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By Alyssa Small Layne, MD
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The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.
What's the right type of surrogacy relationship?
Are you feeling pressured to have a relationship in surrogacy that isn’t what you really want?
When expectations aren’t met, things can fall apart.
If your relationship and communication styles don’t match your vision, it can lead to anxiety and frustration, potentially causing a breakdown in your surrogacy journey.
But you can prevent this! Learn what works for you and how to find a good match.
Episode Highlights:
07:28 - Discover the three different surrogacy relationship styles
09:09 - If you believe in strong emotional bonds, you’re this type
13:39 - The most misunderstood type of relationship revealed
18:44 - Understand how peer pressure in surrogacy may affect you
21:33 - Unpopular opinion: You don’t need a close relationship
31:22 - Take a quick quiz to find your ideal relationship style
Are you aware of how your preferred relationship style will impact your surrogacy journey? Don’t leave your dreams to chance. Prevent misunderstandings from derailing your plans.
Listen now and create the right relationship for you!
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Surrogate ID quiz
Your First Meeting with a Surrogate: 6 Key Topics You Must Cover to Prevent a Broken Match
Surrogate Vetting Essentials
Are you nervous about independent surrogacy?
Uncertain about managing it all yourself?
Afraid you'll miss a crucial step?
Or maybe you’re wondering if this is a barely legal, out of the box thing that puts you and your baby at serious risk.
You’re not alone in feeling this way because most people don’t know the truth about independent surrogacy.
Plus there’s a whole industry designed to keep it that way
But, as usual, we’re here to share secrets and help you make the rights decisions for you!
In this episode, you'll hear:
06:23 The basics: What is independent surrogacy and why do people choose it?
7:37 Why believing that independent surrogacy is “DIY” could lead to unnecessary stress
12:58 Independent surrogacy is not professional-free. The role of your expert team.
18:04 What skeptics won’t tell you: It’s perfectly legal
21:24 With the right resources and step-by-step guides, it’s easier than you think.
26:54 A surrogacy agency isn’t your only option for finding a surrogate
31:16 The truth about cost savings in independent surrogacy
Unpopular opinion… If you can manage a project, then you can handle independent surrogacy with confidence.
Ready to demystify independent surrogacy and take control of your journey? You’ve got to listen to this episode—get all the insights and tools you need to succeed!
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Step by Step Guide & Checklist
Surrogate Vetting Essentials
The New York State surrogacy agency license
Thinking about breastmilk?
You know breast milk has so many benefits, and you want baby to have it.
But it seems so hard to give breast milk after surrogacy.
A big part of that is having to pump at work. It can be overwhelming, especially if your job isn't supportive.
If you're a surrogate thinking about pumping or an intended mother inducing lactation, these concerns have likely been on your mind. You might even consider not pumping for too long—or not at all.
Thankfully, it just got easier.
Think breastfeeding at work means being stuck in a bathroom stall? Think again! The Pump Act changes everything.
In this episode, you'll learn how the PUMP Act provides essential protections for lactating workers, including surrogates and intended parents. Get ready to feel empowered
00:00 Women face issues pumping at work, discrimination.
06:05 If you tried breastfeeding and stopped early, you’re not alone
07:47 Pumping breast milk is time-consuming.
11:48 Discrimination and harassment around breastfeeding impacts health.
16:13 What you should NEVER accept as a lactation space at work—and how the Pump Act protects you.
19:22 What the Pump Act means for surrogacy and adoption.
23:21 More women likely to breastfeed at work.
24:54 Employers recognize importance of supporting breastfeeding employees.
28:19 Pump Act: supporting all ways of nourishment.
Are you aware of your rights under the PUMP Act, and how they can improve your breastfeeding journey while working?
Don’t miss this episode—it’s packed with essential tips and legal insights that can help you navigate lactation in the workplace effectively.
Listen now and unlock the support you need to help nourish a baby with human milk!
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Links mentioned in the episode
Surprising Secrets Of Inducing Lactation For Surrogacy- Part 1 | Part 2
Center for WorkLife Law - Rights Guide & Legal Helpline
Pregnant @ Work - Learn more about your workplace rights
Need surrogacy baby bonding tips that actually work?
Having a baby through surrogacy can feel like loss on top of loss.
The loss that made you turn to surrogacy
The loss of being able to carry a pregnancy. The loss of little kicks and late night cravings.
And when you think about bonding with your baby, you may be worried about missing those first 9 months.
Thankfully, you can still have a strong beautiful connection with your baby before they even arrive.
In this episode, you'll hear:
04:38 If you struggle to connect, you are not alone
06:08 Even after tragedy, the surrogacy process can be joyful!
09:29 One daily habit that can change your thinking
13:38 8 ways you can bond with your baby
If you’re worried about missing out on bonding experiences, then this podcast episode is your ultimate guide.
You’ve got to listen to this episode—there are so many practical tips and insights that will really help you feel connected to your baby throughout your surrogacy journey.
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Links mentioned in the episode
Surprising Secrets of Inducing Lactation for Surrogacy - with Alyssa Schnell Part 1 & Part 2
--> Worksheet download: The exact tool I give my coaching clients to help vet a surrogate from the first meeting. Surrogate Vetting Essentials
Are you feeling overwhelmed trying to find the right surrogate?
Picking a surrogate is one of the biggest decisions you’ll make.
The wrong choice can mean a broken match, lost time, wasted money and hard feelings
How you screen and vetting a surrogate could be the deciding factor in whether your surrogacy journey is smooth or fraught with challenges.
In this episode, you'll hear:
03:13 Choosing the right surrogate is essential.
06:28 Surrogacy mishaps that could have been avoided by proper vetting.
16:29 How a WTF meeting with a fertility doctor changed everything
26:19 Creating a stellar workflow to filter best candidates.
33:28 Grab our done-for-you worksheet for finding a qualified surrogate.
There are subtle yet powerful methods for choosing the ideal surrogate without overwhelming yourself.
It takes a little pre-planning, and we’ll guide you through. First step is pressing play!
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Links mentioned in the episode
Surrogate Vetting Essentials Worksheet - Ask the right questions, find the right match
#5: Your First Meeting with a Surrogate: 6 Key Topics You Must Cover to Prevent a Broken Match
Safe Surrogacy - 6 tips to avoid scams and pitfalls: Watch the video
What happens when the fertility industry turns a blind eye?
The desire to have a child can be overwhelming, sometimes driving us to overlook potential red flags. But sometimes the people and systems we trust to guide us are the ones that let things slip by.
What happens when this industry, meant to help us build families, seemingly prioritizes profit over safety?
Have you thought about how vulnerable we are in our journey to parenthood? What if those we trust to help us are more interested in making money than ensuring our safety and happiness?
In this episode, we discuss a chilling case of a Dutch sperm donor who fathered over a thousand children. This story is a stark reminder of what can happen when things go unchecked in the world of sperm donation, surrogacy and fertility in general.
**In This Episode, You’ll Hear:**
2:12 The Jonathan Jacob Mayher case—a shocking example of industry negligence.
10:01 The genetic and public health implications of rampant sperm donation.
16:00 Struggles of surrogacy, avoiding pitfalls and solutions.
23:40 If you’re considering using a sperm donation in the US, these guidelines may shock you
32:15 How do you spot red flags in your surrogacy journey and protect yourself?
While most donors and surrogates have good intentions, your children’s future deserves a critical eye!
Tune in to this episode and gain the knowledge you need to protect your dream of becoming a parent.
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Links mentioned in the episode
Safe Surrogacy - 6 insider tips to avoid scams and pitfalls
How long does surrogacy take? If you're feeling overwhelmed by how long it’s taking to have a baby, you're not alone.
Like you, so many others have had their parenthood timelines turned upside down. It’s natural to wonder… and worry that your surrogacy journey might take longer than you want.
The truth is, surrogacy does take a long time. And, if you don’t play your cards right, delays and setbacks can stretch your timeline.
But what if understanding how long surrogacy takes is the key to bringing your baby home quicker?
In this episode of the Surrogacy Made Simple Podcast, we're diving deep into the surrogacy timeline, exploring the key milestones and potential pitfalls that could impact how long surrogacy takes for you.
You'll discover:
- 2:15: How long surrogacy really takes (hint: it's not always as fast as you think)
- 7:30: The crucial steps in the surrogacy process that can make or break your timeline
- 15:20: How to find a surrogate match in 3 months or less (yes, it's possible!)
- 22:45: The hidden time-suckers that can derail your surrogacy journey (and how to avoid them)
- 29:10: Insider tips to speed up your surrogacy timeline and bring your baby home sooner
The simple fact is, you have more control over your timeline than you think.
Take a listen and get ready to understand how long surrogacy could take, and what to do to keep it on track
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Links mentioned in the episode
5 Little Known Secrets to a Quick Match
Surrogacy Step-by-Step Guide (starter kit)
If you're thinking about having your friend carry your baby for free, we get it—it seems like the perfect solution! Imagine bypassing agency fees and jumping into the fast lane to having your baby.
But have you considered all the hidden costs and potential pitfalls?
It sounds great on the surface, but surrogacy, even with a friend, is more complex when you go deeper. There are important things you need to know and think about up front to avoid going down a rabbit hole of unexpected issues.
Think your friend carrying your baby will simplify everything? Here's why you might be wrong:
In this episode, you'll hear:
- [00:54]: Why a friend carrying for free doesn’t mean free surrogacy.
- [01:32]: The real costs involved, even when a friend offers to help for free.
- [11:30]: Why legal steps are non-negotiable even in altruistic surrogacy.
- [14:28]: The qualifications and readiness required for a friend to be a surrogate.
- [15:09]: The physical and emotional demands on your friend.
- [18:57]: How to support and show appreciation to your friend during the journey.
If you’re wondering how to ensure a smooth surrogacy process when your friend offers to carry for you, you found the right episode.
Listen now
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Links mentioned in the episode
Surrogacy Start Kit with Step-by-Step Surrogacy Checklist
The Surrogacy Blueprint - Surrogacy accelerator course
Safe Surrogacy - 6 insider tips to avoid scams and pitfalls (premium training)
Episode 19- From Picture Perfect To The ICU – One Surrogate’s Story
Episode 15- Surrogacy Requirements Decoded: What You Need to Know Now!
Are you considering surrogacy, but wondering how does surrogacy even work?. Asking yourself questions like, "How does a surrogate get pregnant?" or "Can I really become a parent through surrogacy?"
It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed by these uncertainties—they can definitely hold you back from taking the next step.
Thinking about starting the surrogacy process without a full understanding can feel daunting. You might be worried about genetic connections, legal issues, and the overall steps needed to have a baby this way.
In this episode, we break down all the crucial details you need to know about how surrogacy works, addressing your burning questions so you can move forward with confidence and clarity.
Topics Covered:
Surrogacy 101:
1:19 - Introduction to surrogacy: "How does surrogacy work?"
Types of Surrogacy:
5:50 - Traditional Surrogacy vs. Gestational Surrogacy: What’s the difference?
Start-to-Finish Breakdown:
11:11 - Preparation Phase
12:04 - Matching Phase
12:11 - Pregnancy Phase
Common Questions Addressed:
17:20 - “Does a surrogate baby have the surrogate’s DNA?”
20:23 - “Does the surrogate share blood with the baby?”
21:38 - “How does surrogacy work with two males?”
22:26 - “Can a surrogate keep the baby?”
It’s always surprising how straightforward the surrogacy process can be when it's broken down into clear, manageable steps. This episode will help you understand the path to becoming a parent through surrogacy.
Are you ready to clear up the confusion around surrogacy and get the answers you need to move forward?
Don't wait any longer! Tune in and finally start your journey with confidence.
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Links mentioned in the episode
Episode 14: Independent Surrogacy Steps: How to Save $50,000 and Take Control of Your Dream
Surrogacy Start Kit with Step-by-Step Surrogacy Checklist
Have you ever worried about where your money goes when you pay surrogacy fees? If not, you might want to start thinking about it now.
Not to scare you but…
Imagine finding out that the escrow company you trusted with thousands of dollars has been siphoning money away. You’re not just losing finances; you’re losing trust and hope.
This isn't a hypothetical scenario—it's a reality faced by intended parents like you. Right now there are parents with no way of affording surrogacy after losing it all.
You're left questioning if your dreams of becoming a parent are slipping through your fingers.
This is part 2 of our chat with Arielle Mitton, intended mom with a pregnant surrogate—stressed by escrow issues, wondering how her surrogacy went wrong, facing financial strain, and yet, holding onto hope.
In this part of our talk, you'll hear:
Why Arielle believes federal-level legal changes are needed to protect surrogacy funds.
The emotional and physical challenges Arielle faced, and how finding the right surrogate changed everything.
Practical advice for managing surrogate payments without relying on an escrow company.
Bottom line.. effective financial management is crucial in surrogacy to ensure that nothing stands between you and your dream family.
Don't let financial missteps derail your surrogacy plans. Tune in to gain insights, avoid pitfalls, and stay informed.
Click to listen now and arm yourself with the knowledge to navigate your surrogacy journey confidently.
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Links mentioned in the episode
Safe Surrogacy - 6 Insider Tips to Avoid Scams and Pitfalls
Episode 18: Surrogacy Nightmare: Find Out if Your Money is at Risk!
Surrogate Identity Quiz (Arielle’s surrogate DID get Warm Romantic!)
Arielle and Tena’s GoFundMe
LA Times Article - They put aside millions for surrogates. Now the money has vanished, sparking an FBI inquiry
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