Being Curious with Knomii

Madeline and Cynthia are BACK after a hiatus and ready to dive deep into the power of curiosity! This episode explores their personal journeys of self-discovery, vulnerability, and the importance of community support. They share candidly about the reasons behind their break, including navigating scarcity mindsets, the drama triangle, and the challenges of balancing personal needs with the demands of life and business. Tune in for insightful reflections, practical wisdom, and a renewed commitment to curiosity and connection.

• The Drama Triangle: Madeline and Cynthia revisit the drama triangle (victim, rescuer, persecutor) and how it can manifest in our relationships and thought patterns, hindering genuine connection.
• Self-Awareness and Attunement: They emphasize the importance of checking in with oneself, recognizing personal needs, and prioritizing self-care amidst life's challenges.
• The Power of Community: This episode highlights the vital role of community support, vulnerability, and shared experiences in personal growth and well-being.
• Expansion vs. Scarcity: Madeline and Cynthia discuss the contrast between expanding into joy and abundance versus contracting into fear and scarcity, and how to navigate these shifts.
• Consumption vs. Creation: They explore the balance between consuming information and creating output, emphasizing the importance of sharing stories and experiences.
• Returning to Self: The episode concludes with a powerful message of self-acceptance, trust, and the courage to be vulnerable and authentic.

Quote:

• "Sometimes we go back to our old life for a little while to remember that it no longer fits." - Young Pueblo (shared by Cynthia)

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

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Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 10/15/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 31 min

Episode 9

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We're so glad to be back! Thank you for your patience and support. We appreciate you being a part of the Knomii community.

Are you stuck in repetitive, unhelpful and even codependent patterns in your relationships? Well, you're not alone; this episode is about breaking that cycle. I'm diving into the intriguing world of the Drama Triangle, introduced by Stephen Karpman. This concept has been a game-changer for me, and I think it could be for you too!

In this episode, we're exploring those all-too-familiar roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, and how they might be secretly running the show in your relationships. But here's the cool part: I'm also introducing you to the Empowerment Dynamic, a fantastic approach by David Emerald that flips the script and transforms these roles into something positive and, well, empowering!

I'll share my own journey (spoiler alert: it's been quite a ride!) and give you some real, tangible ways to shift from feeling stuck to feeling in control. We'll talk about becoming a Creator in your life, embracing challenges, and coaching others (and yourself!) to find solutions that work. This video is not just theoretical; it's packed with actionable steps and reflection exercises to help you make meaningful changes in how you relate to others.

Whether you're dealing with recurring conflicts or seeking to enhance your relationships, this video is a must-watch. You'll learn how to shift from being a passive participant in drama to an active creator of healthy, fulfilling relationships. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and relationship transformation.

• Understanding the Drama Triangle

• Exploring the Empowerment Dynamic

• Identifying your typical roles in relationships

• Practical steps to shift from Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer to Creator, Challenger, or Coach

• Real-life examples and reflection exercises

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

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Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 06/03/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 16 min

Episode 08

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Okay, this is a big one. We've got New York Times and Sunday Times bestselling author and all-around extraordinary human, Katherine May talking to us about all things being in process - why it's so hard to slow down, how to be vulnerable, and what knocks us out of the spaces that (if we can have a little faith) help us to flourish.

Here's what we discuss in this episode:

• What keeps us from being curious
• What makes us fear slowing down
• The richness and reward of forced fallow periods
• How to trust your own process
• Disengaging from an outcome-driven world

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what we can to together: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

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Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Ellen Wallace, Coach Host

Katherine May, Guest

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 05/21/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 52 min

Episode 7

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Katherine May is an internationally bestselling author and podcaster living in Whitstable, UK. Her most recent book, Enchantment became an instant New York Times and Sunday Times bestseller. Her internationally bestselling hybrid memoir Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times was adapted as BBC Radio 4’s Book of the Week, and was shortlisted for the Porchlight and Barnes and Noble Book of the Year. The Electricity of Every Living Thing, her memoir of a midlife autism diagnosis was adapted as an audio drama by Audible.

Katherine’s podcast, How We Live Now, ranks in the top 1% worldwide, and she has been a guest presenter for On Being’s The Future of Hope series.

Katherine lives with her husband, son, two cats and a dog. She loves walking, sea-swimming and pickling slightly unappealing things.

Are you an introvert, an extrovert, or feeling a little bit of both? Do you ever feel misunderstood in a world that seems obsessed with labeling us? If so, this episode is for you. We're diving into the world of introverts and extroverts, busting common myths and exploring what it means to build a life that honors your unique energy levels and social needs. Get ready to ditch those limiting labels and embrace your true, authentic self!

WHAT WE DISCUSS

• There are many myths about introverts and extroverts out there.
• Introversion and extroversion exist on a spectrum, not as rigid categories.
• Embrace your unique strengths and challenges, no matter where you fall on the spectrum.
• Self-reflection is key to understanding your needs and building a fulfilling life.
• Permission to be authentically yourself, challenge the "shoulds," and find your people.

Don't miss the next episode! Be sure to subscribe for our exciting conversation with Katherine May, bestselling author of "Wintering," and "Enchantment" where we'll dive deeper into authenticity and vulnerability.

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

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Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 05/06/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 35 min

Episode 06

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In this episode of Being Curious with Knomii, we dive into the frustrating experience of feeling trapped in our own heads. Coaches and therapists Madeline, Maggie, and Cynthia vulnerably share their own struggles with:

• Overthinking and intellectualizing emotions
• Putting others' needs before their own
• The pressure of the "my problems are unique" complex (and how it gets in the way)

• The surprising science of your "heart-brain": Learn about the fascinating connection between your heart and mind, and how it impacts your decision-making.
• Breaking free from familiar patterns: Explore simple strategies to shift from "headspace" to "heartspace" decision-making.
• The power of acceptance: Understand why fighting your emotions can backfire, and how acceptance opens the path to change.
• Getting unstuck: Discover practical tips for breaking out of overthinking spirals and self-sabotaging behaviors.

Key Takeaways

• Your emotions hold valuable information – learn to listen to your heart as well as your head.
• It's okay to ask for help, even as a professional who helps others.
• True growth starts with acceptance, not just analysis.

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

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Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 04/22/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 29 min

Episode 05

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Are you waking up overwhelmed, depleted, or just...blah? It's time to break those patterns! Join us as we dig into how to start your day with greater awareness, overcome that feeling of being overwhelmed, and prioritize self-care so you can make the most of every moment.

Understanding Your Wake-Up State

• Awareness is Key: Pay attention to how you're feeling when you wake up. Explore both your physical and emotional state.
• Body Check-in: Listen to your body's signals. Are you feeling depleted (physically or mentally), overwhelmed, or other sensations?
• Mind, Body, Spirit Triangle: Assess all three areas; don't just focus on your mental state.

Overcoming Overwhelm and Depletion

• Recognize Your Patterns: Notice the behaviors that might be exacerbating the problem (grabbing your phone, overthinking, neglecting self-care).
• The Power of the Pause: When overwhelmed, slow down or even momentarily stop to reset your system.
• Proactive vs. Reactive Toolkit: Have strategies in place for both when you're feeling grounded and when you're in a depleted state.
• Authentic Self-Care: It might be the very thing you don't want to do, but it's the most important. Push through the resistance for lasting benefits.
• Boundaries are Essential: Set healthy boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being.

Tools and Strategies

• Mind, Body, Spirit Check-Ins: Regularly take inventory of your overall well-being.
• "I Did" List: Celebrate accomplishments, big and small, to counter the scarcity mindset.
• Impact Effort Matrix: Strategize your activities based on effort and impact:
• High Impact, Low Effort: Prioritize these for quick wins when energy is low.
• High Impact, High Effort: Tackle these when you have more energy.
• Low Impact: Minimize or delegate these to conserve energy.
• "What Do I Need More Of?": Focus on expanding your resources and support network for greater resilience.

Remember:

• Self-awareness is a journey, not a destination. It's about recognizing patterns over time
• Be compassionate with yourself; you're human, not a robot
• Seek support – coaches, therapists, trusted friends – when needed.

Feeling stuck in a cycle of overwhelm and depletion? You're not alone! But sometimes, knowing how to change course when the emotional winds shift feels impossible. That's where coaching and therapy can be life-changing.

It's not just about getting advice. It's about having a partner – someone in your corner to help you see things clearly, build the skills to adjust your sails, and remind you that even the toughest storms pass.

Whether you need that lifeline NOW or want to proactively prepare for future challenges, the team at Knomii is here for you.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Ellen Wallace, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 04/08/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 37 min

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Tired of the same old book club format? Join us on Shelf Improvement, where our panel of coaches and therapists ditch the assigned reading and bring their latest self-help obsessions to the table! In this episode, we delve into four diverse books that will help you:

• Prioritize self-care: Learn Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's secrets for taking care of yourself, not just in emergencies, but as a foundation for a thriving life.
• Build meaningful connections: Discover Shannan Martin's practical tips for fostering genuine connections with your neighbors, strengthening your community.
• Master the art of gathering: Explore Priya Parker's framework for creating intentional gatherings that leave a lasting impact.
• Navigate your emotional landscape: Dive deep into Brene Brown's "Atlas of the Heart" and gain a richer understanding of your emotions.

In this episode, you'll get:

• Insights from the experts: Hear directly from coaches and therapists about what resonated most with them from each book.
• Actionable takeaways: We won't just discuss the books – we'll provide practical tips you can start applying today to improve your life.
• Diverse perspectives: Our panel will share their unique interpretations and how they plan to use the book's wisdom in their coaching and therapy practices.
• Recommendations for you: Whether you're a self-proclaimed self-care guru or a social butterfly looking to deepen connections, we'll help you identify which book might be the best fit for your current goals.

So grab a cup of tea, settle in, and get ready to take your personal growth journey to the next level with Shelf Improvement!

Real Self Care

• Dr. Pooja Lakshmin's Website: https://www.poojalakshmin.com/
• Podcast interview with Dr. Lakshmin: Explore her ideas in further depth on a podcast or interview. (Search for her name with "podcast" for options)

Start with Hello

• Shannan Martin's website: https://theneighborsproject.com/ – Get tools, stories, and inspiration on connecting with your neighborhood.
• "Start With Hello Week": Learn about this annual initiative encouraging simple acts of kindness towards others.

The Art of Gathering

• Priya Parker's website: https://www.priyaparker.com/ - Explore her gathering philosophy, tools, and a blog.
• The Art of Gathering Toolkit: Access free downloads for designing your next gathering.

Atlas of the Heart

• Brene Brown's website: https://brenebrown.com/ – Access further resources on her work on vulnerability, courage, and more.
• "Unlocking Us" Podcast with Brene Brown: Delve deeper into specific emotions and experiences discussed in Atlas of the Heart.

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Ellen Wallace, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 03/25/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 45 min

Episode 3

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Have you lost that spark in your relationship? Do you feel lonely and disconnected even though you love your partner? In this honest and vulnerable episode, we dive into a real listener's challenge: a decade-long struggle with intimacy and lack of sex within a loving marriage.

We don't just talk about sex, by the way. This starting point sparks a larger conversation around connection, unmet needs, and self-awareness in any relationship.

Join us as we explore:

• Why the lack of sex might be a symptom, not the root problem
• The difference between capability and willingness in addressing needs
• How to build self-awareness to understand your own expectations and communicate them effectively
• Insights from renowned sex and relationship therapist Esther Perel on desire, pleasure, and long-term relationships
• Practical steps to start rebuilding intimacy and connection, even if sex feels off the table right now.

If you're feeling stuck in a relationship that's lost its fire or struggling to connect with your partner, this episode is for you. We offer guidance, hope, and tools to help you find your way back to a fulfilling relationship.

Key Resources:

• Esther Perel's website: https://www.estherperel.com/
• Esther Perel's TED Talk.
• Book: "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Ellen Wallace, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 03/11/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 34 min

Episode 2

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Forget always chasing happiness or finding grand meaning. There's a secret ingredient to a truly good life – psychological richness. Explore what it is, why it matters, and how to live a life overflowing with growth, perspective, and even a bit of gritty adventure.

• Beyond the Basics: We'll unpack the distinct differences between a happy, meaningful, and psychologically rich life. (Hint: You can have them all!)
• Are You Psychologically Rich?: We'll discuss the surprising traits and tell-tale signs of people who crave and live a psychologically rich life. Do you resonate?
• The Restless Spirit: If a sense of restlessness haunts you, or you crave novelty, this episode is for you. We'll discuss why that feeling might be guiding you toward something extraordinary.
• Intensity = Growth?: Discover why a psychologically rich life might involve more intense emotions – both the dazzling highs and the challenging lows – and how that fuels transformation.
• The Desire for Change: Learn why those chasing psychological richness are often driven to shake up systems and challenge the way things are.

• "I felt really seen by an academic paper... This term psychologically rich just describes what I chase." – Madeline
• "Psychological richness and the desire to grow and be curious and be open... just gave me that language to be like, yeah, I don't always prioritize the happy life because there's something that matters more to me." – Madeline
• "Perhaps true psychological richness isn't found in harmony or a balance, but in the raw intensity of the experience..." – Cynthia
• "It all makes sense! This is why I ran away from teaching! And, like, why I just basically should have bumper stickers all over my car and say, I hate systems!" - Maggie
• "...people whose lives are psychologically rich tend to seek out challenges and value learning and are less interested in maintaining the status quo." – Quote from the paper: A Psychologically Rich Life: Beyond Happiness and Meaning, Oishi, S., & Westgate, E. C. (2021, August 12)

Feeling a bit...meh? Even with the picture-perfect life, you crave more depth, challenge, and the thrill of becoming someone new? That's your inner achiever calling for a richer experience.

At Knomii, we ditch the generic goals and help you design a life that truly lights you up. We'll help you break those limiting beliefs, overcome analysis paralysis, embrace the kind of growth that feels a little scary (in a good way!), and turn those messy moments into wisdom and, more importantly, impactful action.

Think of us as your catalyst for a psychologically rich life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at www.knomii.com or email us at [email protected]m or [email protected]m to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Maggie on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Show: Being Curious with Knomii (The Knomii Podcast)

Published 02/26/2024

Season 2

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 38 min

Episode 1

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Questioning traditional relationship expectations:

• Redefine what you want in friendships and partnerships based on your current self, not outdated societal norms.
• Move beyond the pressure to have a large group of friends or a "forever person." Focus on quality connections that support your growth.

Prioritizing self-awareness:

• Understand your own values, needs, and goals to attract compatible individuals.
• Recognize when your self-awareness journey has outpaced your partner's and navigate those differences constructively.

Seeking growth potential:

• Look for connections that encourage mutual learning and personal development.
• Embrace new friendships that reflect your current authentic self, even if they haven't known you long.

Shifting from transactional to transformational relationships:

• Move beyond tit-for-tat exchanges and focus on giving generously without expecting immediate returns.
• Build trust and courage to have vulnerable conversations and bring your whole self to the relationship.

Finding connections authentically:

• Explore activities and spaces that align with your interests and values, naturally attracting like-minded individuals.
• Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone and try new things to meet potential connections.

Things to Remember:

• Transformation often requires courage and trust.
• Invest your time and energy in relationships that support your growth.
• Embrace the ongoing journey of self-discovery and connection.

Feeling stuck even though you're incredibly self-aware? You're not alone! If you're tired of the gap between what you know and what you actually DO, we'd love to connect. Let's talk about the patterns holding you back and how coaching can get you unstuck and confidently moving towards your goals.

Think of us as your catalyst for a rich, impactful life. Ready to step into your boldest potential? Let's talk. Book a free 30-min chat to explore what 1:1 coaching can do for you: https://savvycal.com/knomii/podcast

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson, CPCC   Host

Maggie Glennon, Coach Host

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 02/12/2024

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 34 min

Episode 38

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