Do you really listen? Be clear about what you want. Really listen. Create some real perspective. It's okay to say "I'm Sorry". "Seek first to understand then to be understood." Seek all the perspective so you can truly understand. You have to listen to what's not being said. Ask yourself: *Do you know how to listen? *Are you more concerned about being right?  Do you know what you want with your marriage right now? Communicate how you are feeling. It's not about being right, it's about what is right.