Today, we’re answering real listeners’ real questions—in real time. These aren’t hypotheticals. These are the exact moments real men are living through right now. From growing resentment during the grind of entrepreneurship, to being blindsided by a breakup, to feeling stuck in a sexless marriage—these stories are raw, honest, and painfully common.

This episode offers direct insight and powerful next steps for three of the most frequent and emotionally charged issues I hear from high-performing men. If you’ve ever thought “This isn’t how I thought it would go,” this one’s for you.

TJ, a general contractor, shares how the early support in his marriage disappeared once the business got off the ground. His wife seems resentful of the very effort that’s keeping everything afloat.

Ellen explains why this shift is common—and why operational silos at home create the same disconnect as they do in business. Learn how to reengage your partner using the same leadership skills you apply in your company.

BZ, a startup CEO, thought he was doing everything right. But out of nowhere, his wife left. Now he’s questioning how he missed the signs—and how to prevent it from happening again.

Ellen unpacks the damaging myth of the “good provider,” and shows how structure, discipline, and communication systems (yes, like in business) are essential to staying connected. You’ll also get a 3-part framework to rebuild trust, clarity, and intimacy in your next chapter.

JQ’s relationship used to be physically intense and fun. Now? It’s dead quiet. He still wants his wife, but she’s not interested—and he’s terrified that this is just how it’s going to be from now on.

Ellen tackles this fear head-on by breaking down:

1. The myth of spontaneity
2. The Four Thieves of Desire
3. The critical role of vitality—physical, mental, and emotional—and how modern couples are running too lean to sustain passion

Plus: a bold, concrete suggestion most people never consider… but that might just be the key to restoring connection.

Even strong relationships suffer when communication systems break down—just like in business.

The “good provider” myth is deeply ingrained—and gets in the way of a passionate love life.

Desire doesn’t perpetuate itself. You have to create conditions where it can thrive.

If you're burned out, overextended, and running lean, don’t blame your relationship—fix your infrastructure.

Feeling stuck, confused, or disconnected in your relationship? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. It’s quick, private, and tailored to your specific situation. You’ll leave with clear action steps and a renewed sense of direction.

If any of today’s listener questions hit close to home, know that you’re not alone—and you’re not out of options. Rebuilding connection is possible when you know what you're up against and have the right tools to repair it. A few powerful strategies, can help you shift the dynamic and get back to a relationship that feels alive again.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

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In the second part of this deeply personal interview, Ellen breaks down the real-life lessons behind Manny Wolfe’s extraordinary story — from surviving a cult to confronting addiction and rebuilding his life. But this episode isn’t just about extreme experiences. If you're a business owner/entrepreneur trying to understand the connections between love, money, and self-knowledge, this episode will speak directly to your experience.

Ellen draws a direct line from Manny’s journey to the everyday challenges faced by high-performing men in relationships: solving the wrong problems, falling short of your own values, and overthinking instead of taking meaningful action. Whether you're struggling with relationship stress, emotional disconnection, or the pressure to succeed, this conversation offers raw insights and practical takeaways for creating a stronger, more connected partnership.

Part 1: Fixing the Wrong Problem

Manny and Ellen explore how high-performing men often try to solve relationship challenges by focusing on business success. They unpack the common trap of doubling down on work instead of addressing what your partner truly needs — presence, emotional connection, and attention.

Part 2: Honor, Integrity, and Self-Respect

This section dives into the idea of the “moral man” — the part of yourself that knows what’s right but can’t always stop you from making poor choices. It breaks down the ways men unintentionally betray their own code of honor in relationships, and how that damages both the partnership and their self-worth.

Part 3: Overthinking vs. Action

Manny shares how personal growth work and spiritual reflection became a way of hiding from real-world change. They discuss the pattern of analysis paralysis. They discuss how to catch yourself when it's time to stop reflecting and start doing.

• Misplaced effort is common: Like many men, Manny tried to fix his relationship by making more money — but that didn’t meet his partner’s real needs.
• Integrity matters: If you repeatedly act out of alignment with your values — through cheating, disrespect, emotional neglect, or passive-aggressive language — you’re not just damaging your relationship; you’re eroding your self-worth.
• Overthinking is a trap: There’s a fine line between spiritual growth and navel-gazing. Sometimes the most powerful move is to knock that shit off and just do what needs doing.
• Money isn’t evil — or magic: It's a neutral tool that can amplify your character. If you believe it’s bad or unimportant, you may unconsciously sabotage yourself and your relationship.
• Relationships are growth containers: They’re not just about comfort — they’re where you confront your deepest patterns and either grow or stagnate.

If Manny’s story made you reflect on your own situation — maybe it’s time for a conversation.

Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen and get clarity on your next step. It’s 15 minutes, one-on-one, and focused on solutions. Head to relationshipresetcall.com and grab your spot.

There’s real value in hearing another man’s story — not to compare, but to connect.

You may not have grown up in a cult or battled the same demons Manny did, but I bet something in his story landed with you. Maybe it mirrored a quiet part of your own experience — a time you ignored your gut, broke your own code, or kept thinking about taking action instead of actually doing it.

That’s why I share these conversations. Not because they’re dramatic, but because they’re true. And in that truth, there’s insight — the kind that can move you forward.

Let this be more than just something interesting you heard today. Let it be a reason to stop and ask yourself what part of your life is ready for change.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Read Manny's Book! The Tao of the Unbreakable Man

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Ellen Dorian sits down with speaker, author, and coach Manny Wolfe to explore how early life experiences, unresolved trauma, and subconscious patterns can trap us in relationship dynamics that feel like endless loops. From cult survival to addiction recovery, Manny brings raw honesty and deeply reflective insight into how our past silently shapes our present — especially in love.

This episode offers a candid look at how personal responsibility, emotional awareness, and a willingness to “do the work” can help us break those loops, even when the outcome is still uncertain.

Manny shares his upbringing in a cult, how that shaped his sense of identity and attachment, and how unresolved abandonment trauma created patterns in romantic relationships. Ellen and Manny unpack the way avoidant and anxious attachment styles often magnetize each other, and why so many of us unconsciously recreate the very pain we say we want to avoid.

They explore the story behind Manny’s viral post on the link between financial stress and relationship breakdown — and how some spiritual and psychological narratives can accidentally become excuses for avoiding action.

The conversation shifts toward taking full responsibility — not just for your healing, but for your choices. Manny shares the moment he realized that his “abandonment wound” might have been a red herring, distracting him from deeper, more practical issues. Together, they highlight how emotional insight and grounded strategy need to work together — not in opposition.

• Relationship patterns often trace back to unconscious childhood beliefs and unprocessed trauma.
• Avoidant and anxious attachment styles often attract each other — creating a painful but familiar dynamic.
• Financial issues are rarely just about money — but they're also not always about deep trauma.
• Healing is essential, but it’s not a substitute for taking real-world action.
• Long-term relationships are containers for growth — not just safe harbors.
• You can't force someone else to change, but you can be an influence and an inspiration.

If this conversation struck a chord and you're ready to break your own loop — whether it’s emotional, financial, or relational — set up your free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. In just 15 minutes, you’ll clarify your next move and leave with actionable steps that fit your real life.

🗓️ Book now at: relationshipresetcall.com

Your past may explain your patterns — but it doesn’t have to dictate your future. When you see the loop, you can step outside it. And when you take personal responsibility, you stop waiting to be rescued and start building the love you actually want.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Read Manny's Book! The Tao of the Unbreakable Man

Summary

Part 1: Why Vacations Matter

Ellen shares why vacations aren’t just for rest—they’re essential to creative thinking, leadership clarity, and strong relationships. She explains how time away creates space for emotional reset, presence, and reconnection with your partner (and yourself).

Part 2: Business, Boundaries, and Burnout

A reality check for entrepreneurs: If your business can’t run without you, it’s not scalable—or healthy. Ellen explains why systems, delegation, and leadership clarity are critical not just for growth, but for protecting your relationships and freedom.

Part 3: What Actually Counts as a Vacation

From solo reboots to all-inclusive resorts, creative retreats to digital detoxes—Ellen walks through a range of vacation types that can meet your current needs. She shares tips for working vacations, hybrid getaways, and how to rebuild trust if your partner is tired of you “sort of” unplugging.

• Presence is the currency of connection—and vacation is one of the best ways to earn it back.
• Time off isn’t indulgent—it’s strategic. Don’t wait until burnout forces your hand.
• If your business falls apart without you, that’s not a strength. It’s a systems and leadership gap.
• A working vacation can work—if you plan it right and treat your partner with intentionality.
• Rebuilding trust after too many “half unplugged” trips requires honesty, structure, and follow-through.
• Not all vacations need to be two weeks in Europe—find the flavor that fits your life right now.

If you know it’s time to get serious about both your business and your relationship being able to thrive without constant pressure on you—start by booking a Relationship Reset Call. It’s quick, private, free, and easy to schedule. And while it’s called a relationship reset, you should know: I work with business owners where the relationship issues and the business issues are tightly connected. Helping you untangle both—and find practical, strategic solutions at the point where they intersect—is my specialty. This is the first step toward building a life where your relationship is fulfilling, your business is sustainable, and you don’t have to carry the entire load alone.

Ask yourself:

What kind of vacation do I actually need right now?

Pick one. Plan it. Make it happen. Because your life—and your relationship—needs you in it, showing up in your full glory, not an exhausted shell of a man.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.show

Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

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In this final episode of the happiness series, Ellen Dorian brings everything together—why happiness matters, what gets in the way, and most importantly, how to actually build it. This episode is divided into three key parts:

1. A review of the series—Happiness in relationships, the barriers men face, busting the Happy Wife, Happy Life myth, and introducing the Relationship Energy Spectrum
2. An update on the Relationship Energy Spectrum.—How happiness, engagement, challenge and skills align, based on Jay Shetty’s insights on flow-state theory shared on the Diary of a CEO podcast.
3. Five no-BS strategies to take control of your own happiness—without toxic positivity, gratitude journals, or generic self-help advice.

Part 1: Why Happiness Matters & The Relationship Energy Spectrum

• Happiness isn’t a luxury—it directly impacts relationships and life satisfaction.
• The Happy Wife, Happy Life myth sets men up for failure by putting happiness outside their control.
• The Relationship Energy Spectrum (introduced in the last episode) helps men understand whether they’re engaged or disengaged in their relationship.

Part 2: How Flow State Theory & Happiness Align

• Jay Shetty explained Flow State Theory on Diary of a CEO—happiness comes from being fully engaged in what you’re doing. He explained that the brain needs challenge and skill to be balanced—too much challenge creates stress, too little creates boredom.
• The Relationship Energy Spectrum aligns with Flow State Theory:
• Flow = Engaged & Positive → Challenge and skills are balanced. Battle Stations = Engaged & Negative → Too much challenge, not enough skill. Comfort Zone = Disengaged & Positive → Skills too high, challenge too low → leads to boredom. Loveless Limbo = Disengaged & Negative → No challenge, no skill → leads to emotional numbness.
• Key Reflection Question: Do you need to seek out new challenges or up-level your skills to improve your relationship?

Part 3: 5 No-BS Strategies for Making More Happiness in Your Life

1. Shift from Goal-Driven to Impact-Driven Fulfillment

• Men often fall into the Achievement-Happiness Loop—chasing bigger goals but never feeling fulfilled.
• Hedonic Adaptation means every success quickly feels normal, leading to temporary highs and inevitable letdowns.
• Dr. Gad Saad explains that creativity is a major driver of happiness—people who build, innovate, and create experience deeper fulfillment than those chasing trophies.
• Legacy is more than money—the impact you create and the relationships you nurture are what truly matter.

2. Change Your Currency from Money to Time

• Once you quit seeking happiness through achievement, you need a new way to measure what truly matters. And if happiness is the goal, then the most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s time.
• A graph paper exercise helps visualize how many prime years of life are left—and how to use them wisely.
• The golf example: Golfers spend $10,000–$15,000 per year on the sport, but if they never have time to play, was that money (and time) well spent?
• Making decisions based on time gained, not money spent, leads to more freedom and happiness.

3. Cut the Bottom 10%

Inspired by Ellen's mentor, Leo Casey, who is a fractional CFO. Every year, cut the least valuable 10% of expenses, time-wasters, and commitments.

Apply the Four Rs: Remove, Reassign, Relegate, or Rehabilitate to free up mental bandwidth and time.

If your relationship is in the bottom 10%, don’t dump it—put it in rehabilitate mode and invest in making it a top 10% relationship.

4. Reconnect with the Natural World

The average man spends 93% of his life indoors—and it’s making them tired, stressed, and disconnected.

Science-backed ways to reset:

• Grounding: Walking barefoot rebalances the body's electrical charge → reduces stress, inflammation, and improves sleep.
• Forest Bathing: Trees release compounds that lower stress hormones and improve mental clarity.
• Salt therapy: Negative ions in ocean air improve breathing, mood, and sleep quality.
• Indoor solutions: Himalayan salt lamps, grounding mats, and NASA-approved indoor plants can replicate some of these benefits.

5. Make Happiness a Daily Practice

• Happiness isn’t a feeling—it’s a skill. The One-Minute Happiness SITREP rewires the brain:
• What made me feel even a little bit happy today?
• What’s one thing I can do tomorrow to get more of that?
• Over time, recognizing and creating happiness becomes second nature.

Many men get blindsided by their partner’s unhappiness because they mistake the Comfort Zone for a healthy relationship.

• Want personalized help applying these strategies? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.
• Join the conversation in the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook.
• Have thoughts on this episode? Email Ellen at [email protected] or connect with her on social media.
• Follow, Subscribe & Review to help more men access this content and strengthen their relationships.

• This episode wraps up the series on happiness, but the work doesn’t stop here. What’s one step you can take today to start making happiness instead of waiting for it to appear?
• How can you apply these five strategies in your life and relationship?
• If you’re serious about transforming your relationship, a little bit of support and expertise can go a long way, so don't try to do it all alone.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

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In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian introduces the Relationship Energy Spectrum and shows how your emotional state shapes the quality of your relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel disconnected, this episode will help you identify the key obstacles to happiness and show you how to shift your energy to create a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

• The Relationship Multiplier Effect: Happiness isn’t just personal—it’s relational.
• Why men enter relationships seeking happiness, yet often feel unfulfilled.
• The Relationship Drive Matrix: Our core motivations for relationships—seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, wanting connection, and avoiding isolation.

• The Achievement Trap: Men are conditioned to believe success = happiness, but external success doesn’t automatically create internal fulfillment.
• Emotional Suppression: Many men are raised to suppress emotions, making it hard to even recognize happiness when it happens.
• Social Resistance: Expressing too much happiness can trigger negative reactions, reinforcing stoic or disengaged behaviors.
• Uncle Joe’s Story: A real-life example of how unchecked resentment and emotional suppression can impact a man’s life and relationships.

• Flow State (Engaged Positive Energy): The ideal—high engagement, positive energy, deep connection.
• Battle Stations (Engaged Negative Energy): High engagement, but in constant conflict—resentment, arguing, keeping score.
• Comfort Zone (Disengaged Positive Energy): Coasting along, no real problems, but no spark or growth either.
• Loveless Limbo (Disengaged Negative Energy): No engagement, no positive energy—emotional disconnection and slow deterioration.

• Many men struggle with happiness because they've been conditioned to link it to external achievements. Success doesn’t automatically lead to fulfillment, and chasing goals without addressing internal happiness can leave you feeling empty.
• If you can’t identify happiness, you can’t cultivate it. Decades of emotional suppression and societal expectations can make it difficult for men to recognize, express, and sustain genuine happiness.
• Mapping where you stand in the Relationship Energy Spectrum is the first step to change. Once you know whether you’re in Flow State, Battle Stations, the Comfort Zone, or Loveless Limbo, you can take intentional steps toward shifting your energy and engagement in the relationship.

Over the next few days, pay attention to how you’re showing up in your relationship:

Are you engaged or disengaged?

Are you bringing positive or negative energy?

No judgment—just observe.

Need support? Set up a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com to get a clear path forward.

So far in this series on happiness, we’ve covered some big ideas. We started with how happiness affects relationships—how your personal fulfillment fuels connection, intimacy, and long-term passion. Today, we tackled what happiness actually is and how to identify it, breaking down the obstacles that make it hard for men to recognize, express, and experience happiness in their relationships.

Next week, we’ll get into the practical side—how to cultivate happiness for yourself, so you’re not just waiting for it to happen, but actively creating a life that feels fulfilling and energizing.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Is happiness an important topic for you? What questions do you have? What would you like to hear more about? Is there anything you agree or disagree with? I want you in on the conversation. Send me an email, drop into the P3 Insider’s Community, or set up a free Relationship Reset Call if you want to dig into your specific situation one-on-one.

And don’t forget—if you’re enjoying the series, hit follow, leave a review, or share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

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In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen kicks off a new series on happiness—what it actually is, why it matters, and how it plays into having a fulfilling, passionate relationship.

She tackles one of the biggest myths in relationships: "Happy Wife, Happy Life."

What’s the real truth about happiness in relationships?

Ellen introduces the Relationship Multiplier Effect, explaining why happier men tend to have happier wives. She shares client stories, expert insights, and real strategies for building happiness that fuels passion, connection, and fulfillment in relationships.

• Many men believe their role is to make their wife happy—and that doing so will result in a happy marriage.
• A 2014 study found that a wife’s unhappiness is more likely to lead to divorce, but a husband’s unhappiness doesn’t have the same impact.
• This leads to the wrong conclusion—that a man’s happiness doesn’t matter in a relationship.
• The truth: Men and women experience happiness differently. Men tend to compartmentalize and shift focus to work or hobbies when unhappy, while women connect their emotional well-being directly to the relationship.
• This misunderstanding is why so many men get blindsided by divorce.

• Ellen shares a real-life example from a client, JQ, who followed the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" model.
• He built the life his wife wanted, assuming that her happiness would bring them both fulfillment.
• The reality? He lost sight of what made him happy, working long hours to maintain a lifestyle that didn’t bring him joy.
• When he finally faced a personal crisis, he realized he no longer knew what happiness even looked like.

• Happier men tend to have happier wives.
• When you focus on your own fulfillment, you create a positive feedback loop in your relationship.
• Happiness spreads. Misery spreads. Which do you want in your relationship?
• A fulfilled man is more attractive, emotionally strong, and less demanding of validation.
• Happiness creates more presence, passion, and engagement, leading to stronger intimacy and connection.

• You can’t delegate happiness. You’re responsible for your own.
• Sacrificing your happiness doesn’t create a happy relationship—it creates burnout, resentment, and disconnection.
• Happiness in relationships is a multiplier—when you invest in your own fulfillment, it naturally strengthens your connection with your partner.

• What makes you happy?
• If you don’t know the answer, you won't want to miss the next episode.
• If you’re ready to take action in your relationship, book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. Let’s get you moving in the right direction.
• Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.

Happiness isn’t a luxury— it’s the foundation of every thriving, passionate relationship.

Your personal fulfillment is directly tied to the strength of your relationship. When you feel energized, when you feel engaged, when you feel alive—your relationship reflects that back to you.

If you’ve spent years focused on making everyone else happy while ignoring your own needs, then your relationship is going to feel the weight of that. And at some point, your partner will, too.

When was the last time you thought about what actually makes you happy? If you don’t know, that’s okay. That’s exactly what we’re tackling next time. Because before you can build a fulfilling life and relationship, you need to reconnect with yourself.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

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Date night should be something you both look forward to—not a routine obligation that fizzles out over time. In this episode, we revisit the best strategies for making date night exciting, meaningful, and passion-fueled. Learn how to break out of the "dinner and a movie" rut, create unforgettable experiences, and make date nights work for your relationship dynamic.

If you’re ready to level up your date nights and reignite that spark, this episode is for you!

• Many couples fall into a predictable routine that makes date nights feel like just another task.
• The biggest mistakes include:
• Repeating the same experiences without variety.
• Making date night feel like an obligation instead of an opportunity.
• Treating it as a bid for sex rather than a time for deepening connection.

Solution: The key to better date nights isn’t just spontaneity—it’s thoughtful planning with the right emotional elements.

Three phases:

1. Anticipation – Build excitement beforehand with playful teasing, surprises, and shared expectations.
2. Experience – Stay present, minimize distractions, and focus on your partner’s enjoyment.
3. Afterglow – Keep the emotional connection going beyond the night itself.

The 5 Emotional Elements That Elevate Date Night:

1. Fire – Create sexual tension and attraction.
2. Intensity – Deepen emotional and physical connection.
3. Immersion – Build a private "love bubble" where only the two of you exist.
4. Resonance – Show your partner they are seen, heard, and understood.
5. Harmony – Sync up with each other’s energy to create a natural flow.

Avoid the same-old routine by mixing up date types:

1. Romantic Date – Classic candlelit dinners, dancing, and celebrations.
2. Relaxed Date – Low-key nights at home, movie marathons, cooking together.
3. Reminiscing Date – Recreate your first date or revisit meaningful places.
4. Recreational Date – Physical activity like hiking, biking, or dancing.
5. Reaching Out Date – Volunteering or working on a cause together.
6. Risk-Taking Date – Trying something new or adventurous.
7. Reconciliation Date – Strategic dates to rebuild connection after conflict.

1. Date nights don’t have to be extravagant—but they do need to be intentional.
2. Vary your date types to keep the spark alive.
3. Use emotional elements to elevate the experience and make your partner feel truly connected to you.

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Date nights can be a game-changer in your relationship—when done right. By incorporating these strategies, you can create dates that fuel connection, passion, and intimacy, bringing you and your partner closer than ever.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship.

If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again.

• Why long-term relationships naturally become too serious—and how that kills connection.
• The big mistake couples make when they try to fix a stale relationship with logic.
• The Absurdity Principle: Why embracing the ridiculousness of lifelong commitment is the key to making it work.
• Rate your relationship’s fun level—if it’s below a 7, you need this episode.

1. The Surrender Date – Letting go of control leads to the best experiences.

• One partner plans everything—location, outfits, food, activities. The other just goes along for the ride.
• Why it works: Builds trust, creates surprise and excitement, and shakes up the usual relationship dynamic.
• Ideas to try: Blindfolded Outfit Challenge, Trying a Completely New Activity, or Over-the-Top Themed Date Night.

2. Whose Line Couples Edition – Improv your way to better connection.

• Inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway?, this game-based approach adds humor, novelty, and unpredictability into your relationship.
• Game options:
• Questions Only – Every response must be a question!
• Scenes From a Hat – Act out funny, flirty, or ridiculous scenarios.
• Props – Grab an object and invent as many crazy uses for it as possible.
• Want more scenes? Download the free list of 25 Couples Scenes From a Hat! [https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/]

3. Try Something Physical – Movement boosts connection, attraction, and chemistry.

• Ideas include: Couples dance classes, roller skating, sexy partner workouts, or even body painting.
• Why it works: Moving together builds chemistry in ways that words can’t.

People may not stop loving each other—but they often stop having fun together.

You don’t just fall into playfulness—you have to create it.

Trying something new together shakes up routines and reintroduces attraction.

Pick one approach and try it this week. DM Ellen or tag her in the P3 Insider's Community with your best moment!

Want more fun ideas? Grab the free Scenes From a Hat download at [YourLandingPage.com]!

Need help making this work? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com

"We all want fun, exciting, and playful relationships, but fun doesn’t just happen. You have to make space for it. You have to create it. And yeah, sometimes that takes effort. But wasn’t planning fun dates exciting when you first started dating? It was work, but it was high-reward work."

Start small – Pick just one playful thing this week.

Schedule it if you have to – Spontaneity is a myth; even early dating was planned.

Push through the awkwardness – Fun feels weird at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.

Download 25 Scenes from a Hat for Couples Here:

https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/

Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.show

Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected]

Or direct message me via social media:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

Or set up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me here:

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SUMMARY:

If you didn't listen to last week's Valentine’s Day Special—or you listened but didn’t take action—there’s a chance you’re going to be in the doghouse. And if that’s the case, you’re going to need a plan to get out.

In this episode, Ellen breaks down what the doghouse really is (hint: it’s not just about being in trouble), why it happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and, most importantly, how to get out and stay out—for good.

You’ll meet Bill, a VIP client who found himself in the doghouse without a clue. And, you’ll learn how to prevent disconnection, build stronger communication, so you can retire the doghouse dynamic from your relationship permanently.

Part 1: What Is the Doghouse and Why Does It Happen?

• The doghouse isn’t just about being in trouble—it’s an emotional space where one partner withdraws due to unmet expectations, unresolved frustrations, or a perceived lack of priority.
• How disconnection builds over time and why it can sneak up on high-performing men who are laser-focused on their careers.
• The "Friend Test" analogy: How relationship withdrawal mirrors friendships that fade when effort isn’t reciprocated.

Part 2: Case Study—Bill’s Story

• Bill, a VIP Client, shares his frustration about constantly ending up in the doghouse without knowing why.
• A deep dive into Bill’s missed bids for connection: an overlooked vacation plan and neglected smoke detector batteries—small actions that sent unintended messages to his wife.
• The realization: It’s often not about what you did, but what you didn’t do.

Part 3: How to Get Out—and Stay Out—of the Doghouse

• Ellen helps Bill align his actions with his intentions, track his commitments, and initiate a direct conversation to eliminate the doghouse dynamic.
• She lays out five actionable strategies to avoid disconnection and build a stronger relationship:

1) Recognize and respond to bids for connection.

2) Acknowledge and fulfilled promises.

3) Take immediate action on something small.

4) Open the conversation about the doghouse.

5) Establish regular check-ins.

• The doghouse isn’t a punishment—it’s a sign of disconnection.
• Small, repeated disappointments add up and push your partner to withdraw.
• The way out isn’t grand gestures—it’s consistent, meaningful action and open communication.
• You can’t fix what you don’t see, so learning to recognize your partner’s needs and following through is key to keeping your relationship strong.

So, as we wrap up this episode, ask yourself:

• What’s one small thing I can do today to reconnect with my partner?
• Where have I been missing bids for connection—and how can I start noticing them?
• How can I be more intentional about following through on my commitments?

 The doghouse isn’t just about being "in trouble"—it’s about disconnection. It happens when small disappointments, forgotten promises, and missed bids for connection pile up over time. If you’re in the doghouse, it probably didn’t happen overnight, and it won’t go away on its own. But you have the power to change it.

You can’t read your partner’s mind, but you can show up consistently, pay attention, and follow through on the things that matter to them.

Relationships aren’t about perfection—they’re about making each other feel seen, heard, valued and loved.

If you're stuck the doghouse, you don’t have to stay there. Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com. In just 15 minutes, you’ll get clear on what’s going on in your relationship and walk away with one or two actionable steps to start making real progress.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email.

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The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.show

Parent Company: The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.com

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected]

Or direct message me via social media:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

Or set up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me here:

relationshipresetcall.com