4P Podcast

Fighting fair with your spouse

Take time and find out what your spouse needs. Find out if they need time and space before you discuss and conflict.

Fighting fair with your family. Letting stuff linger, give up your right to be right. We honor people not because they deserve to be honored but because we are honorable.

Fighting fair at work (morals, values, competence, etc.)

Fighting fair with your kids

Controlling your equanimity during pressure situations.

Controlling your mind, body, and spirit during pressure situations.

Understanding what it means to give up your right to be right

Don’t fucking fight at family gatherings or parties, etc.

Proverbs 20:3

Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling

Who in your life has tested your patience the most in regards to fighting fair?

How have you learned to control yourself in situations where you could fight dirty?

1. They want you to hear them and not fix them.

Just listen to your wife, they don’t always need a response or solution. Ask your wife what she wants before the conversation starts. “Honey do you want me to listen or do you want a response.

Please feel free to ask any questions or topics you would like us to discuss.

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“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times.

Good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”

The quote, from a postapocalyptic. novel by the author G. Michael Hopf

A weak man blames others for his own shortcomings.

Strength is not just physical, but also mental and emotional.

A weak man fears challenges, while a qstrong man embraces them.

A weak man gives up easily, but a strong man perseveres.

Weak mean are lead by their flesh. They don’t control their minds.

Romans 12:2 don’t conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the ruining of your mind.

Not disciplined

Inconsistent

Not trust worthy

Not committed

Insecure

Controlling

Amateurs make decisions based on feelings pros make decisions based on commitments.

How to become a strong man

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff (and people) — they don’t worry about the small stuff because it doesn’t affect them. They also don’t sweat the weak people.

2. Problem solvers — obstacles are a part of life, so they figure-out a better way, or they ask for help.

3. Ask for help when needed — if they don’t have the skills or tools they need, they ask for help.

4. Don’t allow their past to dictate their future — they don’t allow their past to affect the trajectory of their life. Therapy may be needed in order to deal with issues that are holding you back from being happy.

5. Forgive themselves — they give themselves permission to not be perfect. The future is the focus and not beating-up themselves for dumb things that happened in the past. Let it go to be free mentally and to use all of your big brain power.

6. Control tempers and emotions — they don’t need to get pissed off. They think things through in order to make better decisions. Emotions don’t control their actions, which is like a super power.

7. Emotionally intelligent and empathetic — they share people’s emotions and are able to relate to others at varied times & situations; therefore, the mentally strong can navigate situations better.

8. BONUS! Not a procrastinator — they don’t kill time by procrastinating. They do it now and don’t wait — they focus on things that matter (job, career, spicy senorita, getting a therapist). Contact us on Instagram @thepaternopodcast email [email protected]. If your interested in joining The Upgraded Human Mastermind please check out our website upgradedhuman.com or on instagram @upgraded_human_mastermind

1. Michael comes from divorced home as a young child, living with mom primarily

2. Kari comes from a divorced home as young adult, living with Dad primarily

3. Kari going through divorce at 32 and the impact on Logan at 4 years old. 4. We also discussed positive things you can do to keep your marriage going strong. Contact us instagram @thepaternopodcast or Email [email protected]. If you’re interested in joining the mastermind check us out upgradedhuman.com or instagram @upgraded_human_mastermind DM us for details.

In today’s episode we covered some questions had for kari about her testimony. Then we talked about God, and life about 25 minutes. Email us [email protected] follow us on instagram @thepaternopodcast. Check out the Mastermind Steve Kuclo and I started @upgraded_human_mastermind and UpgradedHuman.com

In todays episode Kari shares her testimony. She discusses her life from Childhood to present day. She talks about the impact of her parents divorce that it had on her and her siblings. She talks about her 10 year marriage she had with her narcissist husband. She dives into her relationship with God, and our current relationship we have now. Follow us Instagram @thepaternopodcast and follow the mastermind @upgraded_human_mastermind started by Steve Kuclo check out the website upgradedhuman.com and download our app on the apple and android app stores.

In todays episode we dive into Michael’s past. He shares his Testimony from his childhood to present day. He discusses his parents divorce, past relationships, his battle with infidelity,and porn. We talked about Michael building his relationship with God and how turned his life around in the last 3 years with intentionality, accountability, and altering his mindset from a weak man to a strong man. We discussed the kingdom legacy he wants to leave for his 2 boys, and breaking the chains he was cuffed with while growing up.

Navigating life with a Newborn. In this episode we discuss 3 questions with adding our new baby into our life.

How does having a new born shape your life?

How does having a new born add value to our lives?

What are some of the pros and cons to having a new born?

We are leaving and living kingdom legacy for our 2 boys. Follow us on instagram @_paterno @kari.schuetz follow and join the @upgraded_human_mastermind

On this episode we discussed up coming events. We just had our baby. My wife is going to be my cohost. We just spoke about different random topics. Follow us on instagram @_paterno my wife @kari.schuetz. Please follow and check out our mastermind @upgraded_human_mastermind started and owned by @stevekuclo.