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Ellen Dorian explores hot war fighting tactics in relationships, discussing the escalation from Cold War to Hot War styles of conflict. She breaks down the spectrum of conflict, from bickering to brutality, and offers insights on recognizing and addressing unhealthy patterns.

Part 1: The Spectrum of Conflict

- Bickering as the turning point from Cold War to Hot War

- Arguing as a conscious form of conflict

- Fighting as a more aggressive, theatrical form of conflict

- Brutality as the dangerous extreme of relationship conflict

Part 2: Understanding Conflict Styles

- Cultural and family influences on conflict styles

- The impact of mixed conflict styles in relationships

- The difference between intensity and intimacy in conflicts

Part 3: Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Patterns

- Four questions to assess your conflict style

- The importance of seeking help for abusive situations

- Channeling passion into problem-solving and connection

- Cold War and Hot War are points on a single scale of escalating conflict

- Bickering is not harmless; it's the turning point to Hot War

- Intensity is not intimacy, even with makeup sex involved

- Conflict handled well can deepen connection and build trust

Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com for personalized guidance on improving their relationship dynamics.

Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it determines the health of your relationship. Learning to channel passion into building rather than destroying is key to a strong partnership.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Ellen Dorian explores the concept of "never fighting" in relationships, discussing various reasons why couples might claim they don't fight and the potential implications for their relationship health.

Part 1: Reasons for "Never Fighting"

- Disengagement and avoidance

- Temperament and perceptions

- Philosophy and healthy skills

Part 2: Analyzing "Never Fighting" in Relationships

- Looking beneath the surface

- Attacking the problem, not each other

- Practicing conflict resolution on small issues

Part 3: The Importance of Healthy Conflict

- Distinguishing between harmful avoidance and genuine compatibility

- Building intimacy through constructive disagreement

- Developing skills for incremental problem-solving

- "Never fighting" can indicate various relationship dynamics, both positive and negative

- Healthy relationships often involve constructive conflict resolution

- Incremental problem-solving can prevent major conflicts

Take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz for personalized insights into your relationship dynamics.

The absence of fighting doesn't necessarily indicate a healthy relationship. It's crucial to understand the underlying reasons and develop healthy conflict resolution skills.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Ellen Dorian, host of Make More Love, shares insights from her unexpected vacation in Lisbon, emphasizing the importance of balancing structure and spontaneity in both business and relationships. She discusses the need for resilience, planned breaks, and creating systems that allow for personal time off without compromising business operations.

Part 1: The Importance of Planned Breaks

- Ellen's unplanned vacation in Lisbon highlights the need for breaks before burnout

- Resilience as a core principle in Ellen's coaching model

- The balance between planning and spontaneity in business and life

Part 2: Lessons from Lisbon's Lifestyle

- Contrast between Lisbon's pace of life and typical American city life

- The blend of structure and flexibility in Lisbon's culture

- Airport workers' strike example: structure serving freedom

Part 3: Business Implications and Relationship Intersections

- The necessity of creating systems that allow business owners to take time off

- Connection between business operations and personal relationships

- Importance of scalability and delegation in business growth

- Don't wait for burnout to take a vacation

- Balance structure with flexibility in both business and personal life

- Create systems that allow your business to function without constant supervision

- Cultivate resilience through intentional planning and spontaneity

Book a free Relationship Reset call at relationshipresetcall.com to address business and relationship challenges.

Running a successful business isn't about controlling every detail, but about cultivating resilience and finding the right balance between structure and flexibility.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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Ellen Dorian addresses a listener's question about whether to end a long-term relationship, offering insights on recognizing emotional attachment, repairing relationships, and considering the hidden costs of divorce.

Part 1: Analyzing Emotional Disengagement

- Emotional clues indicating persistent attachment to a relationship

- The significance of anger, bargaining, and seeking validation

- Statistical insights on marital conflicts and desires for change

Part 2: Strategies for Relationship Repair

- Three-step approach to relationship improvement

- Importance of committing to repair regardless of outcome

- Shifting mindset and mapping out a strategy

- Introduction to the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs

Part 3: Considering Divorce and Its Hidden Costs

- Financial, social, and emotional impacts of divorce

- Real-life example of post-divorce challenges and successes

- Importance of inner work before making major relationship decisions

- Recognize emotional clues to determine readiness to end a relationship

- Implement a three-step strategy to improve relationship dynamics

- Understand and prepare for the hidden costs of divorce

- Focus on solving the right relationship problems using the Hierarchy of Needs

Take the free Relationship Dynamics quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz to identify the highest priority areas to improve in your relationship.

Or,

Schedule a Relationship Reset Call for a one on one walk through of your options at www.relationshipresetcall.com

Understanding when you are ready to end a relationship is never going to be easy. It's important to check in with yourself and follow the emotional clues that will show whether you are ready to move on. Whether you choose to stay or leave, focus on personal growth and healing. Your path forward should align with your values and long-term happiness.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



www.makemorelove.show

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

http://relationshipresetcall.com

Here's the episode on the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs:

https://www.makemorelove.show/episode-4-simplifying-the-complexities-of-relationship-dynamics/

Ellen Dorian discusses common mistakes made in restaurants that can ruin date nights, offering practical advice to enhance romantic experiences and strengthen relationships.

Part 1: Restaurant Etiquette and Date Night Atmosphere

- The importance of making reservations

- Avoiding rudeness towards restaurant staff

- Refraining from extreme menu customization

- Handling complaints discreetly

Part 2: Financial Considerations and Tipping

- Avoiding price audits and money talk at the table

- Handling tipping gracefully

- Checking menu prices online before the date

Part 3: Enhancing the Date Night Experience

- Being mindful of overstaying

- Maintaining proper table manners

- Keeping intimate behavior discreet

- Respecting restaurant property

- Plan the vibe and mood for your date night in advance

- Be fully present and engaged with your partner

- Treat restaurant staff with respect and kindness

- Handle any issues discreetly and away from the table

- Keep money discussions off the table during the date

- Consider moving to another venue for dessert or nightcap

Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to elevate your next date night and improve your overall relationship.

A successful date night can build momentum for daily intimacy and connection in your relationship.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.



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https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

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Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of enjoying time with your partner and offers strategies to bring fun and playfulness back into relationships, especially for busy professionals.

Part 1: Rediscovering Joy in Relationships

- Ellen emphasizes the significance of simply enjoying being together

- Introduces the concept of "affinity" from her relationship hierarchy of needs

- Encourages listeners to reflect on their favorite activities with their partner

- Addresses the challenge of relationships on autopilot due to busy lifestyles

Part 2: Strategies for Rekindling Fun

- Suggests recreating childhood summer memories as a date idea

- Shares personal examples of fun childhood activities

- Recommends asking partners about their favorite childhood memories

- Introduces the concept of "bids for connection" and their importance

Part 3: Overcoming Relationship Challenges

- Addresses concerns for relationships in serious trouble

- Introduces the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz

- Explains how to use childhood favorites as "bids for connection"

- Emphasizes the power of small, consistent gestures in building strong relationships

- Prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in your relationship

- Use childhood memories to create fun, playful experiences with your partner

- Small, consistent gestures are more effective than grand, infrequent gestures

- Taking initiative to improve your relationship can lead to positive changes

Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at makemoreloveShowQuiz.com and schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen to review your results and create an action plan.

Relationships require active effort to maintain and improve. Incorporating playfulness and fun can reignite the enjoyment that brought you together initially.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

www.makemorelove.show

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of balancing business growth with maintaining a healthy relationship. She emphasizes the risks of neglecting one's partnership while focusing solely on business success, and offers strategies to protect and nurture both aspects of life.

Part 1: The Blind Spot in Business Coaching

- Ellen shares insights from a recent business coaching conference

- Highlights the common oversight of relationship health in business coaching

- Introduces the concept of relationship autopilot and its pitfalls

Part 2: Common Relationship Delusions for Business Owners

- Explores five common misconceptions about relationships while building a business

- Discusses the dangers of assuming partner contentment and postponing relationship focus

Part 3: Strategies for Relationship Success

- Presents five business growth strategies applied to relationships

- Emphasizes the importance of strategic planning, resource management, and innovation in partnerships

- Investing in relationship support is crucial when growing a business

- Recognizing and addressing relationship issues early can prevent catastrophic outcomes

- Applying business strategies to relationships can lead to more effective problem-solving

- Take the Relationship Dynamics scorecard quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz

- Schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen at RelationshipResetCall.com

Ellen compares neglecting relationships to "skipping leg day" in fitness, emphasizing the importance of maintaining balance between business and personal life for overall success and fulfillment.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

www.makemorelove.show

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of intrinsic passion in relationships, focusing on sex and intimacy. She explores why passion fades, differences between men and women, and provides strategies to reignite passion.

Part 1: Understanding Passion in Relationships

- Sex as the "glue" of healthy relationships

- Differentiating between sex, passion, and intimacy

- Reasons for loss of interest in sex for men and women

- Rejecting the idea that passion naturally fades over time

Part 2: Rekindling Passion

- Three core habits supporting intrinsic passion: Vitality, Intimate Intensity, and Prioritizing Pleasure

- Five strategies to recharge passion:

1. Take responsibility for your own passion

2. Avoid keeping score

3. Replace magical thinking with proven methods

4. Let go of insecurities

5. Stop tolerating and take action

Part 3: Practical Application

- Immersing in passion-centered thinking

- Creating micro-moments of flirtation

- Planning connection-focused date nights

- Emphasizing intentionality in small, consistent actions

- Passion is built into relationships from the start and can be rekindled

- Understanding gender differences in passion can prevent misunderstandings

- Small, intentional actions can significantly impact relationship passion

Listeners are encouraged to try one strategy from the episode to reignite passion in their relationship and share their experiences.

Passion comes back by design, not by accident. Applying business growth strategies to relationships can lead to impressive changes.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



www.makemorelove.show

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses intentional presence as a crucial element in building passionate partnerships. She breaks down this concept into three core habits: attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience.

Part 1: Attentiveness

- Keeping focus and paying attention to your partner

- Active listening and remembering important details

- Weekly planning meetings and daily check-ins

Part 2: Authenticity

- Showing up as your true self and respecting your partner's truth

- The importance of honesty and integrity in building respect

- Avoiding the pitfall of not fully knowing your partner

Part 3: Resilience

- Extending grace and giving the benefit of the doubt

- Addressing conflict quickly and repairing breakdowns

- Building emotional elasticity to handle relationship tensions

- Intentional presence involves attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience

- Implement weekly planning meetings and daily check-ins to stay connected

- Be your true self and allow your partner to do the same

- Cultivate resilience by extending grace and addressing conflicts promptly

Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz to identify areas for improvement in your relationship. Visit MakeMoreLoveShowQuiz.com or find the link in the show notes.

Building intentional presence takes work, but it's crucial for creating a strong, passionate partnership where both partners feel supported and understood.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Host Ellen Dorian discusses the three core principles successful couples practice to maintain strong, lifelong relationships. She introduces the first principle, "Inclusive Purpose," and explains its importance in creating alignment and avoiding common relationship pitfalls.

Part 1: The Three Core Principles of Successful Relationships

- Inclusive Purpose

- Intentional Presence

- Intrinsic Passion

Part 2: Exploring Inclusive Purpose

- Definition: A harmonious sense of direction that honors both partners' values, dreams, and needs

- Three supporting habits: Harmony, Unity, and Clarity

Part 3: Implementing Inclusive Purpose

- Identifying shared and conflicting values

- Co-creating a future that accommodates individual dreams

- Making explicit agreements and avoiding assumptions

- Successful relationships require alignment on values, agreements, and direction

- Inclusive Purpose helps couples avoid growing apart and building resentments

- Clear communication and explicit agreements are crucial for trust and connection

Take the free Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz to gain clarity on your relationship issues and receive personalized recommendations.

Bringing clarity into every aspect of your relationship fosters trust, respect, and genuine connection. It's a process that takes time and adjustment but leads to greater safety and freedom in the partnership.

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen Dorian

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

www.makemorelove.show

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

http://relationshipresetcall.com