Being all in means committing to yourself and to your healing – no matter what!

It means making your healing your number one priority regardless of what else is going on in your life.

It means - Choose healing, prioritizing it !

Choose to heal and commit to that – make healing a project that you dedicate yourself to, not something that you dip you toe into occasionally. Make it your work!!!!

This doesn't necessarily mean you have to 'stop' everything else that you may be doing, but it does involve making your healing the most important priority in your life.

It means that no matter what healing modality you have chosen, you commit to playing a role to be your own healer as well.

If you give your healing only 20% effort, 20% of your focus you can't expect 100% results.

It's like studying - only 20% of the course work for an exam and expecting to get a distinction. (Healing is more like getting a degree – it's many exams over a long period of time.)

Focus on your healing as if your life depends on it because it does!

'No matter what' includes:

· Investing time, energy, money and other resources in your healing – this may mean having to give up other things or asking your spouse to care for the kids etc.

· It means going all in and doing the hard yards. Change does not happen in our comfort zones.

· Choose to focus on your healing despite your doubts and fears (not suppressing those doubts and fears).

· Committing to helping yourself to be your own healer rather than just giving your healing over to a Dr or drug treatment. (RRM survivors, each one of them took complete control over their own healing even if they did work with Drs, didn't just listen to the authorities, worked alongside the authorities to help themselves heal).

· Taking a holistic view of healing. Healing is not a one size fits all and unique for each person. Healing is multifaceted. Where does your healing lie? This doesn't mean you don't work with a Dr or do a treatment, but what it does mean is that you also do the "work" from the inside out, play a role in your own healing.

· Don't rush into a healing modality as Loretta always says. Fear means we dive into doing what XYZ Dr/Homeopath or our family say. Take a little time to dig into your intuition to see where YOUR healing path lies.

· It is going to mean that you make your own choices and choose your own path to healing even if those you care about disapprove of your choices. Don't let anyone try to force what they believe you should do onto you. Refuse be swayed by them.

· Accessing your intuition to choose your healing path. May need help doing this.

· Have a true vision for your health and a vision for what you want in your life beyond your health – the 'why' behind why you would love to be healthy. Why do you want to live? The why doesn't have to be about what you're going to do but can also be about what type of person you would love to be in the world, how you will feel ...

· Take stock of your life, all areas of your life.

· Consider why you got sick, not to blame yourself but to look for a route of healing. Take stock of your life. Look at and reassess all areas of your life – where may things be out of balance – work, family, eating, exercise, relationships.

· Finding your authentic voice, who you really are and what your true needs and values are (may need to give up the idea of who you think you are, for example the person who doesn't/shouldn't get sick).

· Take away the things in your life that take up time, energy and resource

· Getting the right help

· Exercising your courage muscle, your commitment muscle.

What is really important

· Learning to connect to what you'd love to create in your life in terms of your health but also in terms of your relationships, service, money, career, influence/friendships etc.

Finding and connecting to what you really love in life. This part can be very difficult and take time. We all have a heart that is longing to create what it loves. Another way of saying that is that we all have a spirit that is longing to express itself in a unique way through us.

Get to truly know yourself

· Unconscious beliefs

· Stories you have about your life and experiences

· Your world view

· Your fears – conscious and unconscious

· How you speak to and about yourself and others

· Your thoughts, feelings and habits.

· This takes time and practice and above all requires compassionate self-awareness.

· Getting in touch with that part of you that is beyond your body and mind, that is eternal

· Connecting to what makes your heart/spirit soar

· Your relationship to the Divine/Universal Laws/Energy

· Your relationship to the earth, nature and all living things

· You may have to throw out ALL your belief systems as I had to and bring back what really is your truth, bring in new ones, or change your perspective on existing ones.

Why is 'being all in' difficult to do?

· Modern medical/healing paradigm and even alternative healing paradigm– focus on the physical and 'fixing' the disease condition rather than creating health. Also, often on one size fits all. The Dr/healer is the authority, and the patient has no "power" over his/her own healing.

· Must swim against the stream often – go against what Drs, naturopath, friends, family, society say.

· Fear of failure and/or being laughed at, criticized for our choices or going against the popular social norms. We don't want to fail or be rejected for our choices. Swimming against the flow is difficult, but this is the place where extraordinary things happen.

· Wanting the disease to 'go away' or wanting to 'fix' what's wrong without understanding the message/gift in the disease and what it's trying to tell us.

· We want a quick fix and somebody else to solve our health problems.

· Not wanting to get out of our comfort zone. We want to heal, but we don't want to pay the price. Usually because we're scared that the price is going to be too 'high'/difficult for us. We don't want to give up things we love (sugar, wine) or have to do things that we don't like (eat vegetables for example or feel our feelings or leave jobs or relationships or move).

· We don't want to face the grief of not having the health that we have lost. We don't want to face the truth of where we are right now because it's painful for us. The gap between our reality and what we would love seems so big that we'd rather avoid the pain of facing that.

· Fighting, trying to conquer the disease or putting all your energy into being 'strong' or 'positive'.

· We don't want to do the "work", we have been programmed and socialized that there are quick fixes. Not just allopathic but self-help and spiritual world. You must do "the work" if you're all in, this takes time, effort, commitment and at times discomfort. Change/healing is not comfortable and takes effort.

· Pathways wired into our brain from childhood based on what worked when we were kids. We have to build new pathways, forge a new pathway in jungle of the brain. It's hard to create new habits. Takes time and struggle.

· Fear of 'what we might find about ourselves that we won't like' or of 'digging' up the past trauma or even changing our perspective of the past.

· Not staying curious/open. Thinking we know it all and don't need to do the work. We ignore working on the things we think we've already done or already know.

A few tips for being 'all in'

· Make your healing your primary goal, a project, your work.

· Find YOUR path to healing and throw everything you have at it. Know that the path to healing is not linear.

· Don't give your power away, you are more powerful than you know.

· Choose boldness and don't be afraid to swim upstream.

· Get to know yourself. Audit your life – your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, world view, stories about your past etc. I had to throw all my beliefs out …

· Figure where your Bliss lies, your best life -not anybody else's or what healers or you tube says. Anita Moorjani said- Not everyone has to stop eating cake, some have to accept that eating a slice of delicious cake on the beachfront occasionally is where their joy lies

· Stay curious – don't ever think you know.

· Get help – professional healing help, books, podcasts, therapy, coaching, doctors, healers etc.

· But also have to be brave enough and vulnerable enough to ask for help. Get your friend to look after kinds or ask for a lift to the hospital if you were single like me.

· It also requires saying YES more !!! To receiving help, to allowing what really inspires you, but first we have to figure that out – this can take time.

· Not feeling bad about looking after ourselves and saying what we need.

· Make space for solitude, time in nature, contemplation, nurture supportive relationships, and be part of a community.