Let's be real here, nobody likes feeling tension between yourself and another person… but what's even worse is initiating the hard conversation that needs to happen to eliminate that tension. That brings us to round 4 of The Fight Series: You, Me, and the Elephant in the room!

Think about your significant other for a minute here…. What signs do they give you when they need to get something off their chest. Are they stoic, do they drop hints, does their demeanor change?

We tend to get into our heads and building up unnecessary anticipation before approaching the hard conversations. Why do you think that is? You're having conversations with your SO all the time, so why are these conversations so tough for us to bring up?

Today we're going to cover some of the main sore points such as time & money and how you can approach these topics in a way that you can eliminate any future contentious fights.

What are some fights you've experienced? What are your 'hot topics' that seem to come up over and over again? Do you have any helpful tips on how you either prevented those fights or resolved them in a healthy way? Let us know in the comments on the episode page!

 

In this episode you'll learn…

• How establishing goals as a couple can help alleviate unnecessary tension
• Why it's important to have an open mind and allow yourself to be wrong
• What our personal tendencies are when something is wrong and how we approach each other

 

Quotes:

"If we know that we can really have the ability to be able to prioritize that really special time together- then we may be more open to having those conversations." (9:57)

"There is only one person you can actually control in any relationship, and that's yourself." (17:25)

 

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