A daughter remembers the rodeo comment. Amanda was nine when classmates, teachers, and even other parents struggled to understand why her mom was carrying a baby for someone else. That early clash with stigma sent her searching for answers—how embryos work, why genetics matter, and what safety really looks like—while her family navigated emergency deliveries, NICU visits, and a community learning on the fly.

Years later, the roles flipped. After a lifetime of “easy” pregnancies around her, Amanda faced irregular cycles and a PCOS diagnosis. She takes us inside the real cadence of IUI: dawn ultrasounds, letrozole and menopur, trigger timing, and the quiet choice to keep it private. You’ll feel the weight of a Black Friday clinic visit before hosting Thanksgiving, a Christmas Day beta drawn into the wrong vial, and the constant tug between hope and self-protection. Her second pregnancy arrived spontaneously eleven months postpartum—proof that fertility doesn’t follow neat rules—and it came with ER scares, a toddler at home, and the kind of fatigue most people don’t see.

We compare surrogacy then and now, from four-embryo transfers to today’s standards, and talk about how intended parents can transform the experience by acknowledging the surrogate’s kids. We also dig into what real support looks like when a sibling becomes a surrogate: legal caution, money anxiety, and the emotional work of staying steady in a tough delivery room. Amanda shares grounded advice for families, intended parents, and anyone facing infertility: seek facts, set boundaries, and let your plan fit your life, not the internet’s timeline.

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What if the calm, practical path to a healthy surrogate pregnancy is simpler than you’ve been told? We sit down with maternal health nutritionist and current surrogate Brie Towne, who pairs evidence with empathy to demystify prenatal nutrition, implantation support, and postpartum recovery. No scare tactics, no perfectionism—just strategies that actually fit a full life.

Brie explains why early nutrient stores matter for implantation and first-trimester development, then walks through realistic weight gain targets, how to handle nausea with balanced meals, and a hydration approach that uses thirst and urine color instead of arbitrary quotas. We dig into the most overlooked prenatal nutrient—choline—and how to get it from eggs, fish, and thoughtful supplementation. We also talk through folate, iron, omega-3s, vitamin D, iodine, and antioxidants, clarifying when supplements help and when they’re unnecessary or even counterproductive.

One of the biggest surprises: organic isn’t automatically better. Brie unpacks the small nutritional differences, cost trade-offs, and what pesticide regulation really looks like, freeing you to buy what you’ll actually eat and afford. You’ll leave with simple routines—default breakfasts, snack prep, frozen and canned standbys, and a “40 plants a week” diversity goal—that make eating well easier than chasing trends. For postpartum and pumping, we cover calorie needs, gentle foods for early digestion, and how to protect milk supply without turning meals into math.

Whether you’re an intended parent seeking peace of mind, a first-time surrogate navigating expectations, or a returning carrier looking to fine-tune what works, this conversation equips you with grounded, judgment-free tools. 

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The quiet after a delivery can be louder than labor. We sit with two retired, two-time surrogates who open up about the complicated relief of being “done,” the grief of being told no by doctors, and the surprising ways identity shifts when the calendar no longer revolves around monitoring, meds, and milk shipments. Their stories span identical twins born across the country from their dads during COVID, an emergency C-section at 30 weeks after placenta previa, and the tender joy of seeing intended parents finally hold their babies.

We move beyond the highlight reel to unpack what most guides gloss over: how to handle control when a mosaic transfer, failed cycle, or NICU stay rewrites your plan; why 90 percent of the work happens before the six-week heartbeat; and how patience becomes the most valuable skill a surrogate can learn. You’ll hear how kids, partners, and even nanny families became part of the village, why one surrogate wrote a children’s book to normalize the journey at home, and how LGBTQ family building shaped a daughter’s worldview around chosen family and acceptance.

We also map the industry’s evolution. Pre- and post-COVID journeys look different—contracts, screening, and insurance have changed—and newer models like a la carte journey management are widening access for intended parents while honoring surrogate autonomy. The takeaway is clear: do your homework, don’t chase the first offer, and remember it’s your journey too. Retired surrogates are not done; they’re essential—leading support groups, mentoring, and keeping the heart in a small, growing field.

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Birth can be beautiful, messy, and intensely logistical—especially when you’re carrying for someone else. We sit down with Kristen, a multi-time surrogate and former agency intake coordinator, to trace her path from a pandemic C-section for placenta previa to a confident VBAC with international intended parents racing into the room as the baby crowned. Along the way, she shares what most guides skip: the fourth trimester after surrogacy, the emotional whiplash of shifting contact after delivery, and how hospital routines often ignore surrogacy preferences unless someone speaks up.

Kristen also lifts the curtain on agency intake: why education beats pressure every time, how simple check-ins and care packages change the tone of a journey, and what she learned turning leads into engaged, informed applicants. After a tough year trying to rejoin the industry as staff, she created the Surrogacy Doula program—a virtual service built for surrogates and intended parents that blends monthly support, perinatal nutrition guidance, and real-time messaging with thoughtful mediation when tensions rise. She helps craft surrogacy-savvy birth plans, clarifies roles in the delivery room, and gives IPs practical ways to bond before birth, from shared playlists to mindful rituals that bridge the distance when they didn’t carry the baby themselves.

If you’re weighing VBAC after C-section, navigating domestic vs international IP dynamics, or searching for a surrogacy doula who understands both the paperwork and the heart-work, this conversation is a blueprint. We talk closure language for contracts, setting hospital expectations for immediate skin-to-skin, and how to keep everyone informed without turning the surrogate into the project manager. Listen for grounded, human-tested strategies that make surrogacy safer, kinder, and more connected.

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Want a clear, unvarnished guide to IVF that blends science, empathy, and practical advice? Lisa, an embryologist and lab director in Melbourne with over 15 years in the field, joins us to break down what truly shapes outcomes—from age and egg quality to lab standards, embryo grading, and the rise of AI in fertility care. No mystique, no scare tactics, just what works, what’s changing, and what still can’t be predicted.

We start with a step‑by‑step tour: stimulation, retrieval, fertilization via IVF or ICSI, blastocyst growth, and the decision points around fresh transfers, freezing, and PGT. Lisa explains how PGT prioritizes embryos by chromosome balance, why it can reduce miscarriage risk, and where it still falls short when mosaics appear. If you’ve ever wondered why a 4AA isn’t a guarantee or how a “CC” can still lead to a healthy birth, this conversation reframes grading as probability, not destiny.

Then we zoom out to the system that holds it all together: the lab. Not all IVF labs are equal. Culture media, incubators, quality control, and the experience of embryologists influence embryo viability more than most patients realize. Lisa shares how time‑lapse incubators and AI now analyze thousands of images to support consistent selection, and how robotics is beginning to automate ultra‑delicate procedures like ICSI—promising fewer variables and faster decisions. We also cover lifestyle levers that matter—smoking, alcohol, BMI, sleep, and stress—and why none of them outweigh the impact of age on egg quality.

If you’re deciding between fresh and frozen, weighing PGT, or trying to decode grading, this episode will help you ask smarter questions and make calmer choices. Follow Dr. Lisa Lee on Instagram for more lab‑side insights, and tap follow on our show to get future deep dives into surrogacy and fertility. If this helped you or someone you love, share it, leave a review, and tell us the biggest IVF myth you want gone for good.

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What happens when the transfers are done, the last delivery is behind you, and the identity you wore with pride suddenly shifts? We sit down with a seasoned pair of voices—Grace, a two‑time carrier, and Kiely, a four‑time carrier—to talk candidly about “retirement” from surrogacy, the choice to step back versus being told no by clinics, and the surprising ways purpose expands after the final journey.

The conversation moves from age cutoffs and ACOG guidance on C‑sections to the emotional calculus of ending on your own terms. Grace shares how preparing for her last pregnancy shaped a peaceful exit, while Kiely explains why she wanted the decision to be hers, then channeled that energy into writing, mentoring, and creating Send a Friend, a grassroots program that brings an experienced surrogate to support first‑time postpartum surrogates. Along the way, we reflect on what surrogacy teaches our families: that love builds families in many forms; that children can learn to answer strangers with clarity and pride; and that empathy deepens when you stand next to someone who longs for a child money can’t buy.

We also get practical. Expect frank talk about changing insurance rules, clinic discretion, compensation norms, and how to research without falling into bias. You’ll hear why Facebook groups can be both a lifeline and a minefield, and how to gather perspective that sets realistic expectations for matching, protocols, and postpartum recovery. Most of all, we reframe the label “retired.” You’re not done—you’re a surrogate emerita, carrying wisdom forward through advocacy, education, and community.

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Ever wonder how it really feels to carry someone else’s baby—and make tough medical calls when hopes and bodies collide? We sit down with Jana, a Portland-based psychologist and surrogate, to unpack the real emotional load of surrogacy: induction pressure without clear medical cause, a lightning-fast birth in triage, and the quiet, complicated moments after delivery when your body wants to feed a baby who isn’t coming home with you.

We dive into perinatal mood and anxiety disorders—how anxiety, irritability, sleep changes, and intrusive thoughts can surface even in people with no prior history—and why a specialized clinician makes a difference. Jana explains how vague contract language like “follow doctor’s guidance” can become a fault line when preferences diverge, and she offers grounded strategies for advocacy that keep trust intact. She also breaks down the difference between “medical necessity” and “support necessity,” showing where confidential, nonjudgmental care helps surrogates process guilt, set boundaries, and stay steady through IVF meds, monitoring, and all the waiting.

There’s practical guidance throughout: what symptoms to watch for, how OB screenings work, and how to use agency wellness benefits without fear of stigma. We talk about family dynamics, partner support, and what to ask agencies beyond glossy benefits—like “tell me about a journey that didn’t go well.” Jana's dual lens as psychologist and surrogate gives this conversation rare clarity and compassion, translating hard moments into usable tools you can apply right away.

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What happens when military life meets surrogacy? We welcome back Whitney, a two-time gestational surrogate and Coast Guard spouse, for a candid, practical, and heart-forward conversation about building families while navigating orders, insurance, and constant change. Whitney opens up about the moment a medical retirement notice landed the night before transfer, how she planned around potential moves, and why a supportive command and tight-knit base community made all the difference.

We get real about TriCare and the secondary insurance most surrogates need. Whitney explains the Prime vs. Select trade-offs, how maternity claims can wrongly hit TriCare, and what to do when providers bill the wrong plan. She shares a cautionary tale about DEERS auto-enrollment, escrow closing too early, and a postpartum complication that surfaced months later—plus the fixes a good agency should own. If you’ve ever searched for surrogacy insurance, TriCare and surrogacy, or escrow timeline for surrogacy, this is the clarity you’ve been missing.

Beyond logistics, this is a story about chosen family. Whitney’s neighbors and friends stepped in with meals, childcare, and quiet companionship in hospital waiting rooms, showing how military communities become a lifeline far from home. Her kids formed deep bonds with intended parents, learning that families are built in many ways—and that love, not just DNA, holds them together. We also talk about the HBO docuseries that chronicles her journey alongside global family stories, offering a needed counterweight to loud headlines and tired myths.

If you’re a military spouse weighing surrogacy—or an intended parent trying to understand the terrain—you’ll leave with practical steps: confirm station stability, secure surrogacy-friendly insurance, extend escrow through postpartum, and build a local support web before transfer. Subscribe, share with someone who needs real-world guidance, and leave a review with your biggest question so we can cover it next.

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A calm first journey, a terrifying second, and a life-changing pivot into nursing—Lauren’s story reveals what surrogacy really asks of the body, the mind, and the heart. We welcome Lauren back to share how she chose agencies, navigated a Canada-to-U.S. match during COVID, and moved through a natural-cycle transfer that led to a smooth full-term birth. Then everything changed: a double embryo transfer, surging symptoms, a gut feeling something was wrong, and a hospital visit that exposed early dilation and bulging membranes. When monitors missed contractions, her voice did not. The emergency C-section that followed was chaotic and partially anesthetized, the twins headed straight to the NICU, and the aftermath raised hard questions about support, recognition, and care.

We talk candidly about the parts people don’t see: reduced compensation after a preterm birth, the emotional shock of limited updates from intended parents, and the mental health gap that too many contracts overlook. Lauren’s experience also spotlights bias in healthcare—how Black women are often dismissed, and why listening can be the difference between safety and harm. Out of that crucible, she found purpose. She’s starting nursing school with her eyes set on labor and delivery, determined to make sure no patient under her watch has to perform to be believed.

You’ll learn practical takeaways for surrogates and intended parents: how natural-cycle transfers work, what to include in contracts (postpartum therapy, communication expectations, emergency planning), and why clear, compassionate agency support matters long after delivery. It’s a story of grit, grace, and the power of advocacy—proof that intuition is data and that gratitude should never arrive late.

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What happens when kids grow up watching their parent carry a baby for someone else? We open the door to our homes and hearts to explore how surrogacy shapes children’s understanding of empathy, science, and the many ways families are made. With Sarah—a labor and delivery nurse, twin mom, and second-time surrogate—we trade honest stories about timing the conversation, answering tough questions, and turning complex ideas into clear, age-appropriate truths.

We share how we explained IVF and embryos with simple analogies and real facts, why meeting intended parents early makes the mission feel human, and how transparency helps kids process big feelings during the ups and downs of a journey. From nausea and pump parts to the quiet heroism of persistence, our kids learned that sacrifice can be ordinary and love can be deliberate. We also talk about failed transfers, showing sadness without shame, and the surprising moments that taught our children to comfort, advocate, and step up.

Beyond birth, we highlight the power of continuing relationships—photos, short videos, and first birthdays that replace goodbye with connection. The conversation widens to inclusivity: same-sex parents, single parents by choice, and heterosexual couples, all seeking a path through infertility. Our kids traced the ripple effects—parents becoming grandparents, cousins finding cousins—and saw how surrogacy can expand a family tree in every direction. If you’re wondering when to tell your kids, what to say, or how to keep it grounded, you’ll leave with practical scripts, tools, and the reassurance that children can hold both facts and feeling with grace.

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