Summary:

Welcome to part two of our series on Divorce Season and how to avoid it. January is often called "divorce season," and we’re dedicating this month to helping you avoid becoming a statistic. In this episode, we tackle a crucial aspect of maintaining a thriving relationship: passion. We’ll explore the "Other Four Horsemen" that quietly erode intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how to overcome them. These hidden dynamics—Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism—may be undermining your relationship more than you realize. Learn to identify these behaviors and take actionable steps to build a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.

Part 1: Understanding the Other Four Horsemen

• Overview of "The Other Four Horsemen": Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism.
• Why these unconscious behaviors erode intimacy and create distance in relationships.

Part 2: Breaking Down Each Horseman

1. Neediness: Seeking constant validation and reassurance, which can exhaust your partner and kill attraction.

• Examples: Constant reassurance, clinginess, and overreacting to mistakes.
• Solution: Notice when you’re doing it, pause, and focus on meeting your own needs.

1. Childlike Behavior: Failing to live up to the expectations of adult partnership.

• Examples: Leaving messes, weaponized helplessness, and acting immaturely.
• Solution: Read the room, take responsibility for key tasks, and emulate adult role models.

1. Apathy: Neglecting to put effort into the relationship.

• Examples: Not being present, retiring romance, and losing empathy.
• Solution: Reconnect with gratitude, act with intention, and shift your perspective.

1. Transactionalism: Treating the relationship as a series of quid pro quo exchanges.

• Examples: Conditional love, keeping score, and using gifts as leverage.
• Solution: Shift your focus from what you’re getting to what you’re giving, and communicate intentions openly.

Part 3: Tools for Transformation

• Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward change.
• Small, intentional actions can have a big impact on reigniting passion and connection.
• Recommendations for additional insights:

Episode 7: Master Date Nights to Refuel Your Relationship.

Episode 23: Build A Bonfire: Steps to Reignite Your Relationship.

Episode 24: A Modern Hero’s Guide to Making More Love.

Episode 25: How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved and Get More Love in Return.

Key Takeaways:

• The "Other Four Horsemen" are subtle but powerful barriers to intimacy.
• Identifying and addressing these behaviors can transform your relationship.
• Reigniting passion doesn’t require grand gestures—small, consistent actions matter most.

Call to Action:

If you’re ready to dive deeper, book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com. Whether it’s a minor tune-up or a major overhaul, we’ll create a plan to help you move forward.

Closing Thoughts:

The foundation of a strong relationship is recognizing patterns that no longer serve you and committing to change. These small adjustments can pave the way for a more passionate and fulfilling connection with your partner.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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