Healing is about uncovering the hidden blocks that hinder us from moving toward what we want.

Healing is to change a pattern that is unwanted into a pattern that is wanted. This usually entails changing it for the better into the opposite pattern.

But change isn't as straightforward as Point A to Point B.

It is very common that when people begin to heal something, they pendulum swing to the opposite extreme.

Here's the pattern: You find yourself in an undesirable state. You realize that there's a problem: something's broken, and you want to fix it. But in fixing it, you often over-correct.

When we first decide to move away from what we don't want and pursue what we think we want, it starts the swing.

The swinging between extremes can seem alarming, disorientating and scary but can help us find a new centre, a new balance, a new position which we wouldn't have found had we not gone to the extremes first. Both extremes have something to offer, and when integrate them we get positive change.

After all, when we are swinging between extremes, we are exploring new ideas. We have a chance to listen to and consider a different perspective and to integrate the best of both sides, to come away with an expanded viewpoint and to find a new place to settle.

We need to be aware of the following :

1. The swing to the opposite can become unhealthy if we stay there too long and slip into the dysfunction that can exist on the opposite side of the scale.

2. If the pendulum swing is a dramatic reaction instead of a deliberately chosen response it can lead to problems.

But even if 1 or 2 do happen, the good news is that you can learn from anything that you do.

A person who does swing the pendulum will eventually feel the reality of the cause and effect (and therefore consequences) associated with that new extreme. And it will eventually cause them to alter their patterns more toward their actual healthy state of being.

But you can prevent the time this takes and the damage this can create both to you and to others by being aware of this typical pendulum swing of healing and by consciously discerning what genuine healing and genuine positive pattern change would look like instead.

This is what we discuss in this Episode. Loretta and Antoinette both give examples of how this has played out in their own lives.

Other examples paraphrased from an article by Teal Swan https://tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-pendulum-swing-in-healing-r428/ )

Some examples of pendulum swinging :

· Let's imagine that a person is hurt by someone else. They experience the pain of being connected to and dependent on someone else. This person may begin to heal and swing the pendulum all the way over to disconnecting from others and becoming totally independent. Because of this, they slip into the illusion that it is possible to be separate and not depend on anything or anyone. They push people way. Deep down, they know they are very, very alone. They behave in ways that harm others because they are not genuinely connected to them. But because they are disconnected, they don't even realize it. They and others will suffer from that new dysfunctional extreme.

Another example is let's imagine a person who is addicted. They use addiction to avoid some pain within themselves that they cannot seem to resolve. They are in a perpetual state of "runaway" relative to themselves. This person might hear about shadow work and suddenly feel like there might be a way to solve their pain. This person may begin to heal and swing the pendulum all the way over to obsessively doing difficult shadow work processes all the time. This runs their nervous system into the ground, making their mental, emotional and physical bodies raw, being unable to effectively integrate and process and apply what they gain awareness of. And effectively giving themselves the damaging message that something is wrong with them and must be fixed immediately. Shadow work then becomes a different form of self-abuse. Because of this, they and others around them will suffer from that new dysfunctional extreme.

We offer the following tools/insights to avoid over corrections and find balance :

• Regular Self-Check-Ins: Assess physical, emotional, and mental state daily. Identify areas out of sync. Notice pendulums in your life.
• Mindful Adjustments: Make small, conscious adjustments based on your self-check-ins. This could involve changes to your routine, boundaries, or exploring new interests.
• Compassionate Reframing: View imbalance as a natural part of life and an opportunity to learn and grow. Ask yourself: "What can I learn from this?"
• Embrace Curiosity: Stay open to new experiences and let curiosity guide you towards learning and development.
• Identify your unique energy swings and harness them. Can you see moments where you have swung from one extreme to another and landed in a better place?
• Forget the idea of a fixed balance and acknowledge that our experiences, emotions, and interactions are constantly in flux. This shift in perspective encourages us to become more attuned to the signals from our mind, body, and environment. By listening to these internal cues, we can adjust on the go, fostering continuous growth.
• Acceptance fosters a sense of curiosity, a crucial tool for navigating these evolving needs. Curiosity allows us to explore new experiences and adjust our actions or thoughts to find what brings us back into a state of balance within the ever-shifting landscape of our lives. Embracing a pendulum lifestyle helps us to trust the process more.
• Trust the pendulum's rhythm, embrace change and the evolving pendulum. Understanding that swings are natural, and part of our growth allows us to let go of the need for constant stability. We learn to ride the waves, knowing that each swing is part of a larger pattern that contributes to our overall development and our ongoing pursuit of balance.

Link to Tribe Sober group mentioned :

https://www.tribesober.com/

The link to the Psychology Today article mentioned :

https://www.psychologytoday.com/za/blog/how-do-you-think-about-that/202408/tired-of-feeling-stuck-give-the-pendulum-lifestyle-a-shot

Other articles :

https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/as-the-pendulum-swings-24da6abbc55e

https://www.julieleoni.com/blog/thinking-differently/pendulum-swinging/

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