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What if everything you've been told about trauma making you stronger is actually allowing you to sink further into chaos? In this deeply personal conversation, we challenge the popular notion that suffering builds character and instead explore how trauma fundamentally rewires our nervous systems.
Our bodies become calibrated to chaos and uncertainty after traumatic experiences. This calibration explains why so many of us find ourselves unconsciously drawn to chaotic situations, destructive relationships, or overwhelming busyness—our nervous systems are desperately seeking the familiar, even when it hurts. We share vulnerable stories about how this has manifested in our own lives, from sabotaging healthy relationships to creating unnecessary drama when things feel too stable.
The concept of the "trauma loop" illuminates why traditional talk therapy sometimes falls short. When animals experience danger, they complete a full cycle—perceiving threat, responding, and then releasing that energy once safety is restored. Humans often interrupt this process, never fully processing or releasing the trauma. This explains why embodiment practices and somatic therapy can be transformative—they help complete the interrupted cycle and finally release what's been stored in our bodies.
Perhaps most enlightening is our discussion of how seemingly minor experiences—what therapists call "little t" trauma—can profoundly shape us. A man yelling at you when you're eight years old. A parent's dismissive comment. These micro-moments get stored in our bodies and influence how we navigate relationships decades later, often without our conscious awareness.
If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy patterns or why stable, loving relationships sometimes feel more threatening than chaotic ones, this episode offers clarifying insights and compassionate perspectives on healing. Your trauma is valid, your responses make perfect sense, and there is a path forward toward recalibrating your nervous system to recognize true safety.
Reach out to us on Instagram!
Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
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What if everything you've been told about trauma making you stronger is actually allowing you to sink further into chaos? In this deeply personal conversation, we challenge the popular notion that suffering builds character and instead explore how trauma fundamentally rewires our nervous systems.
Our bodies become calibrated to chaos and uncertainty after traumatic experiences. This calibration explains why so many of us find ourselves unconsciously drawn to chaotic situations, destructive relationships, or overwhelming busyness—our nervous systems are desperately seeking the familiar, even when it hurts. We share vulnerable stories about how this has manifested in our own lives, from sabotaging healthy relationships to creating unnecessary drama when things feel too stable.
The concept of the "trauma loop" illuminates why traditional talk therapy sometimes falls short. When animals experience danger, they complete a full cycle—perceiving threat, responding, and then releasing that energy once safety is restored. Humans often interrupt this process, never fully processing or releasing the trauma. This explains why embodiment practices and somatic therapy can be transformative—they help complete the interrupted cycle and finally release what's been stored in our bodies.
Perhaps most enlightening is our discussion of how seemingly minor experiences—what therapists call "little t" trauma—can profoundly shape us. A man yelling at you when you're eight years old. A parent's dismissive comment. These micro-moments get stored in our bodies and influence how we navigate relationships decades later, often without our conscious awareness.
If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy patterns or why stable, loving relationships sometimes feel more threatening than chaotic ones, this episode offers clarifying insights and compassionate perspectives on healing. Your trauma is valid, your responses make perfect sense, and there is a path forward toward recalibrating your nervous system to recognize true safety.
Reach out to us on Instagram!
Steph is here and Lurinda is here.