Losing a child not only destroys our own world but it's very upsetting to those who love and care about us as well.   They often try to say and do things to help us out of our blinding pain.  To this day, I have so much appreciation for everyone who showed up for me and my family when Sam died.   I also understand that as humans, we show up for the people we love in the best way we know how. 

Unfortunately, there is very little people can say to help us during this time and sometimes, they end up saying things that are actually hurtful.   

When Sam died, there were things said to me didn't make sense or feel good to hear, even though delivered in good faith and with love, and that is what this episode is about.   

Today, I discuss 5 things that were said to me, each at least a couple of times when Sam died, and why they didn't feel helpful.  I also talk about a few of the ways that people showed up for me that did help very much.   

Thank you for listening.