Being Curious with Knomii

4 - Why It's So Hard To Make Friends As Adults (And How To Do it)


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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Feeling like none of your friendships (or very few) go more than skin deep? Or maybe you're feeling like making friends is a skill you simply don't have. 

No matter how you're coming to the conversation, we've been there and our clients have, too. In today's episode, we break down how to get deep in your friendships and really find value in the connections you make. 

What we discussed:


(00:44) Intro of topic: Why do my friendships feel so superficial?


(01:43) Changing our expectations of friendships


(02:40) The disconnect when it comes to connecting


(04:40) Connecting based on values


(09:17) Using deep friendships as a template


(10:58) Not having enough time to forge friendships


(13:24) Connecting through vulnerability


(18:22) Vulnerability vs. openness 


(19:39) Getting out of the "openness trap"


(23:11) Encouraging more vulnerability in our friendships


(26:49) Quotes from Cynthia


(28:17) Closing notes and contact information


For further reading and tools: 


Tools and resources we discussed in the episode:


- Think of the people in your life whom you get value from. What qualities do they bring out in you? What qualities do they have that you enjoy?  


- Check-in with yourself on what your expectations are around friendship. What does a "good friend" look like for you?


- Do an openness vs. vulnerability check. Are you giving and receiving in your friendships? How might you show up with more vulnerability the next time you're with someone?


More resources to explore this topic:


The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown


"The Friendship Files" by The Atlantic


Want to get in touch? 


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Hosts & Guests


Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host


Madeline Farquharson   Host


Information


Show: The Knomii Podcast


Published 10/24/2022


Season 1


Rating: Clean


Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly


Length: 30 min


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