The Single Spark with Chantelle the Coach (previously The Single Girl's Guide to Life)

"When you find someone that you genuinely care for and want to be with but have hesitation simply because you're concerned about giving up freedom and individuality."

This was a comment made in our Facebook group when I asked the question "What have you been finding a challenge with in your single/dating life recently?" and in today's podcast I go into this dilemma of giving up some elements of your freedom and individuality as you start to date.

What You'll Learn In This Episode

- The advantages to single life that you have to consider when moving into dating
- The elements that become compromised when you're on the cusp of a becoming a couple
- The way to maintain freedom and individuality alongside being in a relationship

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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I know I talk *a lot* about loneliness. If you’re single, we know it’s a risk factor, and that makes sense - you don’t have that person to go home to, you can be left out of invites from your coupled up friends who “didn’t think you’d want to be invited” and you can feel that sense of not being a priority to anyone… 

But I always want to emphasise that getting into a relationship doesn’t take that sense of loneliness away at times, of not feeling involved, not belonging… and here’s a very personal share of how that still exists in coupled up life. 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re lonely… but we know being single makes you more likely to experience loneliness, which can lead to all kinds of knock on effects to your mental health. 

It can make you feel like you don’t matter as much as other people, like no one would notice if you were gone, and like everyone else has other stuff going on all the time and there’s you, at home, wasting your evenings away on apps and box sets.

But I’m here to share with you the real reason you’re feeling lonely, something I discovered during my own personal development journey of finding myself again and understanding what loneliness really was so I could tackle it head on. 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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It's easy to that that going on more dates will equal a higher chance of you finding that ultimate relationship. 

But there's a reason why going on more dates might actually be preventing you from having success in dating and why "dating is a numbers game" is a nuanced myth! 

And take it from someone that only went on 16 first dates scross the three years of dating, with one of those sixteen leading to the relationship I'm in now. 

If you're a serial dater, who's finding yourself on dates week-in, week-out but never quite getting to a serious relationship stage, then this one's for you!

What You'll Learn: 
- Why more dates doesn't lead to success in dating and finding a relationship
- How to date more effectively so you can actually find the perfect partner for you
- The truth behind what you really need to find Mr Right!

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...

Taken from the inspiration of Episode 4, I share a moment I experienced in my personal development journey, when I started to question everything around me. 

And one of the things I had to look back at in my past, to work out where I got this skewed understanding of it from, and actually find out what it really meant was “what is love?”.

So today, I’ll share with you the theory from Sternberg that changed my understanding and allowed me to apply it to my friendships and relationships, so I could get to the bottom of what love really was - instead of having the Disney princess version of love as the blueprint. 

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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Welcome to the BRAND NEW episode of the new era of this podcast, The Single Spark. 

We say goodbye to The Single Girl's Guide to Life to welcome in a fresh era the The Single Spark. Don't worry - it doesn't mean we're entirely changing. This is still the podcast for singles, but this time we're in our 30s - Chantelle turned 31 this very week and life in your 30s is very different to being in your 20s, and even more so when you're single. 

And to kickstart this new series, we're looking at helping you get your spark back after going through the end of a relationshop. 

After a break-up, your life is completely turned upside down. You're moving house, leaving behind a life you thought was going to be your future, and you're single - something you weren't expecting to happen as you started to settle down and plan what your life was going to look like. 

And it isn't just the practicalities of your life. 

With the loss of the relationship and the person you spent so much time with, you lose a little part of yourself too. And this episode is there for you to get that you, that spark back again.

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REFERENCES:
Ep 19: How to Get Over A Break Up

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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Being in your thirties, you might not think the menopause is on your radar just yet... But imagine approaching your forties, noticing changes in your body, and having no clue what's happening. That's what happened to Marie Frost, our special guest from Nutricore Health, who started experiencing perimenopausal symptoms after having a baby. Join us as Marie bravely shares her deeply personal journey through perimenopause, shattering misconceptions about menopause, and emphasising the importance of recognising and understanding the often overlooked symptoms of this critical phase in a woman's life, and sharing how we, as women in our 20s and 30s, can start to understand and prepare for the inevitable transition through the perimenopause.

The ever-fluctuating hormones during this phase often lead to misdiagnosis, making it crucial for women in their twenties and thirties to be aware and proactive about their health.

This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom, offering insights into navigating this mid-life stage before you actually get there, learning to taking better care of yourself *now* to ensure longevity and quality of life. Tune in for a conversation that empowers every woman to take proactive steps towards their health as perimenopause gets closer every year.

Links

Follow Marie on Instagram: Marie Frost - Nutricore Health Instagram
Join Marie's "Women's Health Hub" FB Group

References:
Maisie Hill: Period Power
Mariella Frostrape: Cracking the Menopause
Laura Briden: Hormon Re

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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Buckle up, because today's episode of Single Girls Guide to Life lays out the complex jounrey of getting divorced in your 20s, with a deep dive into the emotional, legal, and personal growth aspects of navigating through a divorce at this age. I tackle the unique challenges it presents, and the need for the divorcing couple's cooperation for their well-being, whilst sharing the brighter side of divorce that exists.

I dissect the intricate process of leaving a marriage, the emotional turmoil that accompanies it, and how to navigate the maze of financial ties. Struggles are part and parcel of this path, but you're not alone. We're here to help you understand these challenges, whether emotional or legal, and navigate through them one step at a time.

Above all else, getting divorce in your 20s might be a challenge, but it could also be a period of self-discovery and personal growth, and I discuss how a divorce can redefine your views on marriage and relationships, and help you prioritise your own needs. So, whether you're single by choice or circumstance, join us as we explore the less-discussed side of going through a divorce in your 20s. It's not necessarily an ending, but perhaps a new beginning.

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...

What if one day you woke up, and instead of feeling like a lonely singleton, you were absolutely in love with your single life? Today, we take you through my personal journey from navigating the trials and tribulations of the dating scene to stepping into a relationship and eventually becoming a step-mum. 

Join us as we crack open my story of evolving from an independent single gal to a step-mum. We talk about the pressures of societal norms, the quarter-life crisis it spurred, and how I learned to make conscious decisions based on my core values. We venture into how the stepping stones of courage, ambition, and personal growth have played a significant role in creating a life that I'm in love with. 

With this episode, the first after a 4-month break, we aim to equip you with the tools to design a life that you cherish while single and prepare you for a potential relationship when the time comes. So, let's get ready to celebrate singlehood, take on the world, and stop wasting precious time with people who aren't right for us. Brace yourself for a compelling conversation infused with personal experiences, invaluable life lessons, and much more!

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RESOURCES:

- Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide

- Visit the website: www.chantellethecoach.com

- Follow for more single life content on Instagram: @ChantelleTheCoach

- Follow me on TikTok: @ChantelleTheCoach

And if you loved this episode, HIT SUBSCRIBE to stay up to date for your weekly dose of The Single Spark.

AD | SUPPORT THE SHOW (by purchasing through my Amazon links!):

Check out my Amazon store for single life inspo products (think solo date nights, personal development books etc)

Looking for bargains? Visit Amazon Haul for discount products straight to your door!

** The links provided here are affiliate links through the Amazon Associate programme. Each time you purchase through those links, I get a kickback at no additonal cost to you. By doing so, you help fund the podcast and all the work done to support singles, without you having to spend extra pennies! **

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Music from Ep 110 onwards by Kadien Music. Get your own podcast music here!
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life coaching for singles, how to be okay on you're own, overcoming loneliness, how to stop feeling lonely, single wo...