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#46 AWARENESS, SELF-ESTEEM AND BREAKING THE PROJECTION CYCLE
Have you ever been in the middle of a fight with your partner and suddenly realized - this isn't really about them? That feeling when you're upset about something they said or did, but the intensity of your reaction feels... bigger than the situation deserves? When you hear yourself saying things or feeling things that seem to come from somewhere ancient and wounded inside you?
That's your inner child projecting. And here's what most of us don't realize: We're doing this constantly. All of us.
Every time we enter into love- into intimate relationship, into vulnerability, into opening our hearts to another human being - we bring our whole history with us. And I don't just mean the conscious history, the stories we know and tell about ourselves.
I mean the wounds we carry from when we were small and powerless. The times we weren't seen. The moments we weren't held when we needed it most. The love we didn't receive in the way our little hearts needed it. The messages we internalized about whether we were worthy, lovable, enough. All of that lives in us. Waiting.
And then we fall in love. We open our hearts. We let someone in. And suddenly, that wounded inner child wakes up and starts projecting all those old, unhealed traumas onto this person we love.
And here's the painful truth: They're probably doing the same thing to you.
When they snap at you over something small, when they shut down emotionally, when they criticize or withdraw or cling - that's their wounded inner child projecting their unhealed trauma onto you. So we end up in this dance - two wounded children in adult bodies, projecting our past onto each other's present. No wonder relationships are hard.
But it is not all that dark - there are ways around it and it takes awareness. Self-esteem is the foundation and goes hand in hand with awareness. When you genuinely know your own worth and who you are as a being,- not as an intellectual concept but as a lived, embodied truth - you don't need to fall into that rabbithole all the time.
Changing habbits, live THE self-love and self-reflect is some of the keywords in this episode.
Thanks for listening
// ASH
This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.
Have you ever been in the middle of a fight with your partner and suddenly realized - this isn't really about them? That feeling when you're upset about something they said or did, but the intensity of your reaction feels... bigger than the situation deserves? When you hear yourself saying things or feeling things that seem to come from somewhere ancient and wounded inside you?
That's your inner child projecting. And here's what most of us don't realize: We're doing this constantly. All of us.
Every time we enter into love- into intimate relationship, into vulnerability, into opening our hearts to another human being - we bring our whole history with us. And I don't just mean the conscious history, the stories we know and tell about ourselves.
I mean the wounds we carry from when we were small and powerless. The times we weren't seen. The moments we weren't held when we needed it most. The love we didn't receive in the way our little hearts needed it. The messages we internalized about whether we were worthy, lovable, enough. All of that lives in us. Waiting.
And then we fall in love. We open our hearts. We let someone in. And suddenly, that wounded inner child wakes up and starts projecting all those old, unhealed traumas onto this person we love.
And here's the painful truth: They're probably doing the same thing to you.
When they snap at you over something small, when they shut down emotionally, when they criticize or withdraw or cling - that's their wounded inner child projecting their unhealed trauma onto you. So we end up in this dance - two wounded children in adult bodies, projecting our past onto each other's present. No wonder relationships are hard.
But it is not all that dark - there are ways around it and it takes awareness. Self-esteem is the foundation and goes hand in hand with awareness. When you genuinely know your own worth and who you are as a being,- not as an intellectual concept but as a lived, embodied truth - you don't need to fall into that rabbithole all the time.
Changing habbits, live THE self-love and self-reflect is some of the keywords in this episode.
Thanks for listening
// ASH
This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.
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By ASH#46 AWARENESS, SELF-ESTEEM AND BREAKING THE PROJECTION CYCLE
Have you ever been in the middle of a fight with your partner and suddenly realized - this isn't really about them? That feeling when you're upset about something they said or did, but the intensity of your reaction feels... bigger than the situation deserves? When you hear yourself saying things or feeling things that seem to come from somewhere ancient and wounded inside you?
That's your inner child projecting. And here's what most of us don't realize: We're doing this constantly. All of us.
Every time we enter into love- into intimate relationship, into vulnerability, into opening our hearts to another human being - we bring our whole history with us. And I don't just mean the conscious history, the stories we know and tell about ourselves.
I mean the wounds we carry from when we were small and powerless. The times we weren't seen. The moments we weren't held when we needed it most. The love we didn't receive in the way our little hearts needed it. The messages we internalized about whether we were worthy, lovable, enough. All of that lives in us. Waiting.
And then we fall in love. We open our hearts. We let someone in. And suddenly, that wounded inner child wakes up and starts projecting all those old, unhealed traumas onto this person we love.
And here's the painful truth: They're probably doing the same thing to you.
When they snap at you over something small, when they shut down emotionally, when they criticize or withdraw or cling - that's their wounded inner child projecting their unhealed trauma onto you. So we end up in this dance - two wounded children in adult bodies, projecting our past onto each other's present. No wonder relationships are hard.
But it is not all that dark - there are ways around it and it takes awareness. Self-esteem is the foundation and goes hand in hand with awareness. When you genuinely know your own worth and who you are as a being,- not as an intellectual concept but as a lived, embodied truth - you don't need to fall into that rabbithole all the time.
Changing habbits, live THE self-love and self-reflect is some of the keywords in this episode.
Thanks for listening
// ASH
This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.
Have you ever been in the middle of a fight with your partner and suddenly realized - this isn't really about them? That feeling when you're upset about something they said or did, but the intensity of your reaction feels... bigger than the situation deserves? When you hear yourself saying things or feeling things that seem to come from somewhere ancient and wounded inside you?
That's your inner child projecting. And here's what most of us don't realize: We're doing this constantly. All of us.
Every time we enter into love- into intimate relationship, into vulnerability, into opening our hearts to another human being - we bring our whole history with us. And I don't just mean the conscious history, the stories we know and tell about ourselves.
I mean the wounds we carry from when we were small and powerless. The times we weren't seen. The moments we weren't held when we needed it most. The love we didn't receive in the way our little hearts needed it. The messages we internalized about whether we were worthy, lovable, enough. All of that lives in us. Waiting.
And then we fall in love. We open our hearts. We let someone in. And suddenly, that wounded inner child wakes up and starts projecting all those old, unhealed traumas onto this person we love.
And here's the painful truth: They're probably doing the same thing to you.
When they snap at you over something small, when they shut down emotionally, when they criticize or withdraw or cling - that's their wounded inner child projecting their unhealed trauma onto you. So we end up in this dance - two wounded children in adult bodies, projecting our past onto each other's present. No wonder relationships are hard.
But it is not all that dark - there are ways around it and it takes awareness. Self-esteem is the foundation and goes hand in hand with awareness. When you genuinely know your own worth and who you are as a being,- not as an intellectual concept but as a lived, embodied truth - you don't need to fall into that rabbithole all the time.
Changing habbits, live THE self-love and self-reflect is some of the keywords in this episode.
Thanks for listening
// ASH
This podcast is made for inspiration and entertainment only.