Date night should be something you both look forward to—not a routine obligation that fizzles out over time. In this episode, we revisit the best strategies for making date night exciting, meaningful, and passion-fueled. Learn how to break out of the "dinner and a movie" rut, create unforgettable experiences, and make date nights work for your relationship dynamic.

If you’re ready to level up your date nights and reignite that spark, this episode is for you!

Part 1: Why Most Date Nights Fail

• Many couples fall into a predictable routine that makes date nights feel like just another task.
• The biggest mistakes include:
• Repeating the same experiences without variety.
• Making date night feel like an obligation instead of an opportunity.
• Treating it as a bid for sex rather than a time for deepening connection.

Solution: The key to better date nights isn’t just spontaneity—it’s thoughtful planning with the right emotional elements.

Part 2: The Master Date Night Framework

Three phases:

1. Anticipation – Build excitement beforehand with playful teasing, surprises, and shared expectations.
2. Experience – Stay present, minimize distractions, and focus on your partner’s enjoyment.
3. Afterglow – Keep the emotional connection going beyond the night itself.

The 5 Emotional Elements That Elevate Date Night:

1. Fire – Create sexual tension and attraction.
2. Intensity – Deepen emotional and physical connection.
3. Immersion – Build a private "love bubble" where only the two of you exist.
4. Resonance – Show your partner they are seen, heard, and understood.
5. Harmony – Sync up with each other’s energy to create a natural flow.

Part 3: The 7 Types of Dates & How to Plan Them

Avoid the same-old routine by mixing up date types:

1. Romantic Date – Classic candlelit dinners, dancing, and celebrations.
2. Relaxed Date – Low-key nights at home, movie marathons, cooking together.
3. Reminiscing Date – Recreate your first date or revisit meaningful places.
4. Recreational Date – Physical activity like hiking, biking, or dancing.
5. Reaching Out Date – Volunteering or working on a cause together.
6. Risk-Taking Date – Trying something new or adventurous.
7. Reconciliation Date – Strategic dates to rebuild connection after conflict.

Key Takeaways:

1. Date nights don’t have to be extravagant—but they do need to be intentional.
2. Vary your date types to keep the spark alive.
3. Use emotional elements to elevate the experience and make your partner feel truly connected to you.

Call to Action:

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Closing Thoughts:

Date nights can be a game-changer in your relationship—when done right. By incorporating these strategies, you can create dates that fuel connection, passion, and intimacy, bringing you and your partner closer than ever.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

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Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship.

If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again.

Part 1: The Absurdity of Relationships & Why Fun Disappears

• Why long-term relationships naturally become too serious—and how that kills connection.
• The big mistake couples make when they try to fix a stale relationship with logic.
• The Absurdity Principle: Why embracing the ridiculousness of lifelong commitment is the key to making it work.
• Rate your relationship’s fun level—if it’s below a 7, you need this episode.

Part 2: 3 Ways to Bring Back Fun & Playfulness

1. The Surrender Date – Letting go of control leads to the best experiences.

• One partner plans everything—location, outfits, food, activities. The other just goes along for the ride.
• Why it works: Builds trust, creates surprise and excitement, and shakes up the usual relationship dynamic.
• Ideas to try: Blindfolded Outfit Challenge, Trying a Completely New Activity, or Over-the-Top Themed Date Night.

2. Whose Line Couples Edition – Improv your way to better connection.

• Inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway?, this game-based approach adds humor, novelty, and unpredictability into your relationship.
• Game options:
• Questions Only – Every response must be a question!
• Scenes From a Hat – Act out funny, flirty, or ridiculous scenarios.
• Props – Grab an object and invent as many crazy uses for it as possible.
• Want more scenes? Download the free list of 25 Couples Scenes From a Hat! [https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/]

3. Try Something Physical – Movement boosts connection, attraction, and chemistry.

• Ideas include: Couples dance classes, roller skating, sexy partner workouts, or even body painting.
• Why it works: Moving together builds chemistry in ways that words can’t.

Key Takeaways:

People may not stop loving each other—but they often stop having fun together.

You don’t just fall into playfulness—you have to create it.

Trying something new together shakes up routines and reintroduces attraction.

Call to Action:

Pick one approach and try it this week. DM Ellen or tag her in the P3 Insider's Community with your best moment!

Want more fun ideas? Grab the free Scenes From a Hat download at [YourLandingPage.com]!

Need help making this work? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

"We all want fun, exciting, and playful relationships, but fun doesn’t just happen. You have to make space for it. You have to create it. And yeah, sometimes that takes effort. But wasn’t planning fun dates exciting when you first started dating? It was work, but it was high-reward work."

Start small – Pick just one playful thing this week.

Schedule it if you have to – Spontaneity is a myth; even early dating was planned.

Push through the awkwardness – Fun feels weird at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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SUMMARY:

If you didn't listen to last week's Valentine’s Day Special—or you listened but didn’t take action—there’s a chance you’re going to be in the doghouse. And if that’s the case, you’re going to need a plan to get out.

In this episode, Ellen breaks down what the doghouse really is (hint: it’s not just about being in trouble), why it happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and, most importantly, how to get out and stay out—for good.

You’ll meet Bill, a VIP client who found himself in the doghouse without a clue. And, you’ll learn how to prevent disconnection, build stronger communication, so you can retire the doghouse dynamic from your relationship permanently.

Part 1: What Is the Doghouse and Why Does It Happen?

• The doghouse isn’t just about being in trouble—it’s an emotional space where one partner withdraws due to unmet expectations, unresolved frustrations, or a perceived lack of priority.
• How disconnection builds over time and why it can sneak up on high-performing men who are laser-focused on their careers.
• The "Friend Test" analogy: How relationship withdrawal mirrors friendships that fade when effort isn’t reciprocated.

Part 2: Case Study—Bill’s Story

• Bill, a VIP Client, shares his frustration about constantly ending up in the doghouse without knowing why.
• A deep dive into Bill’s missed bids for connection: an overlooked vacation plan and neglected smoke detector batteries—small actions that sent unintended messages to his wife.
• The realization: It’s often not about what you did, but what you didn’t do.

Part 3: How to Get Out—and Stay Out—of the Doghouse

• Ellen helps Bill align his actions with his intentions, track his commitments, and initiate a direct conversation to eliminate the doghouse dynamic.
• She lays out five actionable strategies to avoid disconnection and build a stronger relationship:

1) Recognize and respond to bids for connection.

2) Acknowledge and fulfilled promises.

3) Take immediate action on something small.

4) Open the conversation about the doghouse.

5) Establish regular check-ins.

Key Takeaways:

• The doghouse isn’t a punishment—it’s a sign of disconnection.
• Small, repeated disappointments add up and push your partner to withdraw.
• The way out isn’t grand gestures—it’s consistent, meaningful action and open communication.
• You can’t fix what you don’t see, so learning to recognize your partner’s needs and following through is key to keeping your relationship strong.

 

Closing Thoughts:

So, as we wrap up this episode, ask yourself:

• What’s one small thing I can do today to reconnect with my partner?
• Where have I been missing bids for connection—and how can I start noticing them?
• How can I be more intentional about following through on my commitments?

 The doghouse isn’t just about being "in trouble"—it’s about disconnection. It happens when small disappointments, forgotten promises, and missed bids for connection pile up over time. If you’re in the doghouse, it probably didn’t happen overnight, and it won’t go away on its own. But you have the power to change it.

You can’t read your partner’s mind, but you can show up consistently, pay attention, and follow through on the things that matter to them.

Relationships aren’t about perfection—they’re about making each other feel seen, heard, valued and loved.

Call to Action:

If you're stuck the doghouse, you don’t have to stay there. Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com. In just 15 minutes, you’ll get clear on what’s going on in your relationship and walk away with one or two actionable steps to start making real progress.

 

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email.

Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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In this Valentine’s Day special episode, Ellen Dorian dives into the history, meaning, and modern-day pressures of the holiday. Whether listeners are diehard romantics or Valentine’s Day cynics, Ellen provides practical advice and creative ideas to help them plan a day that fits their relationship. From understanding their partner’s expectations to avoiding last-minute stress, this episode is packed with insights to make Valentine's Day a meaningful and stress-free experience.

Part 1: Understanding Valentine's Day

• A look at the origins of the holiday, including its rebellious roots in ancient Rome.
• Why Valentine’s Day can feel commercialized and how shifting perspectives can help.
• The significance of aligning with or acknowledging a partner's attachment to the day.

Part 2: Meeting Relationship Expectations

• The importance of understanding a partner’s expectations for Valentine's Day.
• The consequences of ignoring the holiday if it's important to one partner.
• Two options: setting clear boundaries or using the holiday to strengthen the relationship.

Part 3: Planning a Personalized Valentine’s Day

Strategies for different types of relationships:

• Partners who are indifferent to the holiday.
• Partners who want something special but aren’t tied to traditions.
• Traditionalists who expect classic Valentine’s Day elements (roses, chocolates, fancy dinner).

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding how a partner feels about romantic gestures can prevent miscommunication and disappointment.
• Thoughtful, personalized efforts go a long way in building a stronger, more affectionate relationship.
• Planning ahead ensures less stress, fewer mistakes, and a better overall experience.

Call to Action:

Listeners can download the Ultimate Valentine’s Day Planning Kit to get a head start on their planning. The kit includes a timeline, curated gift ideas, and a planner to keep everything organized.

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Closing Thoughts:

Ellen encourages listeners to take one small step to elevate their next Valentine’s Day, whether this year’s celebration is a hit or a lesson learned. Showing a partner that they are understood and appreciated strengthens intimacy, affection, and resilience in the relationship.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

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"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
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In the final episode of our Avoiding Divorce series, Ellen explores what happens when couples no longer want the same things in life. She breaks down the three main reasons this misalignment occurs, the emotional dynamics that make it worse, and the three principles to help get your relationship back on track. This is about rediscovering or even defining, for the first time, a shared vision for your future—one that keeps you and your partner aligned, connected, and moving forward together.

Part 1: Why Couples Lose Their Shared Vision

Ellen explains how many divorces are driven by couples who say, "We just didn’t want the same things anymore."

3 Reasons for misalignment:

• Goals and priorities diverge over time.
• There was never a shared vision to begin with.
• One partner drastically changes the trajectory of the relationship.

Part 2: Emotional Dynamics That Worsen the Problem

• Loss of respect undermines trust and collaboration.
• Loss of confidence in the plan can lead to pretending and disengagement.
• Emotional withdrawal (discussed in Episode 26, Dead Quiet: Is Stonewalling Killing Your Relationship?) creates distance that grows over time.

Part 3: The Three Principles to Get Back in Sync

Principle 1: Switch off Autopilot and Re-Engage

• Let go of magical thinking—your relationship won’t fix itself.
• Reflect on this question: What will my relationship look like in 10 years if nothing changes?
• Take control of your future and create the relationship you want.

Principle 2: Create a Vision You Can Believe In

• If you're uncertain about your relationship's future, progress will be hard.
• Paint a picture of a realistic future you and your partner would want to stay in.
• This vision needs to reflect both your dreams and your partner's.

Principle 3: Co-Create a Shared Vision

• Once you have clarity, collaborate with your partner to merge your visions.
• Sit on the same side of the table, working as a team to tackle alignment.
• You don’t need to agree on everything—find common ground and create a future you both feel excited about.

Key Takeaways:

• You can reconnect with your partner if you’ve lost your shared vision.
• Start by taking action on your own—get clear on your own vision before involving your partner.
• Build a shared vision that balances both partners' dreams and goals, so you can work toward a future you both want to stay in.

Call to Action:

• Book a Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.
• Follow or subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes.
• Leave a review to help others find the show.
• Share this episode with someone who might need it.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners that divorce season can become recommitment season—an opportunity to realign and rebuild a stronger, more connected relationship. Relationships aren’t bulletproof, but by cultivating passion, presence, and purpose, you can weather life’s challenges together.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
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In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian explores the impact of betrayal on relationships and how it undermines trust, presence, and purpose—the key drivers of a passionate partnership. Ellen introduces the S*H*I*T Model, a practical framework designed to help listeners process betrayal, rebuild trust, and move forward, whether that means repairing the relationship or deciding to let it go.

Part 1: Betrayals vs. Disappointments

• The difference between disappointments and betrayals: Disappointments don’t usually erode trust, but a pattern of consistent letdowns can lead to betrayal.
• Betrayals involve forethought and perception, making them uniquely damaging to trust and connection.

Part 2: The S*H*I*T Model

• Phase 1: Crap or Get Off the Pot – Decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust or if it’s time to let go.
• Phase 2: Climb Off the Crap Pile – Let go of resentment and unrealistic expectations that keep you stuck.
• Phase 3: Compost That Crap – Turn lessons from betrayal into personal and relational growth through actionable steps.

Part 3: Practical Advice

• Learn how to let go of the “resentment story” and societal fairy tales about relationships.
• Focus on personal growth, rebuilding trust incrementally, and creating a shared relationship model.
• When necessary, seek guidance from a coach or counselor to work through unresolved issues.

Key Takeaways:

1. Not all letdowns are betrayals. Disappointments hurt but don’t usually erode trust, while betrayals strike at the foundation of the relationship.
2. The S*H*I*T Model helps you decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust. It walks you through a process to determine whether you’re prepared to do the work.
3. Decisiveness and letting go come first. Commit to staying or leaving, and release resentment before addressing the betrayal itself.

Call to Action:

Ellen created a free downloadable worksheet to guide you through the S*H*I*T Model. Use it to figure out where you stand and the steps you can take to move forward. If you need personalized support, book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

Next week, Ellen will wrap up the Avoiding Divorce series with a discussion on regaining alignment in your relationship and how to create a shared vision for the future.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

S*H*I*T Model Worksheet: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12u7PnW5OSu-ac28ckuoDCoryDW-Zl-vv/view?usp=sharing

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Summary:

Welcome to part two of our series on Divorce Season and how to avoid it. January is often called "divorce season," and we’re dedicating this month to helping you avoid becoming a statistic. In this episode, we tackle a crucial aspect of maintaining a thriving relationship: passion. We’ll explore the "Other Four Horsemen" that quietly erode intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how to overcome them. These hidden dynamics—Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism—may be undermining your relationship more than you realize. Learn to identify these behaviors and take actionable steps to build a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.

Part 1: Understanding the Other Four Horsemen

• Overview of "The Other Four Horsemen": Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism.
• Why these unconscious behaviors erode intimacy and create distance in relationships.

Part 2: Breaking Down Each Horseman

1. Neediness: Seeking constant validation and reassurance, which can exhaust your partner and kill attraction.

• Examples: Constant reassurance, clinginess, and overreacting to mistakes.
• Solution: Notice when you’re doing it, pause, and focus on meeting your own needs.

1. Childlike Behavior: Failing to live up to the expectations of adult partnership.

• Examples: Leaving messes, weaponized helplessness, and acting immaturely.
• Solution: Read the room, take responsibility for key tasks, and emulate adult role models.

1. Apathy: Neglecting to put effort into the relationship.

• Examples: Not being present, retiring romance, and losing empathy.
• Solution: Reconnect with gratitude, act with intention, and shift your perspective.

1. Transactionalism: Treating the relationship as a series of quid pro quo exchanges.

• Examples: Conditional love, keeping score, and using gifts as leverage.
• Solution: Shift your focus from what you’re getting to what you’re giving, and communicate intentions openly.

Part 3: Tools for Transformation

• Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward change.
• Small, intentional actions can have a big impact on reigniting passion and connection.
• Recommendations for additional insights:

Episode 7: Master Date Nights to Refuel Your Relationship.

Episode 23: Build A Bonfire: Steps to Reignite Your Relationship.

Episode 24: A Modern Hero’s Guide to Making More Love.

Episode 25: How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved and Get More Love in Return.

Key Takeaways:

• The "Other Four Horsemen" are subtle but powerful barriers to intimacy.
• Identifying and addressing these behaviors can transform your relationship.
• Reigniting passion doesn’t require grand gestures—small, consistent actions matter most.

Call to Action:

If you’re ready to dive deeper, book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com. Whether it’s a minor tune-up or a major overhaul, we’ll create a plan to help you move forward.

Closing Thoughts:

The foundation of a strong relationship is recognizing patterns that no longer serve you and committing to change. These small adjustments can pave the way for a more passionate and fulfilling connection with your partner.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
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In this episode of The Make More Love Show, Ellen explores why January is often called "Divorce Season" and reframes it as the perfect time for a Relationship Wake-Up Call. She introduces the concept of the "Recommitment Season" and explores the reasons why this time of year is critical for relationships. Ellen discusses the warning signs of relationship trouble, the costs of divorce, and how gaining clarity can empower you to take control of your future.

Part 1: Why January Is Known as Divorce Season

Ellen outlines the four key reasons January is known for a spike in divorces: the holiday letdown, business stress, financial reviews, and resolutions for fresh starts. These factors combine to make January a turning point for many couples.

Part 2: Assessing Your Relationship

Using the analogy of wine, vodka, or fish, Ellen helps listeners evaluate their relationship's current state. Is it improving, stagnant, or deteriorating? She explains how each state ties to the risks of divorce and what action steps might be appropriate.

Part 3: The Emotional, Social, and Financial Costs of Divorce

Ellen emphasizes the devastating impact divorce can have emotionally, socially, and financially, particularly for business owners. She explains how the financial toll often starts years before divorce papers are filed, with overspending, poor financial decisions, and the stress of a deteriorating relationship.

Key Takeaways:

1. January is a pivotal month—use it to reflect on your relationship.
2. Assess whether your relationship is like wine, vodka, or fish to understand where you stand.
3. Gaining clarity about your options can help you make better decisions and take control of your future.

Call to Action:

If you’re considering divorce or feeling stuck in your relationship, take advantage of Ellen’s free Relationship Reset Call. This 15–20 minute session gives you a chance to brainstorm options and gain a fresh perspective. Schedule your call at relationshipresetcall.com.

Closing Thoughts:

"January doesn’t have to be Divorce Season—it can be your Recommitment Season. Whether you’re ready to rebuild your relationship or simply gain clarity about your options, I’m here to help you take the next step."

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
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The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.



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In this special holiday episode, Ellen Dorian reflects on the Spirit of Generosity, a concept she learned from her father and continues to embody in her coaching. Through heartfelt storytelling, she introduces the five aspects of generosity—emotional, relational, philosophical, action-oriented, and legacy-focused—and shares actionable ways to bring these into your relationships. This episode is a guide to creating deeper connections, fostering trust, and leaving a meaningful legacy for your loved ones.

Part 1: A Holiday Story About Generosity

• Ellen shares a moving story about her father’s approach to Christmas and the lessons he imparted through the concept of Santa Claus as the embodiment of generosity.
• She recounts her dad’s final gift to her, The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry, and how it symbolizes selflessness, love, and sacrifice in relationships.

Part 2: The Five Aspects of Generosity

• Emotional Generosity: Giving time, attention, and love freely without expecting anything in return. Includes practical tips like using a “root cause analysis” approach to stay present during emotional conversations.
• Relational Generosity: Paying attention to your partner’s needs and stepping in to share the mental load. Features the “By The Clock” exercise to anticipate and address tasks proactively.
• Philosophical Generosity: Cultivating a mindset of abundance by focusing on gratitude and appreciation rather than scarcity or criticism.
• Action-Oriented Generosity: Doing what you say you’ll do, being reliable, and supporting your partner when it matters most, even when it’s inconvenient.
• Legacy of Generosity: Building a lasting impact through selflessness in relationships, modeled after her father’s example.

Part 3: Holiday Reflections

• Ellen encourages listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity during the holiday season and to pass it forward in their own lives.
• She reminds listeners that the greatest gift they can give their children is the example of a passionate and connected partnership.

Key Takeaways:

1. Generosity is More Than Money. True generosity lies in how you give your time, attention, and care to those you love. It’s about showing up fully and selflessly in ways that matter most.
2. Emotional and Relational Generosity Build Connection.Trust and connection grow when you’re emotionally present and proactive in supporting your partner’s needs—whether by sharing the mental load or simply listening with focus and care.
3. Your Legacy Begins in Your Relationships.The most impactful legacy you leave isn’t material; it’s the example you set in your relationships. Cultivating a passionate and connected partnership shapes how your children and loved ones approach their own connections.

Call to Action:

Feeling stuck in your relationship? Schedule a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to identify key challenges and create a plan to move forward.

Visit relationshipresetcall.com to book your spot.

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen closes with a heartfelt wish for joy, peace, and love during the holiday season. She invites listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity and leave a legacy their loved ones will treasure.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.



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[SUMMARY]

Gift-giving during the holidays or special occasions can be a minefield, especially when it comes to significant others. This week, Ellen dives into a common mistake many partners make: giving a gift card without much thought—and how it can unintentionally hurt your relationship. She shares a real-life story from a client and offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to turn even a gift card into a meaningful experience that shows your partner how much you care.

Part 1: Why Gift-Giving Feels So Hard

Ellen breaks down the common frustrations and challenges of holiday gift-giving:

• Why partners with “everything” are difficult to shop for.
• How big-ticket items and personal preferences make gift-giving feel impossible.
• Why a gift card might seem practical but can come across as thoughtless.

She also unpacks what the phrase “It’s the thought that counts” really means—and how partners interpret effort differently.

Part 2: A Client’s Gift-Giving Dilemma

Ellen shares the story of her client, JT, who struggled to find a gift for his wife after past failures—including a gift card disaster that caused resentment. She explores why this scenario is so common and how frustration can lead to gift-giving procrastination or avoidance altogether.

Part 3: The Solution—Make It an Experience

Ellen lays out a step-by-step plan for turning a gift card or shopping budget into a meaningful and personal experience:

1. Create a beautifully wrapped certificate for a shopping day together.
2. Plan ahead by contacting stores and arranging a curated selection within budget.
3. Elevate the experience with lunch, dinner, or thoughtful details that show care and effort.She also provides ideas for scaling the experience to different preferences, budgets, and logistics.

Key Takeaways:

1. A great gift isn’t about the price—it’s about the thought and effort behind it.
2. Focusing on an experience over a “thing” creates connection and shows your partner you value them.
3. Planning even simple details, like arranging a private shopping experience, can make all the difference.

Call to Action:

If you’ve ever struggled with gift-giving, this episode is your chance to rethink your approach and create a meaningful moment with your partner. For more personalized advice, schedule a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen or join the conversation in the P3 Insider’s Community. Links are below!

Closing Thoughts:

Ellen reminds listeners that putting thought into a gift is about more than avoiding conflict—it’s about deepening your connection and showing your partner they matter.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

PS:

custom jewelry design info:

https://www.instagram.com/dorianjewelers/

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian
Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.



Make More Love Show Website:

www.makemorelove.show

Parent Company - The Passionate Partners Project:

www.passionatepartnersproject.com

Join Our Passionate Partners Insider Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105

Contact Me Directly:

Email: [email protected]

Or direct message me via social media:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/

LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/

Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz:

http://makemorelove.show/quiz

Set up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:

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