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36. You just got cheated on, now what? | Mr. Jay (Part 2)


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What do you do in the very first moments after discovering betrayal? How do you cope with the shock, the grief, the anger, and the storm of triggers that follow?

In this follow-up conversation with Mr. Jay—Certified Betrayal Trauma Practitioner, Intrapersonal Relationship Coach, and author of From Tears to Transformation—we go deeper into the immediate aftermath of infidelity and the nuanced path toward rebuilding (or choosing not to).

We explore:

✨ What to do in the initial shock of betrayal—before making any big decisions
✨ Why connecting dots and “pain shopping” can deepen suffering
✨ Coping skills to calm triggers, emotional flashbacks, and body-based responses
✨ The difference between your personal, relationship, and rebuilding “gardens”
✨ Who to talk to (and who not to) after betrayal
✨ Why healing is not about “getting over it” but learning to manage it with power and compassion

Whether you are in the first raw days after discovering betrayal, or supporting someone walking through it, this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance for surviving the shock and learning to trust yourself again.

Connect with Mr. Jay:

🌐 Website: www.mrjayrelationshipcoach.com
📷 Instagram: @mrjayrelationshipcoach
🎥 YouTube: @BetrayalTraumaPractitioner
📘 Facebook: Mr Jay Relationship Coach
🎵 TikTok: @traumapractitionerjay

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Love with FrancescaBy Francesca Zoia