Today, I’m excited to talk to you about the word ‘No’. My recent survey on Instagram revealed that a lot of folks in my audience have a hard time saying this small but mighty word. 

In today’s episode I begin by sharing my own experience with the inability to say ‘No’, what it can result in, and the role it plays in the habit of people pleasing. We’ll also look at the need to take care of yourself first, and differentiate between people pleasing and generosity. Mostly, though, together we’ll explore the 5 ways to practice and get comfortable with saying ‘No’ so that you can say ‘Yes’ to yourself, complete with examples from everyday life, and questions to ask yourself which will help immensely. If, like me, you’ve ever found yourself being afraid to say ‘No’, you really owe it to yourself to listen in today so that together we can work toward setting those boundaries that will allow you to take care of yourself and your goals and stop exhausting yourself by saying ‘Yes’ to everyone else.

Remember, too, that if you need help keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/

 

The Finer Details of This Episode:

-   Kelly’s experience with her inability to say ‘No’

-   The results of being unable to say ‘No’

-   People pleasing

-   Taking care of yourself first

-   The difference between people pleasing and generosity

-   5 ways to practice and get comfortable with saying ‘No’ so that you can say ‘Yes’ to yourself

-   Questions to ask yourself

 

Quotes:

“I lived in this constant state of overwhelm, exhaustion, resentment, guilt, and the reason why is because I couldn’t say ‘No’.”

“At a basic level a lot of this comes from people pleasing.”

“This issue can be debilitating.”

“People pleasers basically become subservient to others out of that desire for approval.”

“There’s, like, no magic combination of words that is going to solve that problem.”

“It’s like we’re protecting the other person.”

“You’re going to be able to say ‘No’ in a calm way and with integrity when you know how you want to feel and what you want to believe.”

“I was taught to replace ‘sorry’ with ‘thank you’.”

“Every ‘No’ to someone else becomes a ‘Yes’ for your own goal or goals.”

“We’re just getting super clear and focused on where we should be saying ‘No’ and where we should be saying ‘Yes’.”

“”Practicing saying ‘No’ in small, like, unimportant situations, is super helpful.”

“You’ve got to give yourself the opportunity to assess if this is something that is in alignment with what you want.”

“Man, that brain fights dirty.”

“I know how hard this is, but I also know how powerful it is.” 

 

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