The Catastrophe Café

#5 Choosing Your Reality


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What if the reality you're living in is one you've chosen - and can choose differently? 

We all see the world through different lenses shaped by our upbringing, experiences, and values. But we can become aware of these lenses and decide whether they're helping us or holding us back. 


"Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards." - Kierkegaard 


This quote captures something profound. We spend so much time trying to make sense of the past, but the power lies in how we choose to move forward. The question isn't just what happened to us, but how it can shape our future - the opportunity, the learning, the meaning we can create from it. 

In this conversation, we explore: 

  • The shift from "what is happening to me" to "how can this shape my future" 
  • Moving from seeing the glass half empty to half full 
  • Practical ways to train awareness and choose our perspective 

And then... why worry? If there's a solution, act. If there's no solution, accept. Save your energy for what's within your sphere of influence. 

We share our own journeys with perspective shifts—Anita's toward greater trust and equanimity, Fabio's through questioning a lens that was affecting his health. Both of us learned that while we can't control what happens, we can always choose how we respond. 

 

About The Catastrophe Café:** 

Join Anita Aerni and Fabio Duma for honest conversations about the beautiful mess of work, life & everything in between. No polished soundbites - just real dialogue about the challenges we all face and how we make sense of them. 


Music & Editing by George Hurd


Connect with us: 

🌐 www.fabioduma.ch

🌐 www.anitaaerni.org 

 

Season 1 Episodes: 

1. Balance ✓

2. The Art of Slow Living ✓

3. Navigating Change ✓

4. Trust Issues & Tissues ✓

5. Choosing Your Reality ✓

6. Habits: Stability or Stagnation? 

7. Navigating Relationships 

8. In Praise of Curiosity & Courage 

...more
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The Catastrophe CaféBy Dr. Fabio Duma and Anita Aerni