In this episode of Becoming You, Visa dives into the five valuable life lessons that she extracted from the Regency-era Netflix original series, Bridgerton. She breaks down how she uncovered these insights and then applies them to real life scenarios to make them easily digestible.

Disclaimer: If you haven’t watched the show yet and you want to, you may want to skip this episode and come back to it because there are a lot of spoilers!

1. We all have childhood wounds that are unique to us. Childhood wounds can come in many forms and unless we uncover them, acknowledge them, heal them, and give love to our inner child, we’ll keep holding onto them. If you’ve never thought about your inner child, the time is now!
2. Forgiveness is our key to feeling free. When have you felt so angry that you make irrational and harmful decisions, especially for the long-term? If you refuse to forgive someone for the way they’ve hurt you, it’s as though you drank poison and are expecting the other person to die. Nothing good can come from life if we insist on holding onto anger and resentment. It’s okay to let things go and set yourself free.
3. Nobody ever wins from judgement. – Judgement helps us assess where we stand on things. It makes us feel better than or less than but when have we ever felt fantastic from judging ourselves or others? It’s exhausting because it’s a never-ending cycle. If you’re afraid of being judged about something, chances are you’re judging other people too. When you stop judging others, you stop worrying about judgment from others because you realize that it benefits no one. In what areas of your life do you judge yourself and others?
4. Keeping up appearances and maintaining a façade to impress others is exhausting. What kind of life is that? As long as you’re living your life to please others, your happiness and contentment will not be prioritized and you’ll slowly lose yourself in the process.
5. Ultimately, we want to be seen and accepted for who we are… and that starts with us. Don’t wait around for someone else to give you that validation. It’s important that you find it within yourself because only the truest version of yourself can set you free in life. Your imperfections, your realness, your failures, and the parts of yourself that you hide away are the parts that make you so worthy of being loved. 

Visa cherishes vulnerability and shares her moments of weakness on social media. Those posts are often the most popular ones because she’s being her real, authentic self. That’s what people can connect with. People can’t connect to perfection. 

Conclusion: Your truth will set you free! We all have childhood wounds and we all want to be seen and accepted. Acceptance and healing starts from within and so does the release of judgement, perfection, and resentment. Know your truth and forgive yourself because all forgiveness is self-forgiveness.

Keep tuning in to Becoming You to continue learning how to foster a strong, healthy relationship with yourself with actionable tips to implement in your own life so you can feel free and safe to be yourself. 

Which of these five life lessons resonated the most with you? 

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