The Desire Line

30 | Keeping Healthy Boundaries | Attachment Theory VI


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It's the final (countdown!) episode in our arc on Attachment Theory. We have all this theory, now what do we do with it?

In this episode we cover the practical application of attachment theory and what it means to be healthily and unhealthily attached in 9 different categories:

  • Body
  • Attitudes
  • Feeling
  • Behavior
  • Thoughts
  • Abilities
  • Desires
  • Choices
  • Limits

Click here to read along with us.

As we read through, notice which ones strike you or speak to you. These may be areas where differentiation work can happen in your own life.

Charles Swindoll quote on attitude:

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than success, than what other people think or say or do.

It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitudes.

James 1

Humbly Grateful or Grumbly Hateful (re: Brandon's "What's Your Attitude")

Next, we will take you through the practical application for responding to the need for Differentiation and Healthy Attachment:

  • Awareness
  • Self-regulation
  • Responding with courage

Click here to read more on Differentiation.

Click here to read more on Healthy Attachment.

Self Regulation (def.) :

Behavioral Self-Regulation: the ability to act in your long-term best interest, consistent with your deepest values

Emotional Self-Regulation: the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed

Click here to read through the full serenity prayer.

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The Desire LineBy Susette Magana, M.A., (Therapist) & Brandon Cook, B.A., M.St. (Pastor)

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