We often get praised for being hardworking, reliable, selfless, or endlessly positive. But what if those "good qualities" are actually unhealthy coping mechanisms in disguise?
In this episode, Antoinette unpacks the hidden side of behaviours like people‑pleasing, perfectionism, overworking, and constant optimism.
While society rewards them, they can quietly erode our mental and physical health.
You'll discover how these traits, when taken too far, mask stress, fuel burnout, and even contribute to long‑term health issues.
More importantly, you'll learn how to spot the difference between genuine strengths and unhealthy patterns — and why awareness is the first step toward healthier living.
Antoinette shares her personal journey of discovering these mechanisms after being diagnosed with cancer at age 56.
This Episode covers :
· How people‑pleasing can look like kindness but lead to resentment and anxiety
· Why perfectionism disguised as "high standards" increases stress and risk of heart disease
· The hidden costs of overworking and busyness on sleep, immunity, and emotional wellbeing
· How hyper‑independence often stems from trauma and can lead to isolation
· Why constant optimism can block healing and suppress real emotions
· The toll of caretaking and taking responsibility for everyone else's feelings and well being
· How humour and lightness can mask pain and prevent deeper connections
Why It Matters for our Health :
Chronic hidden stress is the most damaging kind. When coping mechanisms masquerade as good qualities, they keep us stuck in cycles that elevate cortisol, disrupt sleep, weaken immunity, and increase risks for anxiety, depression, and cardiovascular and other diseases. Over time, the body keeps the score.
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Disclaimer: What we bring should not be viewed as a stand-alone intervention, it should always be conducted alongside proper medical treatment (orthodox or natural), nutritional assistance, exercise and whatever else is appropriate for your illness. We are pointing out the relationship between hidden and other stress and disease.
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