Should you send your surrogate and her family to Disney?

Or buy them a new car as a thank you?

It’s hard to know what’s normal in the world of surrogacy.  You don’t want to come off as cheap or unappreciative. This incredible woman is carrying your child afterall. You’ve probably heard stories of lavish gifts and extravagant vacations from thankful parents, and it makes you feel that you must keep up to show you care. 

Do you have to dig even deeper into your pockets to show you’re grateful?

There’s a lot of pressure and it can make you uncomfortable. So today we’re talking about gifting and surrogacy, and why it’s so problematic.  Find out how to manage expectations and discover thoughtful and meaningful alternatives to grand gestures.

We dive into:

• The emotional and financial pressures of gifting in surrogacy

• Cultural and industry influences raising expectations

• Creative and heartfelt ways to show appreciation without spending a fortune

Episode Breakdown: 

00:00 The truth about extravagant surrogacy gifts: Are they setting unrealistic expectations?

04:03 Surrogacy can make you feel emotionally indebted

08:01 Who’s the blame for this peer pressure to overspend on surrogate gifts?

11:56 How surrogacy agencies have normalized luxurious gift expectations 

16:33 Surrogacy should be more about compassion than financial gain.

19:02 Understanding your surrogate’s “surrogate identity” enhances the surrogacy journey.

23:00 8 ways to show your appreciation to your surrogate without breaking the bank.

Simple Fact: It may feel like gifting your surrogate a car is the best way to show your gratitude. But what if the best gift doesn’t cost anything at all?

If you're feeling the strain of surrogacy gifting expectations, this podcast episode is a must-listen. It’s packed with insights and alternatives that will help you show your appreciation in heartfelt ways without unnecessary financial stress. Listen now to relieve the pressure and make your surrogacy journey more joyful and fulfilling!

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Links mentioned in the episode 

Surrogacy Starter Kit

BloomBridge Surrogacy App