Building Connection Age 4 SummaryWhy Building Connection?

Your child’s early years are a time of incredible growth, and one of the most important foundations you can build is connection. By creating small, consistent moments of bonding, you’re strengthening your child’s sense of security and trust — key ingredients for healthy attachment and emotional well-being.

Connection is built through everyday interactions — from feeding and diaper changes to playtime and soothing moments. These small yet powerful moments help your child feel loved, safe, and cared for.

 

●      “Are you ready to play?”

●      “Do you want to see what’s outside?”

●      “Are you feeling sleepy?”

Tip: When your child makes sounds, respond as if they’re speaking to you. This back-and-forth exchange builds early communication skills.

 

 

●      “You’re feeling fussy right now. I’m here.”

●      “I see you’re excited — look at that big smile!”

... helps your baby begin connecting emotions with words.

 

Tip: Children are learning that their feelings are valid and that caregivers are there to help them feel safe and calm.

 

 

 

 

●      If your child babbles, respond with a joyful tone: “Oh yes! Tell me more!”

●      If your child turns their head away, respect their need for space.

 

Tip: Repetition is key — small, consistent acts build long-term security.

 

 

●      Lower your voice.

●      Reduce background noise.

●      Hold them quietly to help them reset.

Trap: Remind yourself: "I’m doing my best, and that’s enough."

 

 

●      “I love how you smile when I sing that song!”

●      “You feel so calm when we rock together — I love these quiet moments.”

Tip: Building connection happens over time. Each small effort creates a stronger bond — and your baby will feel that love every day.

 

 

 

 

Recommended Citation: Center for Health and Safety Culture. (2025). Building Connection Age 4 Summary. Retrieved from https://www.ToolsforYourChildsSuccess.org

 

This content does not necessarily reflect the views or policies of the Tools for Your Child’s Success communities, financial supporters, contributors, SAMHSA, or the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

 

© 2025 Center for Health and Safety Culture at Montana State University

 

Tuning In Age 4 SummaryWhy Tuning In?

Parenting a child can be joyful, exhausting, and overwhelming, sometimes all at once. Tuning in — the ability to stay present, calm, and intentional — can help you feel more grounded, connected, and confident in your parenting.

 

●      “You’re rubbing your eyes — I think you’re getting sleepy.”

●      “I hear your little giggles — you love this game!”

●      “I can see you are frustrated right now”  

Tip: Pausing helps shift you from an automatic reaction (like feeling flustered) to a more thoughtful response.

 

 

●      “I’m feeling frustrated, so I’m going to take a breath before I respond.”

●      “Wow, that loud noise startled both of us — let’s take a minute to calm down together.”

 

Tip: These small moments model calm, responsive behavior for your child while helping you reset emotionally.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

●      Instead of: “I can’t get this right!”

●      Try: “This is hard right now — and that’s okay. I’m doing my best.”

 

Tip: The more you practice these simple moments of tuning in, the easier they’ll become — even during challenging times.

 

 

●      Ask yourself: “What does my child need right now?”

●      Remind yourself: “I can handle this moment.”

Tip: Responding with calm doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings — it means recognizing your emotions and choosing how to act in the moment.

 

●      “I paused when my child was crying, and I stayed calm — that was a win.”

●      “I remembered to take a breath before picking my child up — I’m proud of that.”

Tip: Tuning in isn’t about perfection — it’s about learning to return to calm, again and again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Recommended Citation: Center for Health and Safety Culture. (2025). Tuning In Age 4 Summary. Retrieved fromhttps://www.ToolsforYourChildsSuccess.org

 

This content does not necessarily reflect the views or policies of the Tools for Your Child’s Success communities, financial supporters, contributors, SAMHSA, or the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

 

© 2025 Center for Health and Safety Culture at Montana State University

 

Building Emotional Health Age 4 SummaryWhy Building Emotional Health?

Emotional health begins long before a child can say, “I’m sad,” or “I’m frustrated.” For infants and very young children, their first emotional experiences happen through the way you respond to their cues. As your child grows, their emotional cues may shift — from cries and coos to words and stomps — but your calm presence remains just as important.  

 

●      “You are feeling sad right now — I’m here.”

●      “You are so excited about your toy!”

Tip: Describing their feelings doesn’t just comfort your child. It helps them develop language for emotions later on.

 

 

●      “I know you are feeling frustrated — I’m right here.”

●      “That loud sound startled you — let’s take a breath together.”

●      When your 3-year-old throws a toy, you can say: ‘It looks like you're feeling mad. I’m here to help.’

Tip: Over time, these consistent responses help your child feel safe and supported which are key foundations for emotional well-being.

 

 

●      “You are feeling so happy — what a big smile!”

●      “That toy is making you giggle — I love seeing you so joyful!”

 

Tip: Small, consistent emotional check-ins, even with an child, help build lasting emotional skills.

 

 

●      “I’m feeling frustrated, so I’m going to take a breath.”

●      “This is hard, but I’m doing my best.”

Tip: The simple act of staying close during your child’s difficult moments is a powerful way to teach them that emotions are both temporary and manageable.

 

 

●      “I stayed calm when my child was crying — I’m proud of myself for that.”

●      “That was a tough moment, but I handled it with patience.”

Tip: Emotional growth isn’t about perfection — it’s about showing up with warmth, consistency, and care.

 

 

 

Recommended Citation: Center for Health and Safety Culture. (2025). Building Emotional Health Age 4 Summary. Retrieved from https://www.ToolsforYourChildsSuccess.org

 

This content does not necessarily reflect the views or policies of the Tools for Your Child’s Success communities, financial supporters, contributors, SAMHSA, or the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

 

© 2025 Center for Health and Safety Culture at Montana State University