Forgiveness is a release. Anger lurks in the absence of forgiveness. Like a Loch Ness monster anger will lie beneath the surface of all your life experiences and lurk around every corner. When we have been stung by anger and hold onto anger, we guard and brace against life, missing the good and creating the bad. And when you guard and brace you block trust.

With trust you are open. Open to receiving all things. Good and bad. Without it, you don’t trust that all good things will happen. In this way, a lack of trust- pre-disposes us to undesirable experiences. Its natural to live with a negativity bias, but without forgiveness in your heart the bias is increased tenfold. Having a lack of forgiveness interferes with your ability to have a better life.

Divorce is an excellent opportunity to learn and practice forgiveness. Forgiveness of others, of course, but most importantly forgiveness of one’s self. Because the greatest gifts of life can only come when one truly trusts himself. It’s in trusting ourselves that we learn to trust others and love again.