Being Curious with Knomii

In this engaging episode of the Knomii Podcast, Cynthia and Madeline explore the curious challenge of defining and discovering what we truly want in life. Why do we often focus on what we don't want or hope to avoid, instead of zeroing in on our genuine desires?

Our mother-daughter duo takes a deep dive into this conundrum, shedding light on the reasons behind our struggle to pinpoint our true aspirations. Join Cynthia, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Madeline, a trained coach, as they share tips, tricks, and insightful stories that'll inspire you to embrace your inner desires and flip the script on your goals and dreams. Get ready to catch those elusive butterflies of aspiration and embark on a journey towards a more fulfilling life!

In this episode, you can expect:

• A lively discussion on the reasons behind our focus on what we don't want
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• Real-life examples and anecdotes that illustrate the challenges in defining our desires
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• Practical exercises and strategies to help you uncover your true aspirations
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• Insightful conversations on how to declutter our minds
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• Tips on how to break free from the "don't want" mindset and embrace a more proactive approach to self-discovery
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• The importance of self-awareness and reflection in achieving personal growth and fulfillment
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• Cynthia and Madeline's own experiences and takeaways from their journey towards embracing their desires

Don't miss this entertaining and enlightening episode of the Knomii Podcast – your go-to source for self-discovery and self-awareness conversations!

What We Discussed:

(01:33) Introduction: What do you want from life?

(03:55) Why we go first to "don't want”

(06:52) Beliefs that hold us back from dreaming

(07:47) Developing a growth mindset

(11:00) Tool #1: Visualizing beyond the obstacles

(13:04) Tool #2: Languaging and how we define things

(15:08) Leaving the judgment and embracing curiosity

(18:04) Help us make The Knomii Podcast Thrive!

(21:31) Developing self-awareness to discover wants

(23:14) Tool #3: Three Wishes

(26:17) The universe only understands "want”

(30:24) Decluttering the mind

(30:49) Episode round up

(33:21) Ending with a quote

(33:43) Free tote bags for topics!

Quote for Reflection "The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car... a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel." - Ben Sweetland “The more you expect from life, the more you can receive!” Cynthia

Support us on Patreon for more tools:

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership.

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii

Want to get in touch?

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

For further reading and tools

https://www.audible.com/pd/Take-Control-of-Your-Life-Audiobook/B07LFLM4LJ?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp

Visualize your ideal life: Spend some time imagining your ideal life. What does it look like? What are you doing? Who are you with? This can help you identify what truly matters

Here are some steps you can take to change the conversation to "I want": Identify your goals and values: Take some time to reflect on what is important to you, what you enjoy doing, and what you want to achieve in life. Write down your goals and values, and make sure they are aligned with what you truly want.

Reframe negative thoughts: Whenever you notice yourself focusing on what you don't want, consciously reframe those thoughts into positive ones. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, "I don't want to fail," rephrase it to "I want to succeed."

Visualize what you want: Spend some time visualizing yourself achieving your goals and experiencing the things you want in life. This can help you shift your mindset towards a more positive and growth-oriented perspective.

Take action: Once you've identified your goals and values, take action towards achieving them. Break them down into small, manageable steps and work towards them consistently. Celebrate your progress along the way to keep yourself motivated.

Surround yourself with positivity: Surround yourself with positive people, books, podcasts, and other resources that inspire and motivate you to focus on what you want in life.

Where would you be if you could NAME your fears/obstacles and overcome them?

Three Wishes Visualization Find a quiet and comfortable place where you won't be interrupted. Take a few deep breaths and allow your mind to settle.

Close your eyes and imagine that a magical being has appeared before you. This being has the power to grant you three wishes.

Take a moment to consider what you would wish for. You can choose anything you like, but try to focus on wishes that are meaningful and important to you. It can be helpful to ask yourself what you truly desire in life.

When you're ready, state your first wish out loud. Imagine the magical being granting your wish, and allow yourself to fully experience the joy and fulfillment that comes with it. Imagine how your life will be different as a result of this wish coming true.

Repeat this process for your second and third wishes. Take your time with each wish and allow yourself to fully immerse in the experience of having it granted.

Once you've completed all three wishes, take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Take a moment to reflect on your experience and the feelings that came up for you during the exercise. You may wish to write down your wishes and any insights (whys) you gained from the visualization.

The Secret

Books: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle "Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think" by Tasha Eurich "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" by Don Miguel Ruiz "Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" by Brené Brown "The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life" by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander

Podcasts: The Mindset Mentor with Rob Dial The Positive Psychology Podcast with Kristina Gledhill

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

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Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 04/24/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 35 min

Episode 17

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Dive into a captivating conversation with Cynthia and Madeline, your favorite mother-daughter duo, on the Knomii Podcast! In this enlightening episode, "Awakening from Autopilot: Finding Fulfillment in a Conscious Life," we'll guide you through the maze of the unconscious mind, revealing how to uncover those hidden beliefs that may be holding you back. Join us as we share personal stories, professional insights, and practical tips to help you transform limiting beliefs into empowering assets.

Together, we'll explore the benefits of living a more conscious, intentional life, enabling you to truly awaken from autopilot and embrace the journey of self-discovery. Our conversation is filled with warmth, humor, and the kind of playful energy that only a mother-daughter team can bring. Get ready to say goodbye to dissatisfaction and hello to a more fulfilled, purposeful existence, as you learn to harness the power of awareness in shaping the life you've always wanted.

So, tune in, get cozy, and let's embark on this enlightening adventure together, as we awaken from autopilot and unlock the hidden treasures within ourselves!

What We Discussed:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:32) Stepping into spring energy and being awake to ourselves

(05:33) What is the unconscious mind?

(08:16) How can we make the unconscious, conscious?

(11:11) Making small adjustments to beliefs

(16:00) Help us make The Knomii Podcast Thrive!

(16:40) Creating awareness around beliefs

(19:01) Holding space for complexity and discovering beliefs

(24:58) Using what irks you to discover more about yourself

(26:18) Indicators of unconscious mind

(27:21) Starting from where you are

(30:31) Ending with a quote

(31:31) Closing Notes

Quote for Reflection:

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." - Carl Jung

"Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny." - Mahatma Gandhi

Support us on Patreon for more tools:

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership.

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii

Want to get in touch?

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

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Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 04/11/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 32 min

Episode 16

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

In this compelling episode of the Knomii Podcast, join hosts Cynthia, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Madeline, a trained coach, as they delve into the power of curiosity and how it can help us navigate the uncertainties of life.

Discover how to build curiosity as a skill to manage ambiguity, and learn how to shift from a survival mindset to a thriving one. Through engaging conversation and insightful guidance, Cynthia and Madeline discuss ways to bring more creativity into our lives and how to consciously and courageously open ourselves to opportunities amidst uncertainty.

Finally, explore the significance of staying in your lane and how it can empower you to face life's challenges with greater resilience and confidence. Don't miss this insightful journey of self-discovery, as we unlock the potential of curiosity in transforming our lives.

What We Discussed:

(01:20) What's all this uncertainty and ambiguity about?

(06:37) Curiosity as a gentle skill

(09:16) Passion = doing, purpose = being

(12:02) Tool: Open yourself to possibilities and find the gifts

(14:21) Help us make The Knomii Podcast Thrive!

(15:01) Uncertainty is a superpower

(16:15) Negotiating with reality and staying in your lane

(20:47) Tool: Adopting the scientific mindset

(22:58) Tool: Introducing "and”

(25:51) Got requests? Submit them at knomii.coach/podcast

(26:25) Ending with a quote

(27:17) Closing Notes

Quote for Reflection:

“How rare and beautiful this life experience is. How complex and confusing it can be. Luckily, we’re not here to figure everything out. We are here to live—to live everything.” Cynthia “If uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness, and creativity.” — Eckhart Tolle

Support us on Patreon for more tools:

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership.

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii

Join our Retreat At Home

Find rest, connection, and rich fulfillment from the comfort of your own home. Join us in self-discovery and let go of self-imposed limitations. FIND OUT MORE AT: https://knomii.coach/retreats

Next Cohort Begins: April 4 - May 16, 2023 (Tuesdays each week, 6-8 PM EST)

Over the 7 weeks, we will explore topics that can help you thrive in any area of life. These are expertly designed by our coaching/therapy duo and include:

🌱 Building Confidence Through Strengths, Values + Purpose

🔮 Manifestation Circle + Group Tarot

💭 Creating a Dream Plan

🧠 Inner Knowing + Assessments

💥 Understanding + Breaking Beyond Roles

Want to get in touch?

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

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Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 03/27/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 28 min

Episode 15

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Is joy a choice? In this episode, Madeline, a CTI-trained coach, and Cynthia, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, delve into the complex topic of joy and explore how we can reconnect with our own intrinsic sense of joy and peace.

In today's world, it's easy to become distracted by external factors and to feel as though our happiness and contentment are out of our control. Madeline and Cynthia discuss practical strategies for tuning into our inner joyous nature, even in the midst of challenging circumstances.

They also explore the impact of painful or traumatic experiences on our ability to experience joy and how we can work to heal emotional scars. By understanding the role of our inner thoughts and emotions in our experience of joy, we can begin to take steps to cultivate a more positive and fulfilling life.

Join us on this self-discovery journey as we explore the power of joy and how it can help us navigate life's challenges. Whether you're looking to reconnect with your inner joy or simply seeking practical tips for cultivating more happiness in your life, this episode is for you.

What we discussed:

(00:00) Intro: Why so serious? How to have more fun!

(02:09) Why do we avoid fun?

(05:31) Tool #1: Focus your attention on the joy

(08:43) Tool #2: Curate a hype squad and be mindful of who you spend time with

(10:43) Only a few spots left for our retreat!

(11:20) Flight, fight, freeze, or...flock?

(13:52) Tool #3: What's under that joy?

(16:11) Tool #4: Does suffering serve you?

(18:49) Feeling worthy of joy

(22:07) Keeping a safe distance from what we deem "bad" or "wrong"

(24:16) Ending with a quote

(25:12) Get in touch

Quote for Reflection:

“Life isn’t a problem to be solved. The beauty lies in the unpredictability and waking up each morning with an open heart and open mind to all the day has to offer.” Cynthia Garrett, LMHC

Support us on Patreon for more tools:

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership.

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii

Join our Retreat At Home

Find rest, connection, and rich fulfillment from the comfort of your own home. Join us in self-discovery and let go of self-imposed limitations. FIND OUT MORE AT: https://knomii.coach/retreats

Next Cohort Begins: April 4 - May 16, 2023 (Tuesdays each week, 6-8 PM EST)

Over the 7 weeks, we will explore topics that can help you thrive in any area of life. These are expertly designed by our coaching/therapy duo and include:

🌱 Building Confidence Through Strengths, Values + Purpose

🔮 Manifestation Circle + Group Tarot

💭 Creating a Dream Plan

🧠 Inner Knowing + Assessments

💥 Understanding + Breaking Beyond Roles

Want to get in touch?

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions.

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn.

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin.

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 03/13/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 26 min

Episode 14

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Are emotions the same as feelings? And how do you "feel your feelings"? In today’s episode, Madeline (ICF, CTI-trained coach) & Cynthia (Licensed Mental Health Counselor) explore the world of emotions. 

We reveal that our emotions exist because they serve the vital function of attaching ourselves to what really matters and what we deem internally valuable.

We highlight that belonging and safety are two of the main feelings that we humans are hardwired to require for survival. Emotions also serve a valuable purpose in self-communication, and in helping us discern our values and goals. Our emotions can tell us what we need, or what is unhelpful.

Knowing those things can help guide our life and alter our choices, thus having the ability to change ourselves and create the meaningful lives we want.

What we discussed:

(00:00) Introduction

(00:56) Lessons from Ms. Rachel

(02:26) The difference between emotions and feelings

(03:07) Learning to embody and FEEL our emotions

(05:22) Join our Retreats at Home for $375!

(06:14) How "thinking" our feelings can get us in trouble

(07:31) How to identify the 6 core emotions

(09:02) Asking our emotions: what are you trying to tell me?

(10:06) How to stay in Command Central when emotions hit

(12:10) Emotions are our advisors

(13:53) Tool: Visualizing the emotion to hear its message

(16:16) Tool: Using the emotions wheel

(17:51) Tool: how to physically process emotions

(19:56) Getting back to authentic self

(22:10) Feelings are informational, not directional

(23:19) Emotional awareness is knowing your players

(24:30) Recap: What we discussed

(25:38) Ending with a quote

Quotes for Reflection:

“Our feelings are our most genuine path to knowledge.”–Audre Lorde

Emotions come and go like waves, if we let them. The idea here is to ride the wave of emotion instead of trying to stop a giant wave and getting pushed around.

Support us on Patreon for more tools: 

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership. 

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii 

Join our Retreat At Home

Find rest, connection, and rich fulfillment from the comfort of your own home. Join us in self-discovery and let go of self-imposed limitations. FIND OUT MORE AT: https://knomii.coach/retreats

Next Cohort Begins: April 4 - May 16, 2023 (Tuesdays each week, 6-8 PM EST)

Over the 7 weeks, we will explore topics that can help you thrive in any area of life. These are expertly designed by our coaching/therapy duo and include:

🌱 Building Confidence Through Strengths, Values + Purpose

🔮 Manifestation Circle + Group Tarot

💭 Creating a Dream Plan

🧠 Inner Knowing + Assessments

💥 Understanding + Breaking Beyond Roles

Want to get in touch? 

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin. 

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

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Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 02/27/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 27 min

Episode 13

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Are you tired of feeling stuck in a cycle of scarcity, fear, and anxiety?

Do you want to cultivate a more peaceful and abundant life?

In this episode, Madeline (ICF, CTI-trained coach) & Cynthia (Licensed Mental Health Counselor) delve into practical and actionable strategies for embracing an abundance mindset and breaking free from limiting beliefs.

We explore topics such as mindfulness, gratitude, and self-compassion to help you find inner peace and fulfillment. Whether you're looking to improve your relationships, career, or financial situation, this episode may inspire and empower you to live your best life.

So, join us on our journey towards abundance and discover a life of peace, prosperity, and joy.

What we discussed:

(00:00) Introduction: Do you have enough? 

(01:01) Falling into the efficiency trap

(03:42) How to recognize scarcity mindset

(04:29) Scarcity signal #1: risk aversion

(06:22) Scarcity signal #2: perfectionism

(07:08) Scarcity signal #3: limiting resources 

(08:16) Breaking down the Scarcity Loop

(09:55) Scarcity mindset creates a self-fulfilling prophecy 

(11:55) Support us on Patreon

(12:35) How to shift from scarcity to abundance

(13:17) Breaking down the Abundance Loop

(14:56) Shifting from scarcity to abundance with low-hanging fruit

(17:10) Why defining your dreams and outcomes matters

(23:13) Knowing your "why" keeps you in abundance

(24:30) What it really means to "slow down"

(25:31) Abundance is about "enough" 

(27:11) Rapid fire tools for cultivating abundance 

(28:39) Ending with a quote or two!

(29:36) Closing notes: forward to a friend!

Quotes for Reflection:

“We don’t create abundance.  Abundance is always present. We create limitations” Arnold Patent

“If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” Oprah Winfrey

Support us on Patreon for more tools: 

For as little as a cup of coffee per month, you help support us so we can support you. It's a win-win. You'll get access to exclusive content, extra tools, and can even get 1:1 coaching sessions as part of your membership. 

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 2 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii 

Want to get in touch? 

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin. 

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 02/13/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 30 min

Episode 12

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Are you a self-diagnosed perfectionist or "control freak"? Do you often try to control situations, conversations, or outcomes as a strategy to protect yourself or ensure your needs are met? 

Today Madeline and Cynthia explore the difference between control and empowerment. We often believe we have more control than we do, while also believing we have less power than we do.

We will explore why and how to keep our power without holding onto the need to control. If you're ready to live a freer, more spacious life, this is the episode for you. 

What we discussed:

(00:00) Introduction: Do you feel the need to stay in control?

(00:44) The core belief around control and power

(01:45) Why we feel the need to control 

(03:17) Empowerment is when we take responsibility for ourselves

(05:33) Understanding learned helplessness

(06:44) Practicing boundaries by starting with ourselves

(08:59) Empowering ourselves through useful beliefs and conscious choice

(12:59) Book your spot: Retreat at Home now open! 

(13:38) What is self-efficacy?

(17:17) Learning to celebrate ourselves out loud without judgment 

(19:14) Staying in conscious choice of our perspective

(20:36) Learning to be flexible in your beliefs

(23:32) Finding the values in our beliefs

(25:50) Ending with a quote 

(26:10) Request a topic or submit a challenge

26:53) Closing notes

Quote for Reflection:

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” – Maya Angelou

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Our retreats are designed to be done in the comfort of your own home over Zoom. They are engaging and energizing, guiding us in our journey of self-discovery and connection with ourselves and others. 

For more information, visit https://knomii.coach/retreats 

For further reading and tools: 

Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive companion guides to our episodes. Each guide is complete with the tools we discuss in the episode plus additional resources for diving deeper. Print it out and use it as a workbook, or use it online. We also include recommended reading/listening so you can explore more on the topics that resonate most.

You can become a member by supporting us on Patreon at 3 levels and learn more here: https://www.patreon.com/knomii 

Want to get in touch? 

Go to our website at https://knomii.coach or email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

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Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

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Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 01/30/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 27 min

Episode 11

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Are you tired of reaching your goals only to find that true fulfillment and purpose seem just out of reach? Today, we're tackling the concept of "false summits" and how to avoid them on the journey to discovering your true purpose in life. We'll explore the importance of developing a relationship with your future self and the role it plays in setting and achieving meaningful goals. Our hosts, Cynthia & Madeline, will share their personal experiences and share valuable insights on how to stay motivated and focused on the things that truly matter.

Whether you're just starting out on your journey or you've hit a roadblock, this episode is packed with actionable advice that will help you avoid the pitfalls of false summits and discover true fulfillment and purpose in your life. Don't miss this one!

What we discussed:

(00:08) Introduction: Finding Fulfillment with Future Self

(00:37) When success doesn't feel fulfilling

(01:57) Reinventing ourselves and reanalyzing the past

(04:36) The illusion of continuity when thinking about future self

(06:36) We suffer when we lose our curiosity 

(10:06) Ready for coaching? Special offer and limited spots available!

(10:54) How to please your future self

(13:08) What to do when the big goal is happiness

(14:18) How to develop a relationship with future self

(16:13) Using future self to check in on beliefs

(18:23) Uncertainty and spaciousness can build resilience

(19:13) How to cultivate curiosity about future self 

(23:06) Bringing together what we discussed

(24:48) Ending with a quote

(25:34) Closing notes

Quote for Reflection:

“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” Plutarch (Motivates one towards originality and instills the desire for truth. Realize that you can ignite your innate flame.)

For further reading and tools: 

https://www.ted.com/talks/shankar_vedantam_you_don_t_actually_know_what_your_future_self_wants?language=en

What Values are you honoring with future self?

Looking at Future self with curiosity and creativity and abundant mindset-What is the common thread

start with curiosity-visualization-What would that person want you to know? Inner Knowing- Journaling

Purest Essence is Purpose-Inner Sense

Jenga visual Tower of “Being” Choice visual-regret instability

Photo exercise-develop relationship with Future Self-

• [ ] Go Into your phone and select 5 of your best memory photos
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• [ ] What were you doing?
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• [ ] How were you feeling?
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• [ ] What parts of self (adventuresome, creative, humorous) showed up to this event
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• [ ] Would you do it again? Why?

Beliefs…Useful Beliefs…What are your limiting beliefs…Creating Space for Self…Making your life more expansive meet future self

Data Mission..learn one thing every day… Remain unattached to the outcome Slow Down…Imagine if…Dreaming…small nuggets

Want to get in touch? 

Email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin. 

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 01/16/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 26 min

Episode 10

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Today Madeline and Cynthia explore how we may be starting this year depleted. The tiredness, the losses, and the frustrations make it hard to keep going. 

Just as a car will stop working if not fueled and maintained, we have needs that must be met if we are to continue in productive and abundant living. We will explore what is it that keeps us going: knowing how to fill the tank, managing our emotions, and caring for our bodies enough to gain strength and abundance.

What we discussed:

(00:13) New Year, Same Energy?

(01:14) Sitting with and allowing icky emotions

(03:47) Noticing that disconnect comes from more than one place

(05:15) Tool: Your Inner Emergency Responder Team

(07:19) Your inner resources are infinite

(08:58) Finding an abundance mindset that doesn't ignore reality

(10:39) Why it's important to go internal and "tend to your garden" first

(13:00) Discovering your own needs instead of making people guess

(14:35) Vulnerability is a driver of support

(15:18) Reaching out and connecting through strengths instead of suffering

(16:51) The 5 Types of Energy in Friendships

(19:24) Don't wait for that perfect time to rest and reflect

(21:29) NEWS: Retreats at Home Coming March 2023

(22:38) Summarizing what we discussed

(23:47) Ending with a Quote

(24:31) Get in touch

For further reading and tools: 

5 Types of People by Richard Foster

VRP-Very Resourceful people-ignite my passion

VIP-Very important people-share my passion

VTP-Very trainable people-I ignite their passion

VNP-Very Nice people-they use my passion with little results

VDP-Very draining people-they drain our passion

Questions to ask oneself:

Who is on my internal team? What internal team members help me thrive? *Remember they always say YES

Abundance…What’s in your garden? (Strengths)

Brené Brown “The Power of Vulnerability”

Quote for reflection: 

“Accept then Act. Whatever the present moment contains accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it…this will miraculously transform your whole life.” Ekhart Tolle

Want to get in touch? 

Email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin. 

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 01/02/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 25 min

Episode 9

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What You’ll Learn From This Episode:

Today Madeline and Cynthia ask the question of how can we feel like a caring person and still care for ourselves.  At the end of the day, people-pleasing comes from a desire to receive love and acceptance from others. 

People-pleasing isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Being a concerned and caring person is an important part of maintaining healthy relationships with loved ones. It becomes a problem, however, if we are trying to win approval in order to shore up weak self-esteem or if we are pursuing the happiness of others at the expense of our own emotional well-being.

What we discussed:

(00:47) The tendency to people please for the holidays

(02:09) Getting out of assumptions land

(03:02) Going from pleasing to priorities

(04:30) Checking in on energy levels

(05:48) Put on your own oxygen mask first

(07:34) The truth about people-pleasing: it's not about them!

(09:11) Why confidence combats people-pleasing

(10:42) Going beyond obligations

(12:43) Choosing values over fears

(15:38) Going in for the win-win 

(16:21) Compromise vs. sacrifice

(18:56) Fear-driven vs. love-driven 

(21:30) Ending with a quote

(21:58) BIG NEWS: retreats coming in 2023!

(22:43) Closing notes

For further reading and tools: 

Make yourself a priority.

Your wants and needs are just as important as your family and friends (in fact, they are more important because you should be your own top priority).

What do you want to do? How do you want to feel? What can you do more of to feel that way?

Choose Values Over Fears. ...As you are able, check in with yourself to see what values-driven choices or decisions might be accessible in any given situation.

Start Setting Boundaries Now. …Dr. Brene Brown’s definition: “Boundaries are simply what’s okay and what’s not okay.” Having your boundaries set beforehand can go a long way in terms of promoting self- respect and autonomy, while still allowing yourself to show up for your family.

Communicate your needs to others …Communication is defined as a lot of things but my favorite definition includes, “the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings”.

Get Comfortable Saying No. ...Consider what you are sacrificing. Saying “no” can be difficult but consider what you are sacrificing every time you say “yes” to please others.

Take Care of Yourself. …Self-care is important to maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself. It means doing things to take care of our minds, bodies, and souls by engaging in activities that promote well-being and reduce stress

Give Yourself Grace.   Work on giving YOURSELF the love and acceptance you crave from family, friends, and loved ones. You are totally and completely worthy just as you are.

Create Win/Win Scenarios

Turn Obligations into honoring values

Quote for reflection: 

“What could I do if I just knew it didn't need to be perfect? It just needed to be.” Encanto lyrics

Want to get in touch? 

Email us at [email protected] or [email protected] to request a topic, give feedback, or learn more about our 1:1 sessions. 

Follow Knomii on Instagram, TikTok, or LinkedIn. 

Follow and connect with Madeline on Linkedin. 

Follow and connect with Cynthia on Linkedin.

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC  Host

Madeline Farquharson   Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 12/19/2022

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 23 min

Episode 8

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