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We've all been there—that moment when your child ignores you for the fifth time and something inside you snaps. The volume rises, your body tenses, and later comes the guilt: "Why did I react that way?" In this raw, enlightening conversation, Lurinda interviews Steph about her journey from struggling with parental rage to becoming what Lurinda calls "the habit queen."

Steph reveals how her experience of unexplained anger in early motherhood led her to discover powerful connections between our nervous systems and our children's behaviour. "When I cleaned up my shit, my kids stopped being little jerks all the time," she shares, explaining how the cortisol we release when stressed actually affects those around us—regardless of what calming words we might be using.

The conversation dives deep into why even those with "decent upbringings" carry triggers that emerge in parenthood, and why people often wait until they're completely burnt out before seeking help. Steph outlines practical approaches to identifying personal triggers, expressing emotions healthily rather than suppressing them, and transforming power struggles into playful connections.

Perhaps most powerfully, Steph challenges the common parenting belief that authority comes from making yourself "bigger" through yelling: "I have never once looked at somebody who is screaming their head off and gone 'wow, you really command authority.'" Instead, she offers a vision of parenting where emotional regulation creates genuine respect, and where bringing joy into small daily moments prevents triggering situations altogether.

Want to work directly with Steph on managing parenting triggers and emotional regulation? Her group program and one-on-one coaching spots are available now—follow the links in our bio or message her directly to learn more about transforming your parenting experience.

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