this episode, I share my insights into the challenges of dating with an anxious attachment style and the importance of recognizing and understanding your triggers. I also discuss the significance of communicating your needs and boundaries, and the value of practicing self-compassion.

Through my experience, I share actionable tips and strategies for millennial single women who are looking to break free from their old patterns and build a secure foundation for their relationships.

Join me for this insightful conversation and learn how you too can transform your anxious attachment style into a secure one in your dating life.

(And if you want to discuss your next first step to moving from an anxious attachment style to a more secure one, you can book your FREE 15-minute dating gamplan session here)

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated?

In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated.

By following these strategies, you can gain emotional clarity and heal from the pain of unrequited love. Whether you're struggling to move on from a crush, a casual fling, or a complicated situation, this podcast episode is for you.

 So tune in now to learn how to let go and find the love and happiness you deserve.

Download the No Contact Rule Tracker here.
Download the No-BS Guide to Dating here.


0:18 - Introduction  
1:09 - The No Contact Rule - What it is, and How and Why It Should Be Used
4:47 - The Emotional Stages of a Break-Up
5:15 - Cutting off the love hormones
6:43 - The "Enough is Enough" point
9:30 - The Challenges of The No Contact rule
14:41 - Cutting Off All Contact (Even if they keep messaging you)
20:31 - Tips for Success in Executing the No Contact Rule
25:15 - The No Contact Rule Q&A
28:08 - Stay away from a FWB situation
29:40 - Applying The No BS approach to dating 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Subscriber-only episode

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow me on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

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